Hello there

[Eliza123]

Hello everyone,

my name is Jan, my husband of 30 years is in the middle of a crisis, which I did not see the signs of as I was grieving my mother who passed in September after caring for her for the past seven years following a major car accident. We have raised two children on the autism spectrum which has taken most of our time and energy and money.

I have isolated myself over the years and my husband was / is my best friend, we were together 24/7 and have become co-dependent. He needs to grow and he feels he cannot do this with me. My anxiety levels are through the roof and I am struggling to cope, Feeling very scared and lonely.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Eliza,

I’m really sorry about your mother’s passing. I feel grief can be so painful, and elicit so many other emotions in us, especially when you spent the last 7 years taking care of her. She was so fortunate to have a child like you...

It sounds like your husband is going through a lot too. That, combined with everything else is a lot for you to process and manage. You sound exhausted, overwhelmed and, as you said, lonely. It must be hard not being able to lean on your best friend, your husband, as much as normally would...

I know anxiety can be so debilitating. So you might be interested in a thread called self help tips to manage anxiety. It’s easiest just to type the name (verbatim) in the BeyondBlue search bar, if you’re interested...

You’re also most welcome to talk to us here. It might be cathartic to emotionally unload a little here...

Kind and caring thoughts,

Pepper

[Eliza123]

Thank you for your kindness, Pepper.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Eliza,

Thank you so much for you lovely comment 🙂 It’s good to hear from you. Is it okay if I ask how have you been feeling/going since your last post?

Kind and caring thoughts,

Pepper