Let down

[Meownoodlescat]

Diagnosed ptsd mdd currently waiting on Autism Spectrum disorder assessment with psychiatrist haven't started yet looking forward to help with balancing these things but im feeling like i live in a world that expects you to be able to communicate like everyone else i cant i need time to process i need notice and time to respond and because i do things differently and ppl dont understand they pecieve me as a snob lazy rude and its nothing to do with that social talk is challenging i wish ppl were more understanding and add hypervigilence its like a double edge sword feeling let down ny societies lack of understanding

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

This is a common issue with members here.

Ok, well you have the right to take time to think. So, if you are asked a question or for an opinion you can say

"I'll think on that and let you know".

If they persist then you can reply

"I'm not here to live up to your expectations".

The problem with people with mental illness of any sort is that people cannot see the illness...unlike a broken leg for example. When I broke my leg I had friends ringing me often to see how I was coping. Now, as this is sooo common we really should accept that this is normal and that human reactions cannot include large doses of empathy. That means we have to adapt to them not them adapt to us if we are going to - not get bothered about it.

It also means seeking support from others like this forum where "birds of a feather flock together".

Having a mental illness can be a lonely life so pick your friends carefully and you dont have to have many friends, just good ones.

This might help

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/they-just-wont-understand-why

I hope that helps. Reply anytime

TonyWK

[Meownoodlescat]

Thanks for the advice and it would be nice if Neurotypical ppl understood Neurodivergent ppl as its a disability not mental health lack of ppl in society understanding can be a little deppesing looking forward to finding my tribe.

[GimZim]

I have dyslexia but got also have some ADHD and autism traits, I know how you feel. Ableism is so commonplace and I don't think most neurotypes even have a clue how difficult disabilities are to live with and how most of the difficulty is from a. living in a world not built with us in mind and b. frankly, the expectations of neurotypical people. I'm really lucky to have a lot of great people in my life (now) who understand my limitations but most people don't. I'm sorry it's difficult, just know there's others in the same boat and we're here for you.

[Meownoodlescat]

Thankyou 😊

[Guest_4643]

Hey Meownoodlescat, welcome.

You're not a let down, I'm sorry you have to have an assessment, I hope it goes well for you. If you mean Major Depressive Disorder by MDD, I have that too, aswell as PTSD, so I relate to that side of things. You're not lazy or rude either, but you're right, society is like that unfortunately. Best of luck.