Someone made me feel sad and very suicidal

[Rose2021]

Hi, someone on Tuesday at my day program made me very sad and very suicidal because of what they said. That is what they said someone asked me to get off my phone because I shouldn't be using it while it is charging. While I was at my day program. The person is a young male. 

[white knight]

Hi Rose, welcome

I hope you are feeling better.  In our lives, those that are sensitive and emotional, we often have what are called "triggers" and this can happen anytime and anywhere. I'm 67yo and I had one this morning at the doctors surgery so it is something that you will need to learn about so you can cope the best way you can. "Coping" is the right word because in many cases these triggers wont go away and often need professional help in the form of therapy etc.

The first thing you will need to do everytime you are triggered is to evaluate if the person is correct or incorrect in their facts. By doing this it will send you on a path of what action you take. For example- I've often used my phone while charging and if it was not advisable then the phone company would or should have a big sign on the phone telling me not to use it while its charging. So, on that basis I think that young man is wrong. When someone claims something you are unaware of it means a number of possibilities- eg  it could mean he is trying to dominate you to feel powerful. It could mean he is passing on information he believes is correct or it could be that he is the cruel type with motives.  So what is the answer to how you react?

This world is full of people that will hurt you in various ways. The ONLY way you can combat this nasty side of humans is to develop defensive strategies. Yes, that means countering any attacks on you with an equal but not excessive amount. Everyone has their own technique however as a hint you can merely say a few things- "where did you get that information from" or "please mind your own business". Then you might need to ignore him but be civil if he approaches you as he might want to apologise. 

As a general rule if someone is nasty to me I always give them the benefit of the doubt once!. If they remain nasty then I reply sternly. 

So yes he triggered you and he might not have meant to, but the result of how you received his comment is more of a concern and something for you to work on. We all never stop learning.

TonyWK

[SophiaisAwesome12]

I feel really sad and suicidal and I want these thoughts to just go away before I start crying and crying and crying 

[Black_Magic_Dragon_Ball_Z]

hi there, 

I am really sorry to here that you are feeling that way... It is a terrible feeling I know as I have felt the same way quite a few times in the past. It sounds like you are struggling to keep your head above water so to speak.  Don't give up! It may not seem like it but brighter days always follow the darkest nights.  It's just a matter of surviving those dark times when we feel at our lowest and most vulnerable. Getting things out of my head and down on paper helped me greatly in my darkest times. Writing stuff down on paper seems to help you see things that seem really complicated and unsolvable, more real and less overwhelming. If you don't have someone to talk to this can help you sort through the thoughts and things that go around and around in your head, that never let you rest. It may give you a little bit of peace. I want you to know that you are not alone, there are people like myself that care deeply about what others are going through and that are going through struggles that seem unbearable. If I could be a shoulder for you to cry on, I'm here for you. I would love to know more about you and chat further if you like. My thoughts and prayers are with you... Bless you