Depression

How do I cope with the unfairness of life?

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Time says it all really. how do I cope with the fact that life will never be fair? For me and for others. how is it that so many evil people get so much good stuff while so many good people suffer?

My cheating partner

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So my partner thinks I’ve cheated , which I haven’t, I’ve told him multiple times I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardise this rship, but every time we have an argument, he keeps bringing it up saying oh you’ve cheated. His exs have cheated on him in th... View more

So my partner thinks I’ve cheated , which I haven’t, I’ve told him multiple times I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardise this rship, but every time we have an argument, he keeps bringing it up saying oh you’ve cheated. His exs have cheated on him in the past, because of that he thinks I would do the same, as he keeps saying all girls are tied to the same brush, he does not trust me at all, he’s got trust issues, I’ve showed him he can trust me but doesn’t . So because of getting accused for something I’ve not done, I’ve stopped being so affectionate towards him, I’ll still do small affectionate things like kiss him on the cheek and that. So lately because of this, he decided to download dating apps ‘to keep his options open’ so he’s been flirting with other girls behind my back, i told him I want to work on us, but I said that he needs to delete the dating apps and close the ‘open options’ he doesn’t want to do that , so I’m literally living with someone who’s interested in talking to other girls behind my back…

I feel like i have lost something but i do not know what it is.

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I feel like there is something missing. My life is perfect on paper, i get good grades and i have good friends and im creative and fit and cute or whatever but i just..something just feels off. My heart doesn't really resonate with anything that it u... View more

I feel like there is something missing. My life is perfect on paper, i get good grades and i have good friends and im creative and fit and cute or whatever but i just..something just feels off. My heart doesn't really resonate with anything that it used to, my hobbies dont feel fufilling and i cant be bothered to be half as disciplined as i used to. I would rather sleep in the whole day than do anything. There are things that make me happy but i feel like these things come with the cost of failure and...i dont know how to explain. It is so confusing for me and even i don't understand why i'm feeling so lost and tired and fatigued or whatever . Even when i do love something i lose interest after a couple of weeks or i elf sabotage and convince myself to stop putting in so much effort. I push myself to consider what the purpose of all the things i do even are and when this happens i just feel so overwhemed. I need help but i dont know how to get it. I went a school counsellor and they just brushed it off and didn't let me get more sessions and i basically just vented to them but got no help at all. I want to go to a psychologist because theres so much happening in my head but my parents would judge me like they always do and it hurts so much. I feel like im so alone and no one wants to help me. I turn the things i love into habits and then i forget why i do them, i guess. And my mood changes so much too, which really affects why i cant get help because i feel like once i stop feeling sad my sadness from before just doesnt even matter anymore.

Young Onset Parkinson's Disease and depression

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Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is ... View more

Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is "suck it up". He is a control freak, has kicked me out of the house, and is having an emotional relationship with a once close female family friend and says it's all in my head. I am about to lose it completely. I just don't know what to do.......

I'm scared

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I feel so numb. I'm just a random teen that's taking a break up too close to heart I guess. Nothing feels right anymore.

Life’s too hard

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(49yo) First time posting… I have been feeling very very low for a decade, and I can’t snap out of it. This morning, I decided to type ‘beyond blue’ in to my browser. The first site that came across was ‘MensLine.’ I clicked on it and saw several rea... View more

(49yo) First time posting… I have been feeling very very low for a decade, and I can’t snap out of it. This morning, I decided to type ‘beyond blue’ in to my browser. The first site that came across was ‘MensLine.’ I clicked on it and saw several reasons for mental health. They were…Men’s mental health, including anxiety and depressionRelationship problemsAnger managementCoping strategiesGrief and lossLoneliness and isolationParentingStressSuicide preventionIt’s a little concerning, when I realised that every one of these IS affecting me. Some more so than others. I feel so alone, but find myself going to bed early to be alone. I have never dealt with the loss of my grand mother, which affected me a lot. As did the loss of an uncle, and my mum won’t be too far away. I want to feel closer to my wife, although I feel that she isn’t trying…or is it me. I feel lonely and depressed nearly all of the time. I only have 1 true friend, who lives 2hrs away. The only other person I hang out with outside of my wife and girls, are my parents. Parenting…I have teenage girls, so I’ll say no more about that. I gave up alcohol 10 months ago. I feel that’s 1 positive in my life. I was brought up to be a man, so I keep all of this inside me. When I’m asked, “Hey, how are you?.” My answer is always, “Couldn’t be better!”Maybe things will get better soon…

Poppy Angel - the importance of pets

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My name is Mel-Ann Collie,though friends just call me Mel,so listen up to the talethat I’m about to tell.I’d reached rock bottom,was in deep despair,there was no warmth orcolour anywhere.Each day had become somewhat colder,the world weighed heavily o... View more

My name is Mel-Ann Collie,though friends just call me Mel,so listen up to the talethat I’m about to tell.I’d reached rock bottom,was in deep despair,there was no warmth orcolour anywhere.Each day had become somewhat colder,the world weighed heavily on my shoulder. I felt broken, lost,devoid of feeling lying in bedstaring at the ceiling,wondering howto continue onthrough the bleak,oppressive dawn.In the midst of this painful sorrow I could see no future or a tomorrow.My saving grace was Poppy Angel:a faithful pet who was more than ableto get me through the desolation and help overcome the isolation.She would nuzzle in to my neck,not caring one bitthat I was a wreck,pulling me through many a day,keeping my negative thoughts at bay,while licking my face,wagging her tail,lifting my spirits without fail.This was better than any doctor’s pill,healing my soul,healing the chillof a thousand winters held inside,letting me cross the great divide from dark tolight to live again,and all because of my furry friend.

Being a bit parentified

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I was watching a Youtube and in the video, it said that your parents should help you with your problems, but they shouldn't get you to help them with their problems. My Mum is often asking my sisters and I for support and help with her problems. I of... View more

I was watching a Youtube and in the video, it said that your parents should help you with your problems, but they shouldn't get you to help them with their problems. My Mum is often asking my sisters and I for support and help with her problems. I often use to give her as much support and advice as I could, even when it was over something little and she never took the advice. She said it was good, she said she would try it and then the next day, she would tell me what she did and what she did was the exact opposite of what I suggested. For example, she'd tell me these dumb, over the top arguments she had with people while playing table tennis, then I would explain to her ways she can be more assertive, so it doesn't get to that point, then she said that it sounded really good and that she would try it and the next day she would tell me that she told so and so to f off and all sorts of things. What makes it even more annoying is that when I tell her about my problems (which are a lot more serious than being about things like ping pong), she usually acts like she couldn't care less. Even if I'm getting bullied really badly or if I'm talking about something that happened when I was having a psychotic episode, she just doesn't care most of the time and my Dad cares even less. The Youtube video also said that your parents shouldn't be naked in front of you if you are over the age of 2 (which I knew before watching this because... ewe), but my parents do this all the time. My Dad will walk around in a long T-shirt without any pants on and just pull his T-shirt down when his not in his room and my Mum will walk around the house completely naked, she'd even look out the loungeroom window, hands on hips, completely naked and if we said something she would go "Nobody outside will be able to see me because of the plants." Whenever we would ask/tell her if she could stop/to stop walking around the house naked, she would get mad at us and sometimes scarily mad at us. The last time I nicely asked her not to she went "Oh Earth Girl, you're such a drama queen!" and then I said, "How would you feel if your Mum walked around the house naked?" and she went "Oh! I would throw a fit!" then I said, then maybe you should stop doing it!? and she said "Okay, well, I'll think about it." What do you mean you "will think about it"?! She sometimes even goes outside to take the bins out without any pants on. They also don't think they need to wash their hands after going to the toilet after going number 1 because "he doesn't get it on his hands" or "urine is sterile." They drive me crazy.

work

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why can’t we just go to work do our work and go home Why do some managers insist on singling someone out to destroy their self respect self esteem and possibly even making them feel so worthless that living with the harassment is just too much where ... View more

why can’t we just go to work do our work and go home Why do some managers insist on singling someone out to destroy their self respect self esteem and possibly even making them feel so worthless that living with the harassment is just too much where is the accountability for being pushed and prodded into doing or saying something stupid now we have to get help for ourselves because of others abusive behaviour Where is the justice,accountability mental health help in my industry is lip service dotting the eyes and crossing the tees meanwhile many good people with great potential are being subjected to what basically amounts to mental torture pretty much all questions and no answers sorry but myself and my family are suffering because of one person’s need to make this happen and has the power to stop it

Workplace colleague conflict

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I'm between a rock and a hard place now and can't see a way forward other than resigning.After 3 years of voicing my concerns about a colleagues behaviour toward me and st tiles others and a manager who is aware of this and says 'well some people we ... View more

I'm between a rock and a hard place now and can't see a way forward other than resigning.After 3 years of voicing my concerns about a colleagues behaviour toward me and st tiles others and a manager who is aware of this and says 'well some people we just don't get along with but have to work with them' I've taken sick leave to have some space.Ive had a years worth of workplace counselling, aired my concerns about being unable to work with her due to her bossing me around (she isn't my manager), railroading me in meetings, being terse when some tasks are within her remit, not helping when asked, verbally scoffing at some of my ideas in meetings, sending me 'directive emails' as opposed to suggesting nicely, etc etc.Recently our padp reviews have meant I have to do more with her but her portfolio is bigger than mine. Mgr said now your roles are clear you should have less conflict.within 2 days of being back from leave she hammered me with emails and started telling me how to do my job. i can no longer work under the pressure of her and incompetence of my boss. I feel unsupported, trodden over, silenced and stressed. any suggestions to manage other than finding a new job ? thank you

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