worried my husband is going to die on me.

potentbee · ‎25-10-2020

Every morning, i fear that my husband isn't going to wake up i start over thinking crazy thoughts like how i would live with out him situations eg: where i would live.

There isn't anything wrong with my husband he is fine pretty much healthy apart from Cirrhosis of liver & hep c. i lost my best friend from cancer 18 years ago, i lost my pop in 2018. I think this thought of him dying comes from that? It scares me that his just not going to wake up one morning. I could not cope with losing him. he is 52 and i am 39. I really cant explain where this worry is coming from.

sunnyl20 · ‎25-10-2020

Hey potentbee,

I am sorry you are struggling with these worries - it sounds like it is really draining & becoming very distressing & overwhelming for you. You know yourself best - if you feel like the loss of your best friend & your father is contributing to your anxiety, maybe it is worth talking to someone close to you or to your GP or a mental health professional to see if they can help you work through this. Is there anything you have found helpful in trying to challenge these thoughts? Or to ground yourself or distract yourself when they become overwhelming?

I hope you are able to get a bit more peace of mind soon. Take care & please feel free to share how you are going.

Helarctus · ‎06-11-2020

Hi Potentbee,

I hope you have had some success with working through some of these worries. Have you had an opportunity to speak with your husband about this? It is completely normal for the two of you to do some 'future proofing' and planning with things like super, the house/mortgage, children etc.

Pick your timing to talk, 3am might be when you are thinking about it but your partner is likely deep asleep and waking them at this point is unlikely to generate meaningful progress. You can jot your dot points, and then hopefully get some sleep knowing you have got down what is worrying you so you can talk about it the next day when you have both had some sleep (and a coffee) and can pace through it together.