Hey all

[Ashley_Thompson]

Hey guys I have a question and it’s playing in my head and playing silly nuggets with me what do I do if my so called best friend has accused me of messing with thier life I’m lost and confused please help

[yours_truly]

Hey Ashley_Thompson,

I'm so sorry that you have had such a negative experience with someone close to you. I would recommend that you talk with her about why she feels this way and view her end of the story. There may be a misunderstanding that has caused her to feel mad or betrayed. 

If that is not the case and your best friend is simply being an awful person, you may choose to cut her out and move on. It can be daunting, especially having to accustom to change and face the truth. It can be painful as it may mean you have to detach from a special friendship and one that you held close to your heart. However, doing what is best for yourself would include cutting off the negativity and the people that mean you no good. At the end of the day, it would do you more good to stay away and develop your life without them, than stay and burn out. 

If it comes down to it, take the braver step and do yourself the service you deserve,

Yours_truly

[snazzypretzel5]

Hi Ashley_Thompson,

It's awful when things like this land out of the blue. As yours_truly has said talking is a good idea. Somewhere neutral and just the two of you. Then you can ask what's going on talk it out. If this person is dear to you and a good friend I would expect that would be something they want to do to clear the air. Ask what they perceive has "been messed". I hope it is a misunderstanding that is easily mended. Often friendships are strengthened by how we negotiate and mend these disagreements.

In the meantime distract yourself and don't overthink yourself into a panic. So easy to do. Do some good self-care. And try not to fret about it.

SnazzyPretzel

[Earth Girl]

I'm sorry that this happened, it's sad and confusing when people tell you things like this, but don't go further to explain why/what happened. I suggest asking her to please explain to you what you did wrong and if she doesn't tell you or just says "You should know what's wrong" I think it might be best to just move on and make new friends as hard as it will be to move on from a best friend, especially if you were friends for a long time.

I hope she explains to you what the problem is and if there is a problem, hopefully it can be solved.