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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Albert_247 So upsetting...
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My life has been pretty rough, I mean I was bullied all during high school from 13 to 18, I didn't like my father's difference entirely, my diagnosis mis conception happened at 19 and I've been kept on meds for the last 9 years. I'm beneath this imag... View more

My life has been pretty rough, I mean I was bullied all during high school from 13 to 18, I didn't like my father's difference entirely, my diagnosis mis conception happened at 19 and I've been kept on meds for the last 9 years. I'm beneath this image of having a disability when I don't agree with my diagnosis, It's too unique and unbelievable to explain to anyone so I'm treated as indenyl or lacking insight. The health issues were 22 & 25, Then I had no driving independence till 26 because I didn't have any parents to learn with, plus hated all my driving teachers. I only could drive through having Centrelink, I never could advance my life without having any sense for which suitable jobs I would want to work, I never had vacancies with so much immigration and competition with society and with fresh high school kids wanting jobs too. I never wanted to be a apprentice or go to University, even with a interest in Nutrition I'm just not the study personality. I only had help to write the resume & cover letters after going through useless job recruiters but they are not much guarantee to get anyone payed employment. I never had a new group of mateship after leaving high school and I've had no experience with girls as friends or even socially or on a intimate level. I'm complete incel unfortunately with me, but I wouldn't feel like un able to speak to them, unless their really attractive. I had a dream to become a hobbyist musician, though I just had all that with high school, my dad and my mental health drama to deal with, while not having women, work, and a regular life it all ruined my confidence to do it since 14. Don't feel like my parents are on that journey or understanding to chase dreams, they played life more passive and safe and their a whole different personality to me. Now I feel like I'm failing at life or like a ugly man child and everything always felt out of my control, or that thing's couldn't be better given the circumstance.

struggling_infj I feel like I don’t matter.
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I have not been feeling great lately. I have always struggled with thoughts of never being good enough. But it’s been very rough lately and I’m struggling to get through it and I don’t have anyone who truly understands where I am coming from. soon my... View more

I have not been feeling great lately. I have always struggled with thoughts of never being good enough. But it’s been very rough lately and I’m struggling to get through it and I don’t have anyone who truly understands where I am coming from. soon my sister will be having a baby. Which is great and I’m exited to meet them and play with them. But as you can imagine that’s all we talk about. And nothing else is really talked about with the family around. But I also want to share my own news and what I have been up to like getting a new job. But I feel so uncomfortable bringing up my news even though I want to share it and just feel so unimportant that I don’t even bother. I feel like that if they really were interested in me and what I was up to, then they would ask. But they barely ever do. I always listen in silence about every little aspect of what’s happening with them but they never ask me how I’m actually going. And this is most of my family. My dad and sister and her husband. I barely feel welcome in my own home. but lately it’s been extra hard cause I have lots of issues with my dad but he just dictates what will happen and that I will be completely kicked out of my room so the baby has a room without even asking me if that ok. Or taking up space in my cupboards for his stuff that he can’t fit in his cupboards cause they are filled with rubbish and he is too lazy to clear them out. And never listens to me and makes me feel like I don’t exist even more now with the baby coming along. Like I don’t even matter. Even if I was there or not. No one would notice. My mum is great but mostly when I am just with her. If others are around they basically become the focus. So I just sit there silently. And I definitely don’t want to be the centre of attention or anything. Or have lots to say. But it would be nice to be asked how I really am. And have the same interest given to me as I do with everyone else. Or just wanting to spend time with me but most other people want to just waste time watching tv or when I do talk, I’m told I don’t shut up when that the reason I visit is to talk and catch up. I feel very alone in my feelings and whenever I tell people they just say that it sucks and that’s about it. No one is able to help me to feel better. I just sit with the feeling by myself. Some of that feeling is from my dad just being unwilling to listen and be considerate and the other half is developed trust issues from previous experience of people just being focused on their own things and not know what to do with me. And I know it’s not their job to fix me. I just need some one to listen.

Lost my identity No motivation
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I moved from New South Wales to ACT 7 months ago. Started a new job to be closer to family. Now I find myself an absolutely no motivation. I work sleep and sit on the lounge. I don't know how to get my motivation back

I moved from New South Wales to ACT 7 months ago. Started a new job to be closer to family. Now I find myself an absolutely no motivation. I work sleep and sit on the lounge. I don't know how to get my motivation back

Angelic_raiin Feeling sad and worthless
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Hey all! First time posting and a little nervous. Lately life has been tough mentally for me. I just know that I can't do anything right all the time. I'm definitely very lucky and feel like I shouldn't feel like this but I probably cry every time I'... View more

Hey all! First time posting and a little nervous. Lately life has been tough mentally for me. I just know that I can't do anything right all the time. I'm definitely very lucky and feel like I shouldn't feel like this but I probably cry every time I'm alone because I hate being seen as weak and having people talk to me about feelings. I feel like a burden and unlikeable. I just look at people who are happy and wish I could be happy like them but deep down I really can't remember the last time I was truly happy. I have hobbies that make me happy but then I have to come back to the real world and face my life. Thanks to anyone that read this, its probably not as important as other people here but I needed somewhere to get my feelings without feeling scared of judgement.

Dadconcern Lost.
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The title of this is just how I feel...Lost. I've just turned 60 & I think that has hit me like a freight train. The lost opportunities now playing over & over in my head, like a constant reminder of how I've never taken any chances, just stayed comf... View more

The title of this is just how I feel...Lost. I've just turned 60 & I think that has hit me like a freight train. The lost opportunities now playing over & over in my head, like a constant reminder of how I've never taken any chances, just stayed comfortable & safe. I've have many hobbies that I no longer pursue. I'm long time divorced & single, I have a good family...I have 2 wonderful young grandaughters who I see regularly & adore with all that I am, & yet, here I am now, feeling lost, somewhat hopeless, definitely helpless & ready to leave. I constantly say that to myself regularly now it seems. More & more as another year passes. My heart breaks for the pain I would cause for those I love & yet, I feel unable to see any other future. It's terrible feeling so lost when I know I had so much to give. These feelings have being going on for too long now. I hope I'm just lost & all is not yet lost.

1321 I am depressed
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I feel like that when we do something we were meant to do like we don't have a choice it's our further and that I feel like that thinking doesn't make me smart because where the skills the think

I feel like that when we do something we were meant to do like we don't have a choice it's our further and that I feel like that thinking doesn't make me smart because where the skills the think

bayblue Relocation Blues
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Just looking for a little advice. I'm 62yrs old, female, no money, no home. Whilst I have a roof over my head; I am far from happy. For 8yrs, I lived on the coast of SA where there were few people. Whist I did not have a flash home, (it was a shed), ... View more

Just looking for a little advice. I'm 62yrs old, female, no money, no home. Whilst I have a roof over my head; I am far from happy. For 8yrs, I lived on the coast of SA where there were few people. Whist I did not have a flash home, (it was a shed), I had the LIFESTYLE. I had a job for a couple days a week; I had beaches to myself most days; I had nearby camping; I had wildlife - echidnas, roos, wallabies, koalas. For me, it was almost heaven. Then, due to circumstances beyond my control, I had to move. Fortunately my brother offered for me to live at his place. However. It is interstate, his home is tiny, it is not on the coast, it is too hot, it is full-on suburbia. NOTHING remotely similar to what I left behind. I've been here 6mths now and am still unhappy. My question is - how can I find happiness in a place I don't want to be? Thanks in advance....

wanttogetbetter Hanging in there
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Have been depressed and anxious for over 2 years now. I don't know what to do with myself. I am on a handful of medications and am seeing a psychiatrist, but nothing seems to be working.I am 66 years old and have been on antidepressants since my 30s.... View more

Have been depressed and anxious for over 2 years now. I don't know what to do with myself. I am on a handful of medications and am seeing a psychiatrist, but nothing seems to be working.I am 66 years old and have been on antidepressants since my 30s. This is the worst I have ever been and am considering ECT.My anxiety is such that I'm having panic attacks when I drive, so I'm not visiting friends or family as much as I would like.I'm writing this in my pyjamas as even having a shower is an effort, but I do get around to it usually before midday. Is anyone else in this situation?

movingon1970 Hanging onto the past… how do I move on?
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I held mid senior management roles in 3 of the 4 Aussie banks before leaving banking to take on a senior role with a software business. The change between roles came about due to back to back redundancies. i left my last senior role in Jan 2016 ( a f... View more

I held mid senior management roles in 3 of the 4 Aussie banks before leaving banking to take on a senior role with a software business. The change between roles came about due to back to back redundancies. i left my last senior role in Jan 2016 ( a further redundancy)and have been unable to find a role of the same standing since despite more than 400 applications. One recruiter who I knew well smiled and told be that he hadn’t placed a white middle aged male for the previous 5 years… my heart sank. for the past 6 years I have worked in a manufacturing role which is killing me inside. Over the past couple of years I’ve been told that my resume looks like it fell off a cliff…. I’ve no idea how to resolve this.The 3 redundancies have really knocked my confidence and feeling of worth/ value. the first of the 3 redundancies saw me given a box for my belongings and escorted from the premises. the last of the redundancies saw the MD back track on the package offered I think I have a lot to give, and hope that I don’t come across as done kind of victim. I feel like I’m mourning the loss of my career. My mind is racing at night, I’m lucky if I get 4-5 hrs sleep, I’m always tired, my get up and go has got up and gone and for the past week in particular I have been super emotional often crying in the car etc.

Lyndis Any tips for regaining appetite?
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Hi, so, I was recently diagnosed with depression, and over the past few weeks, I've noticed my appetite is decreasing at an alarming rate. I have reason to suscept this might stem from my depression. I keep gagging while eating, although I've never t... View more

Hi, so, I was recently diagnosed with depression, and over the past few weeks, I've noticed my appetite is decreasing at an alarming rate. I have reason to suscept this might stem from my depression. I keep gagging while eating, although I've never thrown up from it, and I often don't feel hungry until the evening (in which i snack on sweets), which i want to try and stop. I very much understand its not healthy, but I was wondering if anyone else has experienced similar problems with eating and if they'd be kind enough to share some info/tips on how to combat it. Thanks in advance