Just needing some support

[StayingPos77]

Hi all,

Feeling very overwhelmed by life at the moment, and just needing to reach out for some support.

To give you some background im a 38 year old male and have struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life.

At the moment feeling particularly sad, stressed and anxious. I have a wife and two young children and facing a lot of challenges. My job is very stressful and the expectations are insurmountable. We are facing financial pressure, and managing the home finances are my responsibility, and finding it very difficult to make ends meet. Also struggling with my relationship with my wife. I feel quite disrespected and not supported much. My wife believes that depression is always solved through medication and says she has no sympathy because im not doing anything to help myself. Unfortunately ive been down the road of antidepressant medication in the past and with absolutely no effect. To seek professional help is financialy out of reach at the moment, hence why im here :-).

Needing to make lots of decisions at the moment, trying to look for a new job, considering what to do about my relationship, trying to reduce my stress levels etc. Not a good time to do it when im teary, sad and the pressure makes my chest hurt.

I just need some understanding and someone to work with me through the issues, rather than feeling alone in the struggle.

I'm not feeling hopeful at the moment, i haven't had plan work out in a very long time.

Oh well, must stay strong and keep trying. For my sake and that of my children, i need to find a happy place in life. A place where i can find myself again. Re-learn to like being me. To be able to sit in a quiet room and not feel the need to have my stressful, sad thoughts drowned out by tv etc. Just feel like staying in bed all day. Hiding from life. Burying my head in the sand.

But as i said, im looking for a new job and trying my best to make changes. Lets hope a plan finally comes together.

Thank you for listening! Any helpful, supporting words would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you beyondblue for being such a wonderful organization! Keep up the awesome work.

Cheers!

[geoff]

hi, well you're certainly not alone here, all of us have our own problems and find comfort by those who understand.
I think not been supported by your wife is probably one of the biggest problems, especially if you are the bread winner.
Can I say that AD have changed a great deal over the years, and the one you were taking obviously had no effect with you, but it may mean that you visit your doctor once again, and if you feel you want to change doctors then the BB phone line could help you or we can then direct you in the right direction by click on 'Get Support' at the top and scroll down to 'find a professional' where you might find one who bulk bills.
How are going with job hunting, but it's really catch-22 here, where you're not feeling well, stressed out and anxious, but your doctor could help with this, so are you able to search for a doctor who won't charge you.
Your situation could be rolled up into a package here, because it's your job, your finance and your relationship, and one starts off the chain reaction affecting the other two.
If you find the right AD then that can make it a bit easier to cope with all the other problems, it makes you think clearer and then to make decisions that need to be made.
I have an inclination that you're not happy with your relationship, and please correct me if I'm wrong, or it maybe because of what else is going on as well, so I hope that you can get back to us so we can continue on with your post. Geoff.

[StayingPos77]

Hi Geoff, thanks so much for your reply. You've hit the nail on head on a number of things. Don't have time to write to much now but will certainly be back to write more. Cheers.

[topsy_]

Hi SP

I was always taught never to make big decisions when I'm really depressed. It's too hard to think clearly while depression speaks to us so negatively.

Geoff is right about new ADs. Newer & better ones are coming out all the time. I hope you'll be able to find a helpful GP & start feeling better soon.

Cheers, Lyn.