Feeling desperate

[Pip25]

Hi everyone,

I have complex PTSD from a prior domestic violence relationship. I have regular flashbacks, nightmares and panic attacks.

I usually think of work as a safe place for me. But recently, a new colleague has been bullying me and often triggers my stress response: Someone of her behaviours remind me of my abusive ex-partner; she’s very aggressive and intimidating.

I’ve reported everything for months but so far my workplace hasn’t supported me and I don’t feel believed by HR. I’m scared of returning to work but I also need the money.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel hopeless.

[Croix]

Dear Pip25~

Being bullied is a horrible thing to happen, leaving one feeling terrible, powerless and often frightened too. I've read some of your other posts and know even without this extra hassle you have enough on your plate.

Everyone is entitled to be treated properly at work, and for an employer to ensure that happens. Frustratingly for you your employer does not seem to be being helpful, maybe hoping the whole problem will go away.

There is both federal and state legislation about workplace bullying and if one arm of government is not the right one another will be. If you look at:

https://www.humanrights.gov.au/workplace-bullying-violence-harassment-and-bullying-fact-sheet

(copy and paste in your browser) you will find background information plus links to state, territory and federal organizations.

I'd suggest you keep a diary and have a talk to some of the organizations you find there. You may also find our own Help Line on 1300 22 4636 might be able to advise you about the appropriate support in your area.

Do you have to face all this alone? Are there family or friends to support you at least while you are away from the workplace, and is there anyone friendly at work?

Croix

[blondguy]

Hello Pip25

I am sorry that you have been bullied at your place of work. I am ex corporate and HR and there is no excuse for this behavior. This is unacceptable from any employer no matter the degree of bullying you are going through

Croix has helped out above with his wisdom and life experience in his post above....and the valuable copy & paste link he has provided for your reference so you know where you stand

https://www.humanrights.gov.au/workplace-bullying-violence-harassment-and-bullying-fact-sheet

It is your employers responsibility to provide a safe workplace for you to perform your duties as per your job requirements.

The forums are a SAFE and judgement free place for you to post Pip.

I hope you can keep us posted on how you are going at work. Your health is parmount

My kind thoughts

Paul