I Am Fed Up With Pretending

Realist_Sapien
Community Member

Hello, today I wanted to talk about just how tiring & detrimental it is pretending all the time, now dont get me wrong, I still do this subconsciously, but its harder to stay real to yourself while being forced to be a byproduct.

 

 

 

When you get to the point where you realise everybody that you know is not who they say they are while masquerading just to get ahead & cope, that's when you notice that its not that we're depressed, we just see things for what they are without any filters.

 

 

 

For instance everybody's got insecurities & it bugs me how we became so used to masking up our flaws that its become so normalised where you wonder why people have mental breakdown's & lose control of themselves, not because they're weirdo's, you really wanna know what's weird, tabooed transparency, we survive in a world full of lies & deception, where being honest distrupts the narrative.

 

 

 

I reached a conclusion where I refuse to keep giving as an empty cup to this world, even if i lose connections, not where you go & start being a jerk to everyone, because think about it.

 

 

 

As a species its an innate instinct for the mind to protect itself from negative reinforcement, now when it comes to being conditioned, they don't really do a good job teaching us being direct, becuase to get ahead in this world.

 

 

 

You gotta lie, where you realise why people find it hard to trust eachother, like avoiding detection all the time to avoid being exposed, pretending to like something you dont actually like, where eventually youre identity becomes more obscure.

 

 

 

And only doing yourself more harm than good, but dont worry, we still live in a very vibrant community, just go back to pretending everything's fine... yea okay.

 

 

 

Its very ironic how you hear people all the time saying be yourself when they dont even know how themselves, we became so docile & complacent in a society that doesnt feel right at all, what else can you possibly do you know, they got us twisted front to back.

 

 

 

But as soon as you thought everyone had your back & that mask of yours starts to slip & show its true colours, watch what happens... ei, watch what happens...

 

 

 

No matter how hard you try to fit in or impress other's, there's always that social psychological contract to uplift, you think you guys are friends just for the sake of being friends, nah nah nah, cmon now cmon, if its not authentic then its just a recipe for disaster.

 

 

 

Doesn't mean its our fault, its this culture thats toxic & surgarcoats alot, we got a long way to go.

 

 

 

Signing out.

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melodica
Community Champion

I resonate deeply with everything you have shared.I spent years performing to societal standards that were never designed for me. The physical exhaustion of masking is profound because it constantly drains the nervous system.You are right about the taboo of transparency. We are conditioned to make others comfortable at the expense of our health. Recently, I made the choice to stop pouring from an empty cup. Dropping the mask means accepting that some connections will fade. However, it creates space to find people who value genuine depth over superficial social contracts.It is a daily practice of radical acceptance to stop pretending. Your perspective is completely valid, and it takes courage to see the systemic toxicity for what it is.