Hello trans22, your post makes me tearful, too.
I am reminded that the first time I was consciously aware of feeling good about myself, was when I had decided upon what name I would choose for myself. I thought of many names, trying them out, saying them, writing them, seeing what a signature would look & feel like, (I could see better then & was still using pen & paper), & immediately liking the one I chose, feeling it IS MY NAME. It felt so right.
I still have a long way to go to feel I like myself or love myself without being critical or judgemental about what I still want to be different about myself. I'm still learning to respect myself as well as insisting that other people in my life respect me, too
Thank you, Trans22, hugzies.
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Hello Whatsinaname
Simply telling someone to love themselves, just like that does seem rather pointless to me, too. If you have no feeling of love for yourself how can you be expected to suddenly just do it?
However, what I think is happening is that they wish so much that you did, so you, & they, would all feel better. People who love you want you to feel that love. they are feeling, maybe, sad, maybe helpless, maybe hurt as well, seeing you so down on yourself. They care, & maybe don't know what else to say.
It seems to me now, that negative feelings & thoughts feed each other, making each negative feeling & thought larger.
Maybe planting & encouraging some positive thoughts & feelings will also have a way of growing, too?
Hugzies, for you, too, Whatsinaname, Samatha, Quirky, Paul, CMF & everyone!
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