Unsupportive friends making me feel much worse

[Lillianj]

Has anyone ever been extremely disappointed by lack of support from people they had considered friends?

Realising how selfish my friends are and how unsupported I really am has left me feeling so much worse.

On the odd occasion I work up the courage or energy to put something out there to someone I consider(ed) to have my back I get almost nothing in reply. And a very delayed reply. Like they can't be bothered. And this is someone I normally talk to every day.

In what might be an even more disappointing revelation, a friend that in the past I have gone to great effort to support through trauma (flying out of the country, moving her into my house, organising her various therapy and medical appointments over weeks and months) told me she was there for me and then simply didn't reply again. Meanwhile I believe she is now surrounded by friends and I am here alone in what is the worst period of depression I've ever been through.

Just putting this out there in case anyone can relate or ... anything.

Thanks for reading

[Lost_in_space_]

Hi. I am not qualified to tell you about your friends / friendships but can tell you about mine.
Since young i never made friends easily. Always the odd one out. So as i grew up I learnt that the best friend in the world was me. If i could not rely on myself it is a bit hard for someone else to rely on me.
Letting oneself down is surely normal?Overcoming life's problems a challenge for all.
So once i found myself i had a profile to offer. I sought people with qualities and values which I myself stood for. So over the years built up a handful of solid friends.
I am quite happy alone. To many friends? Yes, i prefer quality over quantity.

So when meeting people look for those that complement your values. See if you can build from there. Best wishes.