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When I think about not having close friends or being in a relationship, I feel extremely lonely and depressed. I'm at a loss for what to do.
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18-12-2021
03:56 PM
I've been trying my hardest to get better lately, such as going to the gym regularly, going out with friends more, studying and doing assignments even though I don't want to, but I still feel really depressed and lonely. I have a group of school friends, but we rarely hang out after school, and even when they do, I rarely get invited, though this is getting better. However, I feel it is never enough, never meaningful enough, and will not always make me feel better. Like, we have this other group at school that is exceptionally close, and I really wish I could be a part of it or at least have something similar to it, but I don't. They are constantly visiting each other's homes, exchanging gifts, assisting one another, watching movies, celebrating Christmas and birthdays together, and so on. When I think about it, it makes me feel incredibly lonely and makes me cry because I desperately want to have close friends like that or, at the very least, be in a relationship. I'm stuck; I know I should focus on myself and try to improve, but I can't seem to shake this sad, lonely feeling and wish I could have friends like those or be in a relationship. What should I do?
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18-12-2021
04:05 PM
Hey DetectivePanda,
Welcome back to the Beyond Blue forums,
We're sorry to hear how lonely you've felt recently. We're also sorry to hear you feel as though you don't connect with your friends and that they rarely invite you to hang out. We understand this would feel very isolating. Please know our community is here to listen and offer their support.
If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. We’d also welcome you to reach out to our Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.
We hope that you keep checking back in and let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. We're all here for you.
Welcome back to the Beyond Blue forums,
We're sorry to hear how lonely you've felt recently. We're also sorry to hear you feel as though you don't connect with your friends and that they rarely invite you to hang out. We understand this would feel very isolating. Please know our community is here to listen and offer their support.
If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. We’d also welcome you to reach out to our Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.
We hope that you keep checking back in and let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. We're all here for you.
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18-12-2021
09:19 PM
May I suggest thinking less about having friends and more about being a friend?
What you give and how you relate to others is the essence of friendship/relationship - yes, it comes back to you as well, and that sounds like it's where you want to be.
No need to improve yourself or try harder, just give freely of yourself and see what happens...
What you give and how you relate to others is the essence of friendship/relationship - yes, it comes back to you as well, and that sounds like it's where you want to be.
No need to improve yourself or try harder, just give freely of yourself and see what happens...
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18-12-2021
11:53 PM
Hi DetectivePanda,
Im sorry you are feeling this way I understand it’s hard.
You will meet your close friends…. Sometimes it takes a little time to find your tribe but you will.
I believe you will have everything you want in time, just be patient it will happen 😊
I understand I use to always be longing for something and always wondered when are these things going to happen for me? But I believe life has timing everything comes to you at the right time in life… and it will be worth the wait.
Well done for trying to get better and out and about.
If you feel that your depression is really affecting you please think about having a chat to your gp about the way you are feeling……
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