Health Issue

[Guest_43234280]

Hello,

I’m 25 and have sciatic pain in my right leg. It limits my ability to do long walks, drive, do stairs and engage in my relationships. I feel so depleted and ashamed of it most of the time. I get upset that I’m only 25 and living with this. It’s been since January this year and got progressively worse. I was okay at first but the amount of anxiety, fear and crying has increased a lot. I wonder if anyone has also experienced something like this. I feel very alone and feel I need to hide my condition best I can. But the pain is really unbearable some days. I love doing nice things for people to but feel I need to ask people for help instead. I feel pretty worthless

[Croix]

Dear New Member~

I'd like to give you a warm welcome here to the forum and try to remind you that your worth is not your body, it is your personality and character - things in the mind and consequent behavior -things like kindness and determination.

I have similar limitations to you due to a spinal condition and the pain and limitations do get me down, in fact I have intermittent bouts of depression (comes from other causes) which these make worse. I receive clinical assistance and this helps a lot. May I suggest you seek clinical help and support?

Traveling anywhere can end up an exercise in logistics - is the disabled park far away, are there stairs, is there a disabled toilet etc etc. I invariable find if I ring up first people go out of their way to make things possible for me , there is a lot of kindness around.

Having to rely upon help from others, family, friends and even strangers gets to simply be a fact that life has handed you. What goes around comes around and I'm sure in your life you will found opportunities to help others, even though not in the same ways. 

You mentioned relationships,  if you  are talking about love and affection - a partnership - then it is you, not the body that will attract another. If you are talking about intimacy I have found cooperation will find ways and means.

I remarried with severe mental health issues, limited mobility, grumpiness from pain and no job. We have been together very many years and are still very happy with each other.

You know you will always be welcome here

Croix

[LJ_]

Hey mate 🙂

I also experienced sciatic pain badly for a few years. I can tell by the way you write that you are a kind hearted person who deserves to be pain free. For me, I got corticosteroid shots for a while and eventually it became manageable 🙂 Have you seeded any medical attention or seeked any advice or explored your options? new technology is amazing and it's something we need to use if it is available. By hiding your condition, it may relief the feeling of being a burden, but in the long run it won't help you get back to being your old self. Sometimes you do need to put yourself first because at the end of the day, nothing happens without change. Feel free to reach out for a chat 🙂 - LJ