Hi everyone, Hope you are feeling better than I am. Today I woke up just
feeling really depressed. I slept relatively well but have just been
feeling low all day. I haven't managed to get much work done because I'm
finding it hard to concentrate on a...
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Hi everyone, Hope you are feeling better than I am. Today I woke up just
feeling really depressed. I slept relatively well but have just been
feeling low all day. I haven't managed to get much work done because I'm
finding it hard to concentrate on anything besides my low mood. I don't
even really know what I feel sad about. There is one thing that springs
to mind - I have worked for the last two and a bit years with my lovely
manager, M, who is leaving next week. She has been really kind to me -
believed in my abilities, gave me opportunities to develop my skills and
given me lots of emotional support when I needed it, and is a really all
round lovely person and a fantastic role model. I will really miss her
when she goes. But I have known she is leaving for about three months,
so I have had plenty of time to deal with it, and there's no reason I
would be sad about that today compared to another day. Apart from that I
am a bit directionless with my career and in life in general. I have
been in my job for four years, stayed in part becuase of this manager
and in part becuase i don't know where else i would go - this job was my
dream job when i got it and i'm just not sure what else i want to do.
Even though my manager thinks I can be a supervisor (which would be a
promotion) I'm not so sure I can do it well or want to do it. It would
involve taking on more responsiblity/stress which i don't want to do. It
would involve emotional intelligence which i've tried hard to learn, but
found difficult. Do you find emotional intelligence can be learned?
People say it can, but my experience is that i have not made much
progress, and i feel despondent about that. I am quite tired after the
pandemic and several years of working hard at my job, I think I just
want an easy life for a while. I had a good Christmas and when I came
back to work on 3 Jan I felt refreshed, interested and enthusiastic
about life and my job. But for a period of 3-4 months late last year I
was really struggling - feeling apathetic, disinterested in everyone and
everything and unmotivated. I had lots of leave but nothing seemed to
shift my mood. I thought i was having a mid life crisis or was
depressed. Then over Christmas I felt better. I got back in to reading,
socialised with family and friends and took time away from the city
where I work and got out of the work headspace for a while. Now it feels
like the blues are back, and I'm a bit worried. I know I can't rely on M
to support me as she is acting in a senior role and will be very busy. I
don't really have anyone else I can turn to. What are your tips for
feelling better when you've got the blues? What should I do? Thank you
for reading my post, I look forward to your replies. Thank you!