Possible Bipolar partner - Advice please?...

[Angel21]

My partner has been seeing a Psychiatrist as he possibly has Bipolar disorder. Now 40, his moods change from day to day from overwhelmingly happy to angry the next, sometimes several times per day. 3 weeks ago, he just stopped contacting me. He said he just doesn't care anymore about anything and he's realised that he just needs to be alone as any relationship he has seems to always be on his terms which he acknowledged was unfair on me. We were high school sweet-hearts and have only re-kindled our relationship since the beginning of the year (even when we were young he would end our relationship often and I never knew why). The first few months were amazing (with the exception of a mood change here and there) He said he'd never let me get away again and I was his sole mate. He is on medication and has been since December of last year, which I thought was working well (so did he). Then he ran out of his script whilst working away and everything came crashing down (as he didn't realise you shouldn't stop AD suddenly). He is taking them again now but since then his moods have been very low and the depression has slowly been creeping up on him and now he's finding it hard to cope with day to day tasks and seems to not care about our relationship or much else. I asked him to maybe just take some time out for himself and wait until this dark cloud has lifted before he makes any decisions about ending it. In one of this last texts to me last week, he apologised for everything and told me that he has been trying to pull himself together but the more he tries the further he seems to fall and I was perfect for him. He then thanked me for trying my hardest to understand and that he thinks of me every day and what he has missed. He then went on to say "I am so angry at myself you have no idea, I'll always love you". I'm confused and worried about him. I'm the only one who knows about this possible diagnosis and I feel I need to do more to help. I also read that if someone has Bipolar disorder, often there needs to be a mood stabiliser and maybe an anti-psychotic prescribed as well? In the last few weeks I have been educating myself on Bipolar Disorder so I can understand what it is that's going on in his head and how I can help him. I've learned allot about Bipolar but am still unsure of how to go about helping him if he doesn't want me around atm. If he's anything like what he was when we were young, he'll come back but meanwhile I feel helpless. Please help?

[PamelaR]

Hello Angel and Welcome to Beyond Blue forums

My heart goes out to you. Life sounds extremely unsettled for you at the moment. So pleased you’ve made your way to our community of caring, friendly, supportive and non judgmental people. I’m not a health professional though I do have anxiety and depression. We generally offer assistance through our experiences.
You’re not alone Angel, there are many on the forum who either have Bipolar or support someone who does. There will be people who come on to give you their thoughts.

In the meantime, you might like to have a look at the thread - This Bipolar Life. You can find it by doing a search for this title in the BB search field at the top of the page.

Thank you for sharing your story. Keep reaching out, if and when you want to Angel. Maybe pop a post onto This Bipolar Life and let people know about your own thread.


Kind regards
PamelaR

[Angel21]

Thank you Pamela! I have taken your advice and posted on the 'This Bipolar Life' thread, hopefully someone can give me some advice 🙂

[PamelaR]

That's so good to hear Angel. Hope someone reaches out soon to you.

Just noted a thread Diagnosis and Professional Help by Ellu who has Bipolar. You can do a search for it, or locate it under the Treatments, Health Professionals and Therapies forum.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[quirkywords]

Angel21,

I have replied on this bipolar thread as I have only just seen this thread.

Also type bipolar partner into the search box at top of page and you will many threads that may help you.

Quirky

[Jemma89]

Hello, I am finding myself in a very similar situation at the moment - are you able to send the direct link to your post in This Bipolar Life as i'd love to read the responses and am having trouble locating the feed. 🙂

[quirkywords]

Welcome Jemma,

I saw your post in this bipolar life and will reply later.

am not sure how to send a link but I found Angel21s posts on This bipolar life. They start on july 20 2018 .

It is on page 64 of the thread when you have ordered oldest first.

If you have problems fining the old posts just let me know.

Thanks

Quirky