Sad, depressed, lost mum of 2.

[Coco100]

Hi everyone,

This is my first ever post. Recently became a mum for the second time to beautiful baby girl but nothing seems enjoyable. There is a constant worry, constant sadness and this uncontrollable crying.
I’m finishing off a uni degree at the same time and feel overwhelmed and just constantly sleep deprived.

I shouldn’t be sad, I should appreciate what I have and enjoy it. But I can’t help it, I just want to cry. I just want a friend. I’ve realised I don’t have any friends. I don’t have many people to be honest. I can’t speak to my mum cause I can’t burden her. How do I keep going?
I’m just not getting it, it’s becoming harder day by day to function.

people around the world would die to be as lucky as us in such a beautiful country where we’re safe but I suppose I’m nothing but ungrateful.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Coco100, 

Welcome to the forum, it is lovely to have you join us. Things can become hard sometimes and sometimes it's hard to enjoy things due to sadness and depression. Finishing your degree while being a mum of two children is such an amazing thing to do. When did you have your second baby? Is it possible you are suffering from postpartum depression? We recognise that it can be very difficult to speak to family members and to not have much support around you. Yes we live in a beautiful country, yet you are allowed to feel what you feel and what you feel is valid.

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

You can also find information on support groups is available on the Black Dog Institute site here - https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/resources-support/support-groups/ It might be helpful to join a support group to try and build a social network in your area.​​​ 

You are not alone, the community is here to support and welcome you.
 

[geoff]

Hello Coco, and a warm welcome to the site.

I'm not a doctor and not qualified to say, but is it possible you have been diagnosed with PND, I've actually had this as my wife was suffering from it and know how you are feeling and very sorry you are trying to cope.

Finishing off a uni degree as well as looking after a baby amounts to having no time to yourself, and can I ask you how close are you to finishing this course or whether you can defer for how long you are able to.

My wife had PND with our second child as well and it was difficult for me to look after the baby, because I was running a family business 6 days a week with long hours, so, unfortunately, I developed PND which made our day to day extremely difficult.

Can I also ask if your mum is working and please only answer if you want to, but would love to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[Here2Talk]

Hi Coco100,

Sorry to hear things are difficult for you at the moment. It is a very stressful thing being a new mum (again), and also doing university. I definitely agree with Geoff and Sophie in terms of post natal depression although I am also not a professional.

I know we can't talk face to face, but I would love to be your friend whilst you get through this rough time. So feel free to chat whenever. Do you have a partner you can chat to face to face?