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Stagnated
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Hello to all
i write this on the brink of tears and my sorrow welling up in throat. If there were a mirror, I’d look away in disgust. If I were to describe myself, it would be ‘loser’! My inner happiness has been sucked out of me years ago. I walk around as an empty shell with a false smile on my face. That mask I wear to cover up my self hatred and loathing.
I am a good, kind person who rescues others, whilst I drown in self abuse.
Daily mantra is “I am not worthy”.
My friends never text or call unless I do so first. They’re happy enough to want to talk and catch up, but I am not worthy of being one of their priorities. My siblings were brought up as dysfunctional as I.
I continually question the experience of ‘joy’ and most nights anxiety creeps up on me.
Why, why am I such a person no one wants? I am respectful and genuine when meeting and greeting others, yet I have my brink wall up. Afraid of being hurt or rejected. That’s my middle name “rejected”. “Loser” being my first.
I have raised my children and enjoy my Grandchildren. I go to local clubs, bowlos to meet new people. I engage, laugh, smile, talk freely. Yet here I am, no phone calls or texts.
i must be socially inept or simply not cut out to be let lose in society.
How do you make new friend, meet new people, live a normal adjusted life? What is that!
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Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your story with us here.
We are sorry to hear that you don't feel you are worthy and that you question why no one wants you. It sounds like things have been really hard for you recently and we just want to remind you that you are important and we are always here for you. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to our online community and we’re really glad that you have. Please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.
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We also strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).
We hope that you will find some comfort here on the forums. Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.
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Hello Stagnated, and welcome to the site.
The problem of why these friends don't contact you could be that they are facing issues themselves and are unable to show your confidence to engage, laugh, smile, talk freely, because people may have their ongoing problems which they hide from everybody, so I don't think it's anything you have done as they believe the opposite to how you are feeling.
It must be disappointing but do you think they feel frightened to contact you because you display such confidence and the decision they make could be a wrong decision, I understand how you feel and hope I haven't said anything wrong to you.
Geoff.
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Thank you Sophie_M for your reply and kind words. I will consider the information provided.
At present I woke thinking my thoughts would dissipate, but I am a bit down at present.
Currently trying to break free or through that dark (fog, barrier, force field) of depression and self doubt.
Cheers S
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Thank you Geoff for your kind, honest and proactive reply /concern. I Appreciate it.
I honestly haven’t figured out if it’s them or me. I do understand that there are those who secretly fight their own battles.
I too am very afraid of putting a foot wrong should people then avoid me. Perhaps I project more than I realise?
What I fail to comprehend after all these years of trying to better myself, that after social events, I leave thinking that it went well.
That most of the time I am listening and talking basically about them. I am very private, but I do on occasion show my vulnerability.
Then when the goodbyes and let’s catch-up are said and done, no one contacts me.
I try hard not to project my depression or anxiety, (could be fooling myself and no one else on this one!( but I have the biggest ? over my head as to Why people would contact others in my social group, of 5!! but not me?
I am tired, sluggish and every time at my age, I have to fight the age discrimination barrier or it’s a pure dead end for my efforts.
Geoff I just don’t know, however I do understand where you’re coming from, as I too tread with care for fear of offending or scaring off.
Take care
S
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