Inner peace, the glory of being YOU

[white knight]

I first heard about the term "inner peace" from my idol (Maharaji Prem Rawat) in one of his youtube speeches. He said "only you have the key to the door of your inner heart".

And so his millions of followers sought that goal and upon meeting Maharaji, he'd know if they had achieved their goal. Many dont, such is the difficulty and rarity to reach your inner peace.

Moving along, your own goal is for you to establish. Setting such goals is very individualistic...You'll know when you get there.

I can say for myself, it all started in 1982. That year I succeeded in the following areas

- finally and totally shook off the homophobia I grew up with and adopted in my earlier military days.

- extended my love and affection to anyone I felt deserved it regardless of sex, religion, colour ,profession and so on

- protected my inner heart by erecting barriers between me and destructive, nasty, incompatible people

- carry out voluntary work within my fragile capacity

- develop self confidence, grow pride and "do the right thing"

- if unhappy with a partner, be brave and take action

- reduce suicidal thoughts

- prioritise my life which included animal care and rescue

You get the picture.That was 35 years ago. Most of that developed as a work in progress ever since.

What's it like to achieve "inner peace?" The euphoria is there, the confidence that I've gathered is way more than I'd ever had hoped for. Its is a total transformation over that period without any negative effect on my personality in fact it has enhanced it. Note: this change has nothing to do with other peoples views, this is your journey...alone.

This has zero to do with religion although I suspect, some people could travel a similar path via such beliefs.

Are you in need of self discovery? Are you dissatisfied with yourself? Do you seek ultimate calmness, free from anxiety and with much elevated confidence?

If so it matters not how you get there. It matters that you identify there is a need to transform, improve yourself to the standards you set. To be a better human being. That failure to meet the expectations from others is for them to deal with. You are not in this world to meet those for they are not yours.

Reaching your inner heart will achieve other things. You'll smile more often, avoid arguements easier, reach out to loved ones willingly and be more comfortable in your own skin

Thats the best I can describe it. Have you found your inner peace?

Are you...YOU?

Tony WK

[CMF]

Hi Tony,

Another great one. I'm not feeling great so i'll keep it short.

I've changed my profile for 'can't move forward' to 'baby steps'. A positive change but unfortunately at this point in time i am not feeling it.

I havn't found inner peace as yet but am trying. My older kids dad is an arrogant so and so and his actions aggravate me and my little one's dad we have not heard from for 2 months now after he had one of his hissy fits xmas day. he is toxic to me, not being around him does bring some peace to my life and i am more 'me' but i need to start looking at schools so i need to make contact soon.

i pray that one day, i don't know when, I will have inner peace. I feel it is still a long, long, long way away.

Baby Steps

[white knight]

Hi baby steps, yes I'm awsre of your name change...good one.

Inner peace, the place I described is a special place that few find. It is not just peace in your life with lifes struggles...its a way of thinking. Its also includes positivity an essential ingredient.

Having been in a non custodial situation for many years, I found it better to be cordial with the mother of my children but that was all. If its toxic, limit contact but remain fair and reasonable.

begin to shape your life for when your children have grown up. How you want to live and the interests you'd like.

Hope you are ok.

Tony WK

[gld]

Hi,

Inner peace, a place of calm away from compounding things. Is it a switch we could learn to turn on and off when we need it?

I feel i have a long way to go on this discovery. The other week i removed myself from working with a group of people that have shaking my stability inside myself, it totally backfired and have now become the thorn in their side causing all the grief in the group. Never the less after i have done this i do feel a lot more happier. Is this one way to gain inner peace or could i taken another approach to have no ruffled feathers behind. When i did this i did not finger point anyone for my feelings, yet it had this reaction.

Some suggestions to regain inner peace without disturbing others inner peace could help me greatly.

Gen

[white knight]

Hi Gen

A very good question.

Inner peace is, once it is reached, is a state of mind that remains in. However in my experience, you have to revisit it to bring it up to speed again as other factors like of which you have experienced with that group brings you down. Anger, frustration, arguements and so on bring you diwn but you yearn to return to "that peace".

So, that place is so calming you want to get back to it as soon as you can.

Many people dont know what happiness is. They list negatives and say "once they are gone I'll be happy". But imo happiness isnt just the withdrawal of negative things, its the added aspect of the inner peace.

Aas l inferred to "baby steps", fixing all her issues with her childrens dads and all other burdens wont find you inner peace, you have to find it by digging much deeper so much so that its effect will have an input in everything you do.

Inner peace will also include wisdom. Eg you mentioned how you upset your group. This thread vovets duch a situation (google)

Topic: ostracized whose fault is it?- beyondblue

Topic: the "gang" mentality- beyondblue

Topic: prevention is better than cure- beyondblue

They cover the issue of those with mental disorders not being ideal in a group environment.

The environment I've ended up with eg in a town of 200 people, semi isolated,has reduced the number of people contact. Less contact means less conflict.

With groups there are unwritten rules. There is a hierarchy that demand/expect you to conform. Thats why groups are often made up of followers and egotists. Try to blend in as a follower when you have your own mind and desire to speak it will ruffle feathers.

We have a local tree planting group in town. I wont attend. But I'll whipper snip the park or collect rubbish...alone.

Tony WK

[gld]

Hi white knight,

Thanks for your reply it has given me some food for thought.

I feel that my actions has given me some peace [maybe not inner peace] and i am doing a similar thing to yourself with the experience of working to do things to help the group, without being in the group. Not too sure i am the only reason for the factors in the group or if i have the power to mend it. Lately i have felt being a victim is not healthy for your mind or recovery and it is better to take ownership for stuff.

Now i feel that the way to gain inner peace it is more to make change towards creating experiences that give joy, self gratification, setting goals that are achievable and keeping healthy is a good way to find more inner peace. We have to the power to get our own inner peace and need to realise others are not going to find our inner peace for us.

Love to know what the thoughts are on this statement.

Gen

[white knight]

Hi gld,

Those things you mentioned certainly contribute towards inner peace but there has to be more.

Eg. Maharaji asks "have you seen a sunset"? We all answer "of course". But he says, "a sunset lasts for two hours...now, have you seen a sun...set"?

I did this climbed a nearby hill, sat on a rock, no phone, etc, and watched a sun set. It was extraordinary after 90 minutes its beauty transformed into tears of incedible joy. Since then I've listened to his teachings especially "sunset" and "the perfect instrument".

When one returns to society it is like your mind has been cleansed,released from confinement. It is difficult to describe. Religious people would say I've been blessed. I'm not a believer, I'm a realist and I'm practical.

There are many ways to find inner peace. Yes gratitude, confidence, appreciation...wonder of our existence...marvelling at the world with its incredible animal life and so on.

The world might not be at peace, but I'm at peace. My ex wife might hold a lifetime grudge but its her burden, I'm at peace. A policeman can fine me...thats ok, he has a job to do, give me the ticket and I'll be on my way I'm at peace.

Some time ago a thread l wrote

Topic: do we expect a smooth road in life?- beyondblue

I suppose when one has not had a smooth road then one can appreciate the smooth surface once it comes about.

I hope I'm helping

Tony WK