Hi all, I hope you’re all doing well. A few months back, my then partner decided to call me out of the blue and end the relationship. Neither I nor any of the people I had in my life could expect it. From the outside we seemed like the perfect couple, and I felt that was the case too. It turned out she’d been holding in some resentment about something that had happened literal months ago. Between then and the breakup, I’d made multiple deliberate reminders that she could always come to me to work out our problems and that I’d rather talk through something than let it push us apart. Despite my efforts, that’s exactly what ended up happening. It really sucks. It’s been a few months and I haven’t been able to get better or move on, and it’s impacting every part of my daily life, partly, I reckon, because she was connected to every part of my life. She was my everything… until she wasn’t. I’m really struggling with all this, and I’m being absolutely consumed by it all. I personally feel that if we’d been trying to work our way through this all and both felt like we couldn’t do anything, I’d feel better, but I never had the chance to fix it and I didn’t even know this issue was a problem until she’d already pulled the plug. I hate feeling like this and so I’ve tried everything I can do to get past this and get better: sleeping and eating right, exercising, socialising, keeping up hobbies, journaling, etc but I’m still stuck. I’ve never been through this before so I don’t know what to expect or how to get through this. After reading my ramble, what do you have to say? If you’ve bee theough something similar in the past, what do you wish someone had told you then? Much appreciated, thanks in advance for all your insight.
