Part 1

[nick99]

I was married for twelve years to a very abusive woman. She basically made my life a living hell. She was very controlling, used to fly into rages and scream and shout at me for hours. She was very jealous and possessive. I wasn’t allowed to have any friends She was also a hoarder, lots of OCD types of behaviour and generally a real nightmare. At the start of the relationship she was ok but over time she got progressively worse.

I ended up leaving her and moving back to the UK and even then she wouldn’t leave me alone, claiming she was dying of cancer when she wasn’t. What made matters worse is I had a child with her. There were lots of issues with my son. Suspected Asperger’s syndrome. Now I really made a huge effort to help my son. I took him to private doctors for over two years but my ex wife refused to let me get him treatment so his behaviour just escalated. What made matters worse is my son inherited a lot of my ex wife’s abusive behaviours as well. So over time I had two very abusive people making my life a living hell. Twelve years of this made me a complete wreck that I barely survived.

I ended up moving back to Australia because I felt so guilty not seeing my son. I am remarried and have a two-year-old daughter. My current wife did not want my son from the previous marriage in our home because initially we both tried very hard to build a relationship with him and provide him a stable home but he was pretty awful to both of us. He hit my wife and was incredibly abusive to both of us.

[White_Rose]

Dear Nick
First of all I offer you a warm welcome to the forum. It's good that you have come here for some support.
Secondly, when you want to write a post in your thread you need to click on Reply at the bottom of your post and the same if you want to reply to someone who has responded to you.

Making a new thread every time means no one can get the whole story without going through all your threads. That's a long and frustrating process. I have asked the moderators to combine your two posts here. When you want to reply or add more of the story click on the Reply button and post in the box.

I will reply later.

Mary