I don’t have the best relationship with either of my parents. My dad is abusive and I no longer talk to him and my mum tends to shut down any of my issues relating to mental health. More recently the fights between my mum and I have become unbearable, and I have been looking to move out. However, in one fight I said I would completely cut ties with her once I moved out. I somewhat agree with what I said and somewhat don’t. But since then, my family has been telling me that I’m just a lazy spoiled brat that should be thankful for all that my mum has done for me. I understand that her financially supporting me is incredible and I will forever be grateful of that, but she also does not support me in regard to my mental health whatsoever. She believes I am faking my mental issues, and that my psychologist is just saying yes to everything I say and not actually helping me. I disagree completely.
Anyway, I am just feeling really alone and stressed because of this. I don’t know if I am using my mental issues as an excuse for behaving badly and that I should be grateful for her and just keep it at that.
I thought my sister would support me when I said I would cut ties, but she said my reasons for doing so are not valid. She said that if my mum didn’t physically abuse me, I should be keeping in contact with her. But I feel as though my mum has only been detrimental to my mental health. She constantly talks about my weight, compares me to other people my age, tells me that I never work as hard as she does, that I just sleep all day and don’t do anything (I work and go to Uni), that I never cook and clean because I am lazy etc. I am so utterly tired of being judged for every single thing that I do, that I am finding it hard to find a reason to keep in contact with her. She has made me so bad about myself and everything that I do, so why would I continue to go out of my way to talk to her.
any advice or notes are greatly appreciated. Thanks guys and my heart goes out to any one else in a similar situation x
