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needsupport
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Hi

I am a single parent, i have struggled with PTSD since experiencing Domestic Violence 13 years ago. My son has regular contact with his father and is now being treated for GAD. I am struggling because his behavior reminds me of his father and hence triggers my PTSD. My family are inter-state.My son is sleeping in my room and is afraid to be left home alone ( he is almost 15). What support is there for me??i am doing my best to support him but at times, I really need a break. I am hoping when school goes back he will improve.

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Scott_Depression
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Hi Needsupport

Firstly, well done on taking first step - the most important thing to do in getting help is simply to start asking questions.

My initial question is - are you getting help at present for your PTSD? Sounds like you've been through some pretty awful times in the past and need to make sure you're being attended to properly - without this, it's going to be hard to help your son.

I imagine that it's unfortunately unsurprising that your son has learned how to act like his father if he's been around him.  I imagine you'll get lots more replies which will be great, but first thing I'd advise is to get him to your GP and discuss what's going on.  It's really important for him to understand that these issues are coming up simply because his body/brain don't produce the right mix of chemicals at the right time - poor kid is kicking into a gale!

Also, it's nothing to be ashamed of - it's not his doing.  The only thing he should be ashamed of is not doing something about it once he's aware of it.  I am also guessing at 15 years old, hormones are going crazy which can impede reasonable thinking too.

Does your PTSD allow you to be able to go for a walk or something to give you a break?

Hope you find something here that helps

Kind regards

Scott