Dear New Member~
I'd like to give you a warm welcome here at the Forum, a place where if you search for other people in similar circumstances you may find how they coped (use the spyglass above and try searching for transgender for a start). While most are by the people themselves there are some there from parents too.
It is a great pity your ex could not love his child unconditionally and he must have had quite a negative influence when he was there, as can be seen by your offspring's sense of freedom and confidence now.
Very difficult for you trying to balance both persons, and maybe a relief (tinged with loss and sadness maybe) now he has gone.
As your child is now an adult I'm afraid the time for giving advice, unless asked for, has passed and the best you can do is just love and hope. Even important matters discussed unasked for may have the effect of driving your child further away.
I would suggest you go the the website QLIFE and see the information there and talk to a councilor to find out all you can. They are experts and very helpful, which probably means a long wait on the phone, but worth it.
If you would like to talk some more here please know you will be very welcome
Croix
