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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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mishka2014 DSP and work
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Hi Everyone. This is my first time posting. I have been on a Disability Support Pension (DSP) for the past 7 years due to suffering from anxiety and depression which was preventing me from keeping a job and doing many hours. The DSP was an absolute b... View more

Hi Everyone. This is my first time posting. I have been on a Disability Support Pension (DSP) for the past 7 years due to suffering from anxiety and depression which was preventing me from keeping a job and doing many hours. The DSP was an absolute blessing as I was in a really bad mental state, but ofcourse it was very hard to obtain. Last year I got reviewed which was very stressful and damaging to my mental state, but my application was accepted to stay on DSP. Recently I have been offered work (up to 10hrs a week) my psych thinks it will help my self esteem, but I am worried if I start working again even though it is only a small amount of hours, that I will be reviewed and taken off DSP which I don't feel ready to do. Any advice or personal experience would be appreciated.

AbsoluteAe Vent from struggle
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Hello, Struggling with depression and social anxiety for 20+ years to varying degrees. Seeing a psych and trying my best for the most part. On holiday vefore starting a new job and staying with family. Had a quick hello with some new people and one g... View more

Hello, Struggling with depression and social anxiety for 20+ years to varying degrees. Seeing a psych and trying my best for the most part. On holiday vefore starting a new job and staying with family. Had a quick hello with some new people and one gave everyone a hug as she was leaving as "shes a hugger" and I felt a mental dam burst, I felt/feel so ashamed, normally that wouldnt bother/effect me but it was a short and it takes me awhile (weeks) to warm up to people, I'm not particularly shy but I can be quiet when I have nothing to say. Just woefully sad that all I could manage was a hello, that a hug was wasted. On the train back I had to cover my face from my early teens niece and nephew as I was crying and trying to jeep it together. I think my oldest niece picked up on it and switched seats to rest her head on me and all I could do was hold it in like supressing a grenade. Just one of those days where its easier to be alone rather than hurt people. Most days talking to people feels like we're a million miles apart, disconnected or forced conversations, unnatural to fill time but can never grow. Venting to release some pressure. Would go for a walk but in a bad neighborhood. Regards.

TTTJJJ Do ‘Wellness” retreats help?
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Hi there, im not sure if I’m stressed, depressed or something else but i am having a tough time coping at present and had a complete meltdown yesterday. Doc says medication wont help, and referred me to a psychologist. Honestly i think i would be bet... View more

Hi there, im not sure if I’m stressed, depressed or something else but i am having a tough time coping at present and had a complete meltdown yesterday. Doc says medication wont help, and referred me to a psychologist. Honestly i think i would be better talking to the staff at the supermarket checkout for all the help she was - 2 sessions, had a chat, showed me an app for ‘minfulness’ - i really don’t think that she was of any use at all. The mindfulness is a good start, but now i have the app what do i need a psych for? my partner is at a loss to help me either, and wants to send me away to a ‘wellness’ retreat next week. I appreciate that these things cost a lot of money and not everyone is able to afford that so i feel lucky that i can have such an opportunity, but i am questioning whether i will get any benefit. Maybe I’m better off taking a week off work and booking as many massage and yoga classes as i can locally instead. does anyone have any experience with these type of retreats? Can they help when you are at the point of full meltdown, or are they just for busy people who need an excuse for a few days off? What if i have another meltdown while i’m Away, then i wont have my partner there to hug me, and I don’t think they offer that level of care at these wellness retreats. any opinions or personal feedback is much appreciated

BeKindRewind4Life Disabilty, Depression and DES: My Experience
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I have decided to write this post as a guide for anyone applying for disability under the terms of mental illness. A number of years ago now 11 to be precise, I was offered the opportunity to apply for disability. I had left a full time job to be wit... View more

I have decided to write this post as a guide for anyone applying for disability under the terms of mental illness. A number of years ago now 11 to be precise, I was offered the opportunity to apply for disability. I had left a full time job to be with my family who were moving state, I couldn't change this.I had always suffered from episodes of depression and anxiety, but had coped enough to pursue qualifications and a few jobs. Because I needed the support of my family to cope, I left my job, and intended to find another, but that sadly did not eventuate. This put me on a collision course with government policy. Within months of leaving work and trying to find another job, I found myself in one Work for the Dole program after another, I suffer from fatigue due to depression and severe sleep apnea. Because the WFD programs didn't cater to my illnesses, I was picking up trash by the roadside, travelling kilometres on foot to be degraded and treated like bludging garbage and made to feel as if I was being exploited, which even though possibly not the intention was the end result, throwing me into deep depression, and even thoughts of suicide. I have no doubt other people feel the same with the current way of treating the unemployed. I wanted work, I couldn't get it, and within three WFD programs I was suffering severe anxiety to go along with my chronic depression, and extreme fatigue, from all that goes along with WFD, threats of non-compliance, treatment as if you are worthless and looked down upon, being put into programs that don't give skills or training to improve chances of getting back into the workforce, or worse aggravate illnesses such as high levels of fatigue that I personally would avoid when going after jobs, given my severe sleep apnea. I so desperately wanted work, and my mental health was crashing, eventually, I was assessed as being "Unfit to work"... and at this stage, I truly was, the system had done more to take away my confidence and aggravate mental health issues than working ever could, I had gone from holding it together to maintain work and be part of the world to being unable to be part of anything. The tunnel with that glimmer of hope at the end, the one that said, you'll find work again, there is a way out of this hell, seemed longer and longer. I was in the deepest depression I have ever been in, and the lifeline that was the DSP, turned out to be the rope that would bind me, and drag me to the deepest depths of despair.

MitchLT Can't see the future anymore
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Hello There! I have tried a lot of things without success so I thought I would call out for help on this site. Have been with same partner for many years and we have lived in hope of having a family however we are unable due to medical problems (my s... View more

Hello There! I have tried a lot of things without success so I thought I would call out for help on this site. Have been with same partner for many years and we have lived in hope of having a family however we are unable due to medical problems (my side). We are both in our 40's now and my partner has tried to comfort me by saying that she doesn't feel she could cope with having a family now anyway. This 'hope' kept me going for over 20 years and now I am trying to accept that it is not to be. Also I am struggling financially - I had a small business that we had to close last year - a business that I had put a lot of 'hope' in for the future. I have reached a point in my life where I cannot think of anything to get up for in the morning. I have a steady job which is just a 'job' and it just pays the bills but every day is a worry. I seemed to have lost all sense of purpose and direction in my life. I have started drinking heavily and am also on depression medication. I often wish there was a quick way out of this life without hurting anyone else. Sorry to ramble on but I just don't know where to turn anymore. Has anyone ever felt like this and got past it? I've tried all sorts of motivational recordings and videos. I've tried goal-setting. I can't think off anything I would like to be, do or have anymore..............

Ibby Am I depressed?
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Hi, New here. How do you know if you suffer from depression? I've done the Beyond Blue questionnaires etc which say 'yes, you are' but I'm scared about going down a path I maybe can't back out of (eg medication, counselling etc) I have felt for a whi... View more

Hi, New here. How do you know if you suffer from depression? I've done the Beyond Blue questionnaires etc which say 'yes, you are' but I'm scared about going down a path I maybe can't back out of (eg medication, counselling etc) I have felt for a while that I may suffer from depression and/or anxiety. It seems to come and go, especially the depression (very 'event based' if something goes wrong) - this usually manifests as feeling physically ill in the stomach, castrophising things, becoming very tired and irritable etc. But sometimes I feel perfectly fine. All in all, I have been not sleeping well recently, have been irritable at my partner, eating poorly, and have zero sex drive - so I feel like something is wrong. I just don't know if a doctor will be able to help, or if I'm wasting their time. Anxiety-wise as well, I'm panicking about talking to a doctor because I don't know what to say, or if it will help, or if I'll end up being medicated forever and feel like I'm not 'me'. Does anyone else go through this? And/or have any tips?

Random_burglar Feel depressed for no reason. Pls help :)
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Hi. I’m feeling depressed for no reason. I am great at academic, lots of friends , pretty positive everyday and really love everything. Recently, I felt sad, depressed and tired for no reason. I don’t feel like eating one day or I eat a lot the other... View more

Hi. I’m feeling depressed for no reason. I am great at academic, lots of friends , pretty positive everyday and really love everything. Recently, I felt sad, depressed and tired for no reason. I don’t feel like eating one day or I eat a lot the other day. I’m just a little confused on what I should do next because I don’t know when this will end or whatever. I really feel like I’m not the original me. I love my family but recently I feel disconnected with them. I don’t feel like talking to them anymore and become more harder to concentrate on normal days. Please give some help thanks.

didee3664 My life doesn't matter anymore to me
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I have depression and for a while I managed, but over the last three months everything has come crashing down, I have three daughters, two of which have children and I have no relationship with any of them, I am made to feel guilty because of my depr... View more

I have depression and for a while I managed, but over the last three months everything has come crashing down, I have three daughters, two of which have children and I have no relationship with any of them, I am made to feel guilty because of my depression and what I put them through when they were younger, they tolerate me, I have no bond with any of them and this hurts so much, I have a husband who loves me and my family is there for support, but lately even that doesn't help, I used enjoying crocheting, but even that is now too much of an effort to do, I have no joy or happiness, and life is like one hurdle I struggle to get over. I often thinks whats the point, I am so over everything and everyone, I don't sleep all that often because my brain won't stop, I don't enjoy life. I go through the motions and that's about it, I pretend everything is okay, yet deep down inside I ache and hurt, there are times when I just to give up and hide in the corner and have no-one around me, there are time when I want to be left alone. I have been through this before, but this time it hurts more.

mpatt My breakup has made me feel worthless
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I've been diagnosed with depression for the second time in 5 years, I've been feeling like this a long time before I was prescribed antidepressants again. I was afraid to go through this all again because it brings back memories of how bad I was 5 ye... View more

I've been diagnosed with depression for the second time in 5 years, I've been feeling like this a long time before I was prescribed antidepressants again. I was afraid to go through this all again because it brings back memories of how bad I was 5 years ago. Every day I think of how bad of a place I was in back then. I didn't want to say anything because I wanted to be strong in my relationship with my girlfriend as she had her own battles to deal with. My memory has been so bad that I forget things, which then eventually lead to her not trusting me. I would misread text messages from her and would reply incorrectly ( I have the auditory processing disorder, which I think she forgot I had), my responses and use of incorrect words would always work against me. My depression has been really bad in the past 3 weeks and only 2 weeks ago she broke up with me, I've never cried so much in my life. Every night for 2 weeks, I wrote her letters to try and get her back. I would stay up all night thinking of what to write. What hurt the most is that she would say " I'm scared, you're mentally not well" please leave me to alone, you're scaring me. Her hurtful words have scared me. She thinks I'm, not the person she fall in love with, I haven't slept more than 4 hours in over 3 weeks . I've put on a brave face for months during our relationship, but I've really been hurting so much. When I told her how bad of a place I was in after she broke up with me, she said you looked fine the other day. yeah, because I'm putting on a brave face and smiling. I wasn't sighing because I wanted to take a deep breath, I was sighing because I was struggling so much. Breaking up through a text has hurt me so much, every time I look at my phone I remember reading the text. Knowing she has already moved on and I'm here lonely battling with myself, I feel worthless. To have someone leave you while you're in a dark place mentally doesn't help, and to lose the love of your life makes it so much harder.

JollyDown Physician Heal Thyself - well that didn’t work!
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Hi there. I’ve just found out I have Bipolar Disorder. I received my diagnosis 2 weeks ago - a birthday present for my 50-something birthday. Yay. I’ve been on (often self-prescribed) anti-depressants intermittently for many years. However since the ... View more

Hi there. I’ve just found out I have Bipolar Disorder. I received my diagnosis 2 weeks ago - a birthday present for my 50-something birthday. Yay. I’ve been on (often self-prescribed) anti-depressants intermittently for many years. However since the death of my mother 3 years ago I have struggled with grief, depression, and increasing irritability and mood swings particularly over the last 6-12 months. As a self employed medical practitioner and surgeon (and main income earner for my family) I’ve had to keep going despite physical or mental illness ever since my internship. I had to go back to work the day after my mum’s funeral. There is no one there to see or operate on our patients if we have to go home sick. So we push through. And self-treat in order to keep secret our mental health issues. Why have I finally been properly diagnosed? Because a close friend and colleague of mine picked up the warning signs of hypomania/bipolar and staged an intervention with the help of my sister, who is a very experienced mental health nurse. I had to promise to see a psychiatrist and stop prescribing for myself. So here I am. Bipolar. Stunned. Disappointed. Even a bit devastated at the diagnosis. My psychiatrist is lovely, but the immediate reduction of my antidepressant dose was torture. I refused a second medication at the start as I can’t afford to have a tremor (as a surgeon!!!). So I was commenced on an anticonvulsant and an antipsychotic medication. After 2 weeks of awful depression I was then happy to take anything to ease my anguish so agreed to add the second medication I'd previously refused to the mix. Yesterday I gave in to the multiple meds and filled a dosette. Yay. Have gone from taking one tablet a day to about 9 a day. Suspect I have gained a couple kgs already despite significant amounts of exercise and a healthy diet - double yay. But there is no choice, keep on going I must. Hide my diagnosis I must - now more than ever. It was just becoming acceptable in the medical profession to have reactive depression but Bipolar - no way!! Who wants to be seen by a crazy doctor? Who wants to be in business with or work alongside a Bipolar doctor? Who won’t scrutinise the Bipolar doctor constantly - watching out for signs of mania or depression? Hopefully I will improve rapidly on my meds so I can cope with the extra demands of emergency call-backs, writing and giving talks and completing difficult medical reports. Thanks for letting me whinge on line.