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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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x_BLUE_MOON_x I'm scared
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I am an adult woman with ADHD, autism, specific language impairment and maybe undiagnosed OCD. I also struggle with anger issues, impulse control problems, trauma, and guilt. I have been going through a very difficult period for over a year, mainly d... View more

I am an adult woman with ADHD, autism, specific language impairment and maybe undiagnosed OCD. I also struggle with anger issues, impulse control problems, trauma, and guilt. I have been going through a very difficult period for over a year, mainly due to severe perfectionism. Because of this, I feel that my mental health has significantly worsened.This is extremely difficult for me to admit, and please don't judge me, but I have been torturing bugs, mainly crickets, because of their loud mating noises. These noises are very distressing to me and feel like mental torture. When I become overwhelmed and angry, I sometimes lose control and act impulsively.Afterward, I sometimes think, “I shouldn’t have done that,” and I feel a small amount of remorse for the bug, along with feeling like a horrible person. Other times, I have thoughts such as, “You deserved it for mentally torturing me,” and “You deserved to be punished.”Only my parents are aware of this. I have not told anyone else, and I haven't even told my psychologist this because I feel too embarrassed and ashamed. I am terrified that I'm maybe a bad person or even a psychopath. I want to be a good person.I am in the process of finding a psychiatrist. I am not taking medication for ADHD at this time. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you.

Stephanie Overwhelmed & Alone
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This is the first time I have ever said this outloud (so to speak) I have always felt embarrassed and ashamed to admit that I am lonely and scared. I am 51 yesrs old and feel pathetic saying I'm afraid as a "grown up" I dont have anyoune to talk to b... View more

This is the first time I have ever said this outloud (so to speak) I have always felt embarrassed and ashamed to admit that I am lonely and scared. I am 51 yesrs old and feel pathetic saying I'm afraid as a "grown up" I dont have anyoune to talk to because I hide how I really feel every day. I left my home country over 20 years ago and don't have a single close friend. I am finding human interaction increasingly overbearing. I feel like I am the only person who feels like this and I want to be normal. I wake up every day with a feeling of utter despair and have to put on a brave face. I work in sales.....possibly the worst job in the world for somebody who feels like this. I just needed to get that off my chest.

Guest_06011069 I don’t know
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I’m feeling sad I unable to work and study more. My body weakness. I’m short

I’m feeling sad I unable to work and study more. My body weakness. I’m short

Guest_74741123 Am I worthy?
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hi you can call me Dino. usually I’m pretty good at pushing my feelings to the bottom of my heart rather than dealing with them but sometimes it just catches up and become so overwhelming It becomes so hard to handle all the pain. It’s just so hard a... View more

hi you can call me Dino. usually I’m pretty good at pushing my feelings to the bottom of my heart rather than dealing with them but sometimes it just catches up and become so overwhelming It becomes so hard to handle all the pain. It’s just so hard and the pain is too much .I don’t know what to do. I have everyone. I have a mother I have a father. I have a big family yet. No one understands me and nobody loves me. they feel like more of me like burden rather than the daughter it’s just so hard. Don’t know what to do it to go away. This overwhelming emotional pain is horrible and I feel that I don’t deserve to be in pain. Nobody does. I’m actually a good person I’m a calm person I keep my head down mind myself yet people are around me. Make me feel like I’m a bad person. I don’t even think about anything bad about other people I’ve never been diagnosed or anything but I know I’m a pretty self-aware person have been dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts since 2016 since my high school. I still have a boyfriend we were together nearly for eight years. he helped me with my depression my loneliness and everything he used to be my rock. No we’re not together anymore now I feel like I’m drowning. I’m just putting all the words that coming out of my heart I don’t know if it makes sense. I don’t know where the story begins. where is the story right now? Or where is it ending? I have no idea what to do with my life. I have no interest in anything not interested in work not interested in living not interested in life. Nothing. the things I’m interested in are something I cannot do it right now because I’m too old for some it’s too late. I have to pay my own mother and stepfather money every month so that I can live with them I literally give them half the money I earned every month .because of my anxiety and depression. I can’t live outside with anyone I can’t live by myself so for that I’m been told that I’m too lazy to do something something so many words yet nobody help me. Nobody gave me assurance that they’ll come look for me. I’m just scared if I go out they won’t care for me,everybody will forget about me. I hope it all end. I don’t know. I have no interest anything at all these days. This is something I’m just feeling at the moment and no it doesn’t make any sense but it is what it is. I have so much going on this at the moment. I hope it’ gets better

JAB Low Days?
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Hi, This is my first time posting anything. I was just wondering if anyone on antidepression medication still experience low days? I have been on anti depression medication for about 7 years and feel like my happy self, but every now and then I have ... View more

Hi, This is my first time posting anything. I was just wondering if anyone on antidepression medication still experience low days? I have been on anti depression medication for about 7 years and feel like my happy self, but every now and then I have low days for no reason. I struggle to do anything, I ignore everyone, I am fighting back tears for I don't even know why. I fantasise about laying in my bed, locking my door and dissapearing from my life. I am just not sure if I should still be having these days while on medication? Thanks everyone.

Null79 My journey through career development and the setbacks
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I began pursuing psychology in 2020. Prior to that, I worked for many years in the broadcasting and telecommunications industries. From 2016 to 2018, I experienced entrepreneurship, setbacks, and a low point in my career. After 2019, encouraged by my... View more

I began pursuing psychology in 2020. Prior to that, I worked for many years in the broadcasting and telecommunications industries. From 2016 to 2018, I experienced entrepreneurship, setbacks, and a low point in my career. After 2019, encouraged by my family, I decided to spend 3-5 years rebuilding my life's direction, making psychology my new long-term career path. I first completed my Graduate Diploma in Psychology at UNSW, and then completed my Honours at the University of Newcastle. During those years, I persevered in my studies despite family and practical pressures, because I always believed that as long as I completed my Master's degree and internship along the proper Australian training path, I could achieve full registration. From early 2023, due to financial pressures, I entered the mental health industry as a data analyst. By late 2024, I felt I needed to complete my Master's degree to truly enter the psychology career path, so I resigned and began pursuing my Master's at a college (they claimed they were an accredited provider of Master of Professional Psychology). The problem arose during the internal placement process in the latter half of 2024. Resources available from the school were extremely limited at that time (a new clinic in Sydney), and I was assigned to almost only 1 client over 6 months. More challenging was the unequal power dynamics and communication style I experienced during the evaluation and feedback process. In the final evaluation, the school's conclusions did not reflect the positive feedback from my internal supervisor; instead, they used what I perceived as overly harsh, and even alarmist language to describe my performance. What I found particularly unacceptable was being labeled with the extremely negative tag of "public safety risk." This wasn't just a grade or comment; it was a denial of my professional identity, directly triggering intense shame, anger, and self-doubt. What was even more agonizing was that this didn't end quickly. The subsequent complaints, reviews, and various procedures dragged on for nearly 7 months. For me, this period was a constant state of suspension: I was unable to complete my practicum, advance my studies, or psychologically detach myself from the situation. The prolonged waiting and uncertainty caused me significant physical and psychological reactions: anxiety, mood swings, recurring anger, panic and distraction while driving, and even triggers in my daily work. I later saw a GP and obtained a medical certificate. The GP clearly stated that I needed to leave the academic environment to recuperate and advised against returning to the same internal placement setting, as it posed a significant risk of re-traumatisation. Before all this happened, I had always considered psychology as my main focus for the next 10 years. From UNSW to Newcastle, and then to my Master's program, I invested time, money, and a sense of identity. The result was failure and labelling in the final crucial placement (the school even said I posed a "public safety risk"). What I felt wasn't just ordinary frustration, but a "collapse of the safety system": it felt as if all my efforts had been brutally dismissed by a resource-scarce and opaque system. I'm back to square one, forced to start looking for a data analyst job all over again, and still no response. It feels like all my previous efforts were wasted.

T40 Change for good or bad?
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Hi, I am 52 years old and experiencing peri menopause for the last four years. My grown-up Children have moved out, and I am working full time. My husband has aggressive personality and short temperedness and we are used to having little arguments no... View more

Hi, I am 52 years old and experiencing peri menopause for the last four years. My grown-up Children have moved out, and I am working full time. My husband has aggressive personality and short temperedness and we are used to having little arguments now and then. I have noticed in the recent days I have become very intolerant the way he speaks to me, I’m expecting and demanding sometimes that he talks to me with caring, softer tone and respectful way. He is annoyed, frustrated and thinks that I am unnecessarily causing issues. Is my ego getting worse, or am I sensitive because of the hormonal changes. My job has been made redundant last week and I feel emotionally volatile and low. My behaviour is causing issues in the relationship. I am doubting if this is my ego? This change in myself is good or bad? Expecting my husband to ask instead of telling me - expecting him to change the way he speaks to me at his age, am I wrong? Appreciate your perspective and response.

Emotions26 Do not feed the monster
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I am struggling to understand this website and find my way aroundI have replied to some peopleI think that two champions replied to my first two postsI do not know where they are now I have supported several posts of othersI have replied to one perso... View more

I am struggling to understand this website and find my way aroundI have replied to some peopleI think that two champions replied to my first two postsI do not know where they are now I have supported several posts of othersI have replied to one person I think today I am resonating with several posts in different areas but cannot remember where they are I am literally lost within this website as well as within myself I am working very hard at keeping the dreaded "D" at bay which I have battled with too many times.I have had this since young apparentlyI have had large gaps of time where I am mostly symptom free I think The monster is the dreaded "d"It is also a relative whom I have had to relinquish her hold over me.I have only learnt about this stuff recently so struggle talking about it. So I think of do not feed the monster as in do not think of her. Or do not feel guilty or upset or worry or a thousand other things Also do not feed the dreaded "d" as it lurks waiting I will not find this piece again

Numb Achored.
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Good morning to one and all. I am a senior, trying to break free from my mundane self-isolating life. Hurt has seen me resort to withdrawal. Depression has been my companion. Yes, I have tried Counselling, activities, etc., only to ride on a high for... View more

Good morning to one and all. I am a senior, trying to break free from my mundane self-isolating life. Hurt has seen me resort to withdrawal. Depression has been my companion. Yes, I have tried Counselling, activities, etc., only to ride on a high for a while, then fall back to earth with a sickening thud. For the past 2 yrs I have been trying to move house to no avail. I have tried to find paid work, to no avail. I have tried, tried and tried again to move forward, only to be held back by my insecurities, bad decisions or circumstances beyond my control. I am fortunate as I am secure with material means, but I am an empty shell. I have a faithful partner; who's only input to our relationship is his opinion to which he gives freely, and nothing else. I am a grandparent, and my children have their own lives. Their preference to their father and his side of the family is obvious. I have nothing to offer them, apart from my hands, willingness, home cooked meals, a shoulder to cry on, a refuge and monies I give, that I don't have or can't afford. In truth, I hate myself, my life and each and every morning, I wake to dread. Suicide is constantly on my mind. No, I won't go through with it, as I have a family, and it's a burden I won't inflict on them, to leave them to carry and deal with my cowardness all their lives. I ask myself daily, when will my final day come!! My life is not a consequence from lack of trying; it's not knowing what other options (I haven't already tried) that will help me to move forward. To become what I have always wanted to be, what I use to be. My former self haunts me daily, I look back on what I had and achieved, only to be left thinking and living with how I screwed up my life. I don't want to live alone, but I don't want what I have now. I just don't know the reasoning behind my failures, besides that perhaps I was born a failure to begin with. How do others move forward when the anchor around their legs, is pulling them deeper into the depths of despair.

phightingphan im hideous
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TW First of all, thank you all for the support. I doubt I will ever change, and I'm only ever on here to rant, but I'm extremely grateful that there are people who are taking time out of their days to support me. :)) To the topic at hand: I believe I... View more

TW First of all, thank you all for the support. I doubt I will ever change, and I'm only ever on here to rant, but I'm extremely grateful that there are people who are taking time out of their days to support me. :)) To the topic at hand: I believe I am terribly ugly. Yes, I am well aware of what causes me to think this way, the perpetuation of beauty standards and whatnot, and I know I have become an unfortunate victim of that system, but it is. Actually impossible to stop thinking this way lol. I have prominent body hair, for one. I KNOW that body hair is normal on every human, and basically everyone has it, but oh my GOD. I can't go outside wearing short-sleeved shirts because my arm hair makes me feel like a sasquatch. Like I'm a giant grizzly bear trying to masquerade as a teenage girl. This wouldn't at all be an issue if my body hair weren't so dark. It is so dark that even if I shave, you can still see it underneath my skin (I have pale skin). The worst thing is? I can do NOTHING about it. Do you think I'm bothered to go get some sort of laser hair removal?? no?? How am I even supposed to explain that to my parents?? - Probably one of the worst issues I have with my body is.. well.. my body. The very way my bones are structured, the way my flesh and muscle sit atop of it. Disfigured, even. I look into the mirror before I shower every day, and I want to hurl. My ribcage is far too wide, my shoulders are too broad, my hips are too narrow, my waist is too short. It hurts to know that I'm cursed to look the way I do for as long as I live. What can I do to improve this? What can make it so I don't have to live like this anymore??? Forget it. I'm far too lazy anyhow.