Been Looking At This Page For Days Scared To Post

[HollowMan84]

Im jay a 32 yr old male with significant health issues that require me to live with family

i feel extremely reticent to say anything as i am afraid of letting people in and getting out at the same time

i dont really know what else to say i guess im lost

[white knight]

Hi HM

Installing a "fortress" is normal for some people. Thats because they are knowledgeable about the badness in some humans or in the vase of family they feel that to be too open is to be vulnerable.

So thete are positives in being withdrawn. But we all need someone even one friend or psych we can trust...to confide in.

Even an internet friend. But just be careful.We are anonymous here so feel free to ask questions on anything.

Its been great therapy for me.

Tony WK

[geoff]

hi Jay, it's a great effort for you to finally have the courage to post your comment, and you're not the only one who is in the same position as you are, a little afraid of what they expect from people who reply back to you, but please there shouldn't be anything to worry about, because it's a friendly site where advice and or suggestions are returned to you, whether you take the advice is only up to yourself.
I am worried that your health issues must be very concerning for you to move back in with your family, but they will notice that you aren't the same person as you were before, and probably a little frightened to raise the topic.
This is quite common until eventually the time comes when they want to sit down and ask you some questions, however the timing may not be appropriate for you, but then we don't know when is the right time to talk to you.
Are you afraid of 'the getting out' rather than 'letting them in', but this can easily be handled by saying 'I don't want to talk any more' and then go to your room, however I'm just wondering whether you have been to your doctor's already, and if not can I suggest this, but I would like for you to come back to us and give us a little more information. Geoff.

[blondguy]

Hello HM

Good on you for having the strength to post! The forums are a safe and non judgemental place where your privacy is paramount and respected. So please feel comfortable if you wish to elaborate on anything you wish.

I was also scared before posting a year ago with my depressive illness. You arent on your own there at all.

Geoff and Tony have great noteworthy advice above for you too 🙂

I hope you can stick around and if you need to have a chat or a vent you are most welcome

my kindest thoughts for you

Paul

[Doolhof]

Hi Jay,

I see some of the guys have already responded to you. As they have mentioned, everything here is anonymous, you will find some very supportive, chatty, welcoming people here.

There are lots of people also who are members of the forum but may rarely or never post a message, that is okay too. We all use this forum how ever it suits us.

Me, I have times when I like to chat! I don't have too many people in my "real life" who have the time to listen, so sharing my happenings here works well for me.

I'm not sure how far you have ventured on this forum, there are lots of different sections for you to check out.

There is a social zone you might look to have a look at with all kinds of topics.

Please feel free to join in where ever you would like to, if just sitting back for a while is more comfortable, that is okay too!

Here's a big smiley welcome to you Jay!

Cheers from Mrs. Dools or Dools/ Doolhof is fine

[HollowMan84]

I've been living with my family my entire life due to health issues from from next struggle to the next but i remind myself theirs always someone worse off

Thankyou for the warm welcomes and advice it means alot

[blondguy]

Hi Hollow

No worries at all. Its really good to have you as part of the Forum family at Beyond Blue

I hope you can stick around 🙂

Paul

[Doolhof]

Hi Jay,

Thought I would drop by and have a "chat". Regarding your comment about knowing there are people out there in worse situations than yourselves, I agree with that, I also feel that all people who are suffering in any way have the right to be heard and acknowledged.

It is admirable you have a sense of believing you are fortunate and others are worse off. About 15 years ago I had a small operation on my back. My recovery took about a year. I used to keep telling myself other people had a much tougher time of life than I did. Sometimes that made me feel better, other times I just felt lousy! That was okay too.

This afternoon I volunteered in an Op shop helping sort out the bags of stuff coming in. I have decided I would like to be creative so collected a few bits and pieces I hope to turn into something else. I have big plans...not sure what the outcome will be. Ha. Ha.

Another thing I enjoy is painting. Some of my art works look like a kid did them, that is okay, I enjoy the process. I occasionally end up with more paint on me than on the canvas. Ha. Ha.

Years ago I worked in child care, I enjoyed planning the arts and crafts for the children to do.

Do you have any hobbies or interests you would like to share with us? If you don't want to share, that is okay. Please don't feel compelled to answer, responding is optional.

Hope you are having an okay kind of a day.

Cheers for now from Dools