Need support or advice please

[RJ86]

• Hi all. I'm really struggling with a lot right now. I'm here in Australia from Ireland. I met my Aussie bf online and he talked me into getting a working holiday visa to come here. So I did and we've been living together almost a year now and everything has just fallen apart. Our plan was for me to get a partner visa but I've struggled to find any work besides pet sitting. Employers who did respond said it was because of the 6 months work limit on the visa. So I was relying on the partner visa to have full working rights. A few weeks ago my bf told me he doesn't want to go the partner visa route because I haven't been able to find work. He started being moody all the time and sometimes barely talking to me and just on his phone or computer. He said he was going to move back home to save so he could come to Ireland in a year or so. But then 2 days ago told me he's going to get a place with his sister once I leave. So I just broke down and told him I was done. That he clearly had no plans to come to Ireland if he wasn't moving home to save etc. I also found out at this time that my granny was in hospital on her death bed. He didn't say much but the next day said he wanted to break up. So he's done. Today my granny died. She never wanted me to come to Australia because she was worried she'd never see me again. I'm just in shock and devastated that I spent the final year of her life here, trying to make a life with someone who has now decided he doesn't want me. I have no friends or family here. I'm all alone. I won't make it home in time for the funeral. All I've been doing is crying. I'm a mess. I've decided to go home in about a week to give me a chance to pack and try sell some things I'd bought to make this apartment feel homely for us. But I don't want to go home, because there is nothing for me there. I live in a small town in Ireland and rarely leave my house because I know too many people. I know I'm going to fall into a deep depression and I'm scared. At least in Australia I'm more confident and less paranoid to go outside and live. I'm feeling a lot of anger towards my ex right now, that he acted like he loved me so much just to discard me now. But we still have to live together until I leave so we're mostly being friendly and I'm just staying in the bedroom to cry. I can't apply for a second year visa because I'm too old so I have no option but to leave the country. I'm just so sad right now and I feel like my life has fallen apart in two days.

[Guest_7403]

Sorry to hear about your granny and the situation you are in.

My ex came from Scotland on a working visa also, she is a resident now and has a new life here in Australia.

She was able to obtain work through agencies on short term contracts, im not sure if you have tried that yet or not.

Alot has happened in a short period, be kind to yourself, you have time and options. Take care