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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Deathbug9976 Rant about my coping mechanism.
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Hi everyone, I’m new here and I just wanted to get something off my shoulders. I’ve recently found a way to cope with my depression by going on long walks daily, but as a teen I still have to talk to my parents first. For the past few days I have ask... View more

Hi everyone, I’m new here and I just wanted to get something off my shoulders. I’ve recently found a way to cope with my depression by going on long walks daily, but as a teen I still have to talk to my parents first. For the past few days I have asked to go on my walks but been declined. My parents know I have depression, and I they said they will take that into account when making decisions with me, but I’m being declined the one coping mechanism I have found. what do I do?

Panthera Electroconvulsive Therapy
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I have been advised by my psychiatrist to have Electroconvulsive Therapy. I am willing to do this, but would like to know of its effectiveness from those who have had the treatment. Some key questions I have are: - How long does it last - What happen... View more

I have been advised by my psychiatrist to have Electroconvulsive Therapy. I am willing to do this, but would like to know of its effectiveness from those who have had the treatment. Some key questions I have are: - How long does it last - What happens if it stops working My apologies if there are forums already devoted to this topic. I have just joined and am not sure how to search the forum database.

Daliah Too strong of an empath
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Hi, so I have really really strong empathy and I’m a little worried. I was about to tell my parents that what they had bought had an incorrect ingredient (they made a small mistake at the shops) but the minute I thought it, my heart froze and I felt ... View more

Hi, so I have really really strong empathy and I’m a little worried. I was about to tell my parents that what they had bought had an incorrect ingredient (they made a small mistake at the shops) but the minute I thought it, my heart froze and I felt intense sadness and guilt as if I was on the opposite end. So now I can’t tell them because I can’t put them through the emotional turbulence of making a mistake without hating myself. Has anyone felt this? Like understanding the other persons pain to the point it physically hurts?

Duey1975 Where to from here....
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I have always ben a very stable person, grounded and mentally secure. I don't stress easily, and when an issues arises, it gets fixed or forwarded to someone to fix it. In June 2017, my mum was diagnosed with Stage 3 fibrosis at the age of 67 of the ... View more

I have always ben a very stable person, grounded and mentally secure. I don't stress easily, and when an issues arises, it gets fixed or forwarded to someone to fix it. In June 2017, my mum was diagnosed with Stage 3 fibrosis at the age of 67 of the liver from drinking to much. She was advised that if she stopped drinking, lost 5 kg's and ate a clean diet, she would be good for anther 20yrs. She passed in February 2018 as she hit the drink harder. So, while i was trying to support my dad and help look after mum, i found out the day after fathers day in 2017 that my wife was having an affair with a man she works with. She continued this for another 6 months after the affair was exposed. I supported my wife through her families health issues 15 odd years earlier and was her rock. She told me that she couldnt be there for me during this time on multiple occasions. She moved out for 3 weeks, continued to see him while i ran the house and looked after our kids Late April 2018, my wifes affair was knocked on the head by him as he was getting a job promotion. Late April 2018, my grandmother passed away. She was old and had a good life, but it was dads mum, so double whack for him. June 2018, my dad was admitted to hospital with a blood clot from ankle to groin. I was advised he would be dead in 4 minutes if it was to let go. after 6 weeks in hospital, he was released. August 2018, my wife and i had another blow up about her actions, i went to move out but didnt. September 2018, my son was admitted to the children mental health ward for suicidal thought and hearing voices. December 2018, he was diagnosed with testicular cancer, with chemo following for the next 4 months to April 2019. the remainder of 2019 was fairly event free. 2020, was ok except for my wife having her gall-bladder removed mid year and the fun that goes with that. Again, i supported her through that. Late 2020, our house and car where severely damaged in a large hail storm, which we had to relocate to while repairs were done. We moved out for repair in May 2021. While we were moving out, my wife advised that she had pretty much left our marriage. For the next 2 months, she would take her rings off when going to work. So, in July 2021, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was preparing to leave in June 2021 prior to the diagnosis, but now feel stuck while she undergoes treatment and reconstruction. But is is hard to stay focused and mentally strong while doing this...

summerloverr How to support partner struggling with mental health
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my current boyfriend and i have officially been together since october 2020. From pretty much the get go he had told me about his previous struggles with his mental health, however in the last few months he has been hiding his struggles from me which... View more

my current boyfriend and i have officially been together since october 2020. From pretty much the get go he had told me about his previous struggles with his mental health, however in the last few months he has been hiding his struggles from me which have been affecting our relationship (i didn’t know of his current struggles, so i was somewhat blaming his behaviour on him because he didn’t realise the effects it was having on me and our relationship). I was blaming him for making me feel like he didn’t want me around with certain people, for making me feel like i was ‘embarrassing’, for not acknowledging or respecting me much, for acting different towards me around different groups of people. I told him the way he was making me feel, he apologised, said he doesn’t want me to feel that way. a few days after we were out and i was made to feel that way again, i had ‘the shits’, the following evening i asked if he was going to talk to me, his response “i don’t know who i am anymore, i don’t enjoy the things i used to, some days i don’t know if i’m going to get up or not, i don’t know what i want, some days i love everyone other days i hate everyone, i don’t know if i want a relationship, i love you and i don’t want to drag you along through all of this. I reassured him that everything will be ok, that i will get him the help he needs, i said people who love each other help each other, i’m not going anywhere i just want you to feel like yourself again. Is this his mental health talking? i don’t want him to push me away and regret it down the track. since that conversation he doesn’t want me, he can’t look at me/give me the usual kiss goodnight “i love you”. I hate seeing him like this and hurting. He kept all of this to himself because he is too worried about making others worried what they will think about him. He says his way of coping is making himself as busy as possible to make sure his mind doesn’t wander (e.g., working on his days off - he is a shift worker). I am finding him help (doctors/psychologist appointments aren’t easy to find these days). I am asking for any advice/tips on how to support my partner through this rough patch of life. I know this won’t be an easy journey or will it fix itself overnight.

Guest_1573 I have zero motivation. Totally disillusioned and drink too much
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Hi I have been off work for a very long time due to an injury. Throughout that time I was hassled and bullied by workcover. I was also dealing with the depression and stress from losing the job I loved. I ended up drinking as I was so lonely, bored a... View more

Hi I have been off work for a very long time due to an injury. Throughout that time I was hassled and bullied by workcover. I was also dealing with the depression and stress from losing the job I loved. I ended up drinking as I was so lonely, bored and anxious. I have now recovered from the injury and have got my payout etc. Trouble is I now trust nobody and have no faith in anyone or anything. I have attempted numerous jobs and they have all turned out to be horrible in that the focus on inclusion etc is not actually happening? Bullying is rife out there!! I now just like drinking and zoning out a bit as I find reality too awful. I find most people to be rude and selfish. I am totally disillusioned with all of the jobs I have taken on (and left). Same with the help I have offered to rescue dogs. Everyone appears to be a control freak and all I want is peace and to rescue a dear dog. But everything always goes pearshaped. I am on my own with a difficult teenager and I don't know what to do anymore. Everything I do goes wrong. I have spoken with counsellors, psychiatrists, psychologists, doctors. Again...get palmed off and that just adds to my disillusionment with everything. I am a very strong person and I never give up. I just want to know if anyone else feels the same. The lack of respect out there is terrible. The focus on everything is apparently to not bully or judge people but it is ludicrous as that is all that seems to happen. I am fed up with society in general and I just want to live a quiet peaceful life helping dogs. Is that too much to ask?

Mark735 I can't fight this anymore
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I'm struggling I don't care about anything anymore, I feel like I'm achieving nothing and no one really cares about where I am. I'm struggling financially, mentally, and I can't do this alone anymore. Sure I've spoken to people, but all I get is a le... View more

I'm struggling I don't care about anything anymore, I feel like I'm achieving nothing and no one really cares about where I am. I'm struggling financially, mentally, and I can't do this alone anymore. Sure I've spoken to people, but all I get is a lecture about what is wrong with my life. I'm already well aware of this, I feel like I've stuffed up every aspect of my life. People are so judgemental, and it feels like everyone else gets the love and help while I just get everyone's judgement. My dad passed away 4 1/2 years ago, and since then I've struggled living on my own. I can't pay my bills, to the point where basic essental services are going to be turned off. I've not been able to work much this year due to having a blood clot in my leg due to the Covid injections. So not being able to walk has also been a challenge. I'm slowly regaining strength in my legs now but still can't walk the best, so working will still be an issue. I'm thousands of dollars in debt and all I do is spend every day sitting here and waiting for things to be turned off. Some bills I haven't been able to put anything on for over 12 months, and I'm scared. My partner doesn't seem to get it, whenever I try to say anything about how I'm feeling she quickly changes the subject. Her answer to everything is to just smother me with love, which I HATE. I feel like my real feelings mean nothing to her. I've tried to tell her but she just isn't listening. I'd really like to do deliveries by starting my own business, as driving is the one thing that clears my head and my biggest passion, but I'd need help to do the delivery aspect of it, and trying to find work for this has been very hard. I don't feel comfortable driving a large vehicle, and I'd struggle to get in and out of it anyway. My main issue is I have no money coming in at all, and bills need paying NOW. I've tried everything to scrounge enough just to survive, relying on handouts and the like from friends and family to keep going, but I want to get out and start doing things again. It's like I'm still in lockdown the amount of time I sit here, depressed, worrying about things. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like I'm trapped here, and I can't see a way out.

Bubble44 All I can feel is bitterness and hate.
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(My Dad is the only reason I'm still alive. Sometimes I wonder if he has any idea how good a father he's been) My mother abused me. She violently screamed at me everyday, nonstop, from a baby until now (I'm 23). She physically attacked me until I was... View more

(My Dad is the only reason I'm still alive. Sometimes I wonder if he has any idea how good a father he's been) My mother abused me. She violently screamed at me everyday, nonstop, from a baby until now (I'm 23). She physically attacked me until I was big enough that she knew she'd lose a fight against me. My siblings abused me. I even have flashbacks of my brother physically assaulting me. He was maybe 8 at the time. I would've been 5? He tried to choke me unconscious, until my Dad found us and pulled him away. My sister exchanged maybe 10 sentences with me over a four or 5 year period of living in the same house. All of those sentences were to insult me. Every friend I have ever had has abandoned me. My best friend attempted to sexually assault someone, and he tried to convince people I sexually assaulted someone (my supposed victim went out of her way to message me saying she never had an issue with me, and that my 'friend' was putting words in her mouth). Despite every one of my friends admitting he was entirely in the wrong, almost all my friends abandoned me so they could keep this psychopath in their lives. Apparently to them, I am worth less than an attemped sexual assaulter (and remember, they believed I was in the right and he was in the wrong. And I still didn't matter). Everyone I meet either hates me with every fibre of their being, or they tolerate me, at best. I'm going to keep plodding along. But I f**king hate every moment of this. I hate this world. I hate everyone in it. I want to live, but it's obvious no one else wants me to. I will stay. I won't do anything to hurt myself. But f**k this world.

rhinoceros Scary relapse of depression and anxiety
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Hi everyone I'm back posting again because my anxiety and depression which as been generally well managed for the last decade has come back badly. I've been managing to function despite this. I work a 9-5 job in the public service, and I also work 3-... View more

Hi everyone I'm back posting again because my anxiety and depression which as been generally well managed for the last decade has come back badly. I've been managing to function despite this. I work a 9-5 job in the public service, and I also work 3-4 nights a week as a professional jazz musician. The music work helps with the ever-increasing cost of living and also gives me a certain 'release'. I've had some stressful things happen in the last year. I finally got out of a long-term abusive relationship. That was a huge struggle, and the after-effects are ongoing. I am unable to trust people, and even though it's almost 10 months since I left that situation, I'm terrified at the thought of dating etc. I've had to get used to living alone as well. I have moments where I suddenly miss my ex gf, and feel sorry for her. I feel deep regret about the way things ended. I had to go 'no contact', she had strong narcissistic tenancies and I had to leave for my own safety. We also experienced a significant downpour in which water got under my house from the back yard. It's a new home, no landscaping done yet etc, so not enough drainage. I should be grateful to have my own home, but that situation really upset me. I'm arranging to have work done to resolve the problem but I can't stop worrying about it. At times I positively hate the house and wish I never built it. When I wake up in the morning now I have a sense of dread that I woke up again. It's a sense of not wanting to wake up any more. Happy memories of 10 years ago or so seem like another world entirely. It seems impossible that I could have been that happy. My sense of optimism about the future is gone. I used to enjoy going for drives, running, and many other things, but I have zero interest in my hobbies now. All I do now is work and sleep. I have a therapist I see every fortnight, but today I'm having an appointment with a psychiatrist. I did start a new a/d medication a few months ago and it does not appear to be helping much, other than causing my anxiety to become worse. I'm sorry for the rambling but I'm kind of lost at the moment. I should be grateful with my life. I'm blessed to have a wonderful mother, a roof over my head, secure employment, and some nice friends. Even despite this I feel positively dead inside and I just can't find the strength to pull myself out of this black hole. I'm trying to remind myself this is a temporary situation and I'll fell better soon. It's just hard to believe it. Here's my previous thread for a bit more background: Where to from here?

Ratsncats New here but not new to same feelings
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Hi all omg here I go again some feelings of alone scared overwhelmed tired can’t sleep sleep too much then no sleep for days. Kids still needing same attention kids need more attention. Had whole top row of teeth out except 2 now I look like a hideou... View more

Hi all omg here I go again some feelings of alone scared overwhelmed tired can’t sleep sleep too much then no sleep for days. Kids still needing same attention kids need more attention. Had whole top row of teeth out except 2 now I look like a hideous monster. I cry I can’t find the insulting jokes you say funny at all as I feel so insecure. You call me pathetic because I just want to crawl in a hole. Socialise what’s that that so scary who would talk to someone that’s drooling and can’t talk properly. Another insult gee ta cry again. I can’t go on like this my kids deserve better. I need to wake up from this nightmare that won’t go away. someone pls wake me up.