Should I question my father if he's cheating again?

[redpanda13]

1. So last year my father told me to help him send a file on his phone and when I had his phone I saw this app which had a bright red love heart on it. The app looks suspicious. But other than seeing the app, he hasn't displayed any other suspicious behavior that he's cheating. He has cheated in the past so that's why I'm making assumptions on him at the moment. I tried letting this go but it's still in the back of my mind. Any suggestions of what I should do?

Thank you!

[CheaB]

Hi RedPanda,

I hope you are well. Thank you for sharing!

Regarding the app, I would ask general questions without letting any suspicion translate into the conversation because you would want to give your father the benefit of the doubt. If the app that he is using confirms your suspicion, then I would recommend having an honest conversation as respectfully as possible. Communication is usually the best way to address such situations.

I hope this helps!

Take care,

Sarea.

[Croix]

Dear Redpanda13~

I'm afraid you are stuck with the same suspicious circumstances and and the same quandary as to what to do as has happened a couple of years ago and again last year. If you want to see what I said then go here:

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/i-think-my-dad-has-been-cheating-...

May I ask what you did then and how it has turned out? Is your mum still around and if so does she get on well with your dad?

You did mention that you had an anxiety condition, I have one too and tend to build up scenarios beyond what they deserve, however I have my partner to talk a more even perspective to me and that helps a great deal.

Do you have anyone you can talk to frankly about this? I'm not saying if you should confront him or not, however talking with someone that cares about you might help you make up your mind both as to if he is in fact cheating, and what is likely to happen to all in your family if you do confront him.

The only other things is do you think your dad loves you?

Please come back whenever you like to say how things are going, you are always welcome

Croix