Losing joy for living

[themadchatter]

Hello all, so I'm just going to get straight to the point. Today (11th of March) is my birthday and like most special days I used to be excited about Christmas, Easter and New years eve I am finding myself not wanting to live this day. Like I wouldn't care if the day just skipped and we went straight to Monday. I think why I feel this is most events have been a disappointment to me and now my birthday is just the same. I am not excited about anything in my immediate future or in the long run

[white knight]

Hi,

Life can be boring or full of excitement and everything in between. So I, like many have been from one extreme to the other.

What has been an observation for me is that those with a passion are more content. A passion might even mean your birthday comes and goes and you don't even think about others missing it or you not celebrating it. I found this with my model airplanes- I just was focused on gluing the next piece of balsa together.

Sadly a lot of people don't have a passion and no one can think of one- it has to come from that person. My ex GF and I had a house built that included a hobby room. This room was for both of us, so she felt she didn't lose me nightly in my passion. Her side of the room was larger to cope with a sewing machine cabinet and also her ceramic hobby. Her use of that room was around one month, then it was left alone.

Other factors in not being able to enjoy life are- financial restrictions, an inability to find things to do that stimulate, stresses and maybe your environment. We have a friend down the road that live son a main road. She cant go for walks from her home as the traffic is too busy on a narrow country road, without getting in her car...so she doesn't walk! But she told us if she lived on our street she would as it has access to a bush track.

I have a couple of threads you can read. They might help you find the gap in your life. Use google

Topic: motivation search and rescue it- beyondblue

Topic: 30 minutes can change your life- beyondblue

topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue

Topic: boredom, the closed door to fun- beyondblue

all the best, repost if you like.

Tony WK

[Croix]

Dear Themadchatter~

Welcome here. I think Tony is on the right track in saying one needs a passion or mission in life to get beyond the ordinary in everyday life.

When one was young, or in reduced circumstances, then birthdays and similar had a special magic with presents and being the center of love and attention. As one grows older the gloss does wear off and as one reaches a certain age can become more of a trial than a blessing.

I guess if I look at myself it has been my occupations that have made all the difference. I've been totally immersed in them and work has supplied both enjoyment, interest and feelings of accomplished. Special days have become occasions for me to try to spoil others who are younger, and there is pleasure in that.

So what sort of things in life do latch on to your attention and interest? Unlike me they may not be employment related, but anything from the arts to animals.

What do you think?

Croix