Body image issues - would like some advance

[Nope]

Hi,

I've been depressed about the size of my breasts for 6 years now. I've seen psychologists and they do not seem to be able to help or understand. I've seen the GP and told my mum and other close family and friends and they too do not understand. they tell me the same thing "that it doesn't matter your breast size" but they all have large breast sizes so they don't see what i see nor will they ever understand because they don't have a flat chest.

surgery; I've done a lot of research in and have seen a professional...it's very expensive and a lot can go wrong, plus I will have to fork out 10k every 10 years or so to get them changed...so it's not ideal or worth the 50-70K that it will cost me over my life time.

I am at the end of my ropes really, all i do now is cry and lock myself up in my room - to be left alone.

has anyone ever experienced something similar or have advice to help overcome my depression?

[RoseToez]

Back when I was a size 8 my cup size was an A. I loved how my body was but I would've loved breast implants. I was in your shoes with not bothering because of the price tag. I think your thinking your life would be perfect if you had these breast implants because it would be satisfying to your own eyes to see them every day. Honestly I love boobs in general, not a lesbian lol but just think they're great. I'm sorry that you feel so down about this.. why does it get you so down? Is it because you'd love to wear certain tops? Is there a jealousy issue?

[Nope]

There are many reasons for why i feel this way.

1. I feel that i've been cheated. Everyone in my family have larger breast sizes even before they had kids. and then there is me with 8A size boobs.

2. I feel that I would look better if they were larger, only by one cup size (Bcup). That that would sure my body frame a lot better. This is the may reason.

3. And yes I believe I could wear certain tops/clothing that would suit a larger chest size. As small as mine are there are some tops I want to wear but I need a chest to fill them out.

4. also there is very little to nothing to choose from when going to bra shops. Bras n things have about 4 or 5 choices which I do not like the cut.

5. and yes I would think there is also a jealousy issue, I just wish I was average.

Thank you for replying to me 🙂

[monkey_magic]

Hi Nope,

I think I understand how u r feeling. When I was younger mine where tiny I did fill out though, maybe this will happen to you? I used to wear water, cream or padded bras to make them look bigger. I know it's not giving u real larger breasts but u can fool ppl while you're wearing clothes, I did. I still do. My bras r always padded.

[Nope]

Hi Monkey Magic,

I am not trying to fool people, it's more for myself.
I have tried wearing padded bras, but after moving around in them they slide and look silly...they don't work for me, i don't feel much different.

And also there isn't anything to choose from in my size; wearing a bra that's one size larger looks ridiculous in my eyes and uncomfortable because there is all this space that I would have in the cup. I've tried and I've ended up crying because I'll never be bigger.

[Rubix]

Hi Nope,

Its perhaps a bit unusual responding on this topic as a male, but body issues are body issues. Most of us have them to varying degrees.

Obviously I can’t speak from experience, but it seems like the fashion and beauty industry places a lot of pressure on women in general to meet a particular shape. The various forms of media brainwash is from an early age. It’s much harder now with all the social media and ‘Instragram influencers’ (people seeking attention to cover a deficit in their lives).

A few things to consider. It’s unlikely to be 50-70k as you might find that once off fills the void in your life short term, enabling you to get on with others parts of your life that then brings you happiness. At the ‘10yr mark’ you might find everything else is so good that you don’t care for them any more.

Are you thinking of doing it for yourself or partly for the attention it brings? The latter might just bring you the sort of attention that leads to worse heartbreak (treated as an object). This is the sort of comment probably means less when you’re younger - most people enjoy positive attention.

Looking long term, you may well come to appreciate who you are and how your current body transforms as you age.

Surgery brings with it risks. If you choose to go down such a path ensure you’ve talked it through with both a counsellor of sorts and then a respected medical professional.