Hi Joe Joe,
Firstly, I’m so sorry for the late reply. Sometimes we accidentally miss posts, but please don’t think it has anything to do with you...it really doesn’t, it’s just sadly one of those accidental things. Again, I’m so sorry and I hope you’re still reading...
I think to say that you have a lot on your plate is an understatement. You sound understandably exhausted, drained and overwhelmed by your partner’s hot/cold behaviour. I feel for what you’re going through...
Sorry, I think she sounds as though she’s being a little emotionally manipulative with some of her contradictory behaviour. Sorry, I hope that doesn’t upset you...It’s just that I feel some of her behaviour is not very healthy (e.g. she begs and pleads for you to stay at home but then when you do stay, she then calls her friends to complain about you).
I get the feeling that maybe she has some unresolved issues, and perhaps a lot of insecurities and abandonment issues that haven’t been dealt with...I would usually suggest having an open conversation as a starting point but, in this instance, I’m not sure how receptive she would be to something like that....
Can I ask you something before I offer any suggestions, so that they would then align with your plans for the relationship...I’m wondering, do you think that you want to continue this relationship/work on your relationship with her or are you thinking of walking away?
I suppose what I’m wondering is what kind of future you’re envisioning...I hope that’s okay for me to ask...
Thinking of you and understanding you’re under a lot of stress and pressure...
kind thoughts,
Pepper
