Hard times

[WhiteThunder]

Hey first time doing this online. I have seen a professional in the past though.

so I just wanted to share my story and see if anyone else thinks they know what Steps I should Take.

so I’m 26 and have had my first Child a little over a year ago. before having Him I suffered from depression going through a rough break up and had a tough time finding myself.

i’m super happy to become a dad but the stress and being secluded from seeing my friends and sometimes family caused me to slowly fall into a depression and bad habits of drinking And smoking.

after issues in my relationship . my partner gave me an ultimatum and said that I need to seek help and try to get out of my depression as she couldn’t be around it any more.

I tried making small adjustments but didn’t seek help thinking that I could slowly get out of depression but I still didn’t feel like myself and still feel alone and anxious and still drink and smoke when I told my partner I would quit smoking.

it has now come to a point where my partner has given me one last chance and told me to get help or I will lose our small family.

Long story short. here I am

[wannabe_alpha]

Hello,

So are you seperated right now from your GF/WIFE and kid?

I can understand that this is a very tough time for you and I can sympathise with you.

However do not let others decide, not ever your partner about your happiness.

Just think what you would have done had all this not happened to you, and try to do the same.

Moreover, it may sound a little harsh, but smoking/drinking to avoid depression is a sign of weakness, and try to stop it. I would recommend you to join a rehab, or try to indulge in your hobbies more.

I am 26 too, but never married, and had faced depression and was about to suicide in my 12 grade, due to a lot of reasons. However, I am from another cntry, and due to my culture or bckground, i never developed any addictive habits like drugs or drinks. Although I watch porn, and tried to curb this too as i was guilty abt it, but as per most scientists, my habit is under normal levels.

Other than that, you need to reconsider if you should continue your relationship.

YOU NEED TO BE STRONG. I am sure you will overcome your addictions and other problems