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Physically sick from all the stress

AlliS
Community Member

...and that's just making me more stressed! I don't know at what point I stopped having fun at work and started feeling overwhelmed.

I work in a high pressure job and got a new manager recently. The leadership team hasn't been willing to support our team to alleviate the pressure and this has really impacted morale. Over time I've started to feel a sense of helplessness as I can't seem to find another job (not for lack of trying, I've applied to over 80).

To top it off my psych is making me date. Dating pushes my stress levels through the roof and I don't know how to handle it. That being said, my homework is a different kind of stress and I would definitely say work is the issue.

I've lost interest in my art and music pursuits. I don't see my friends, I'm too tired. I'm lightheaded and nauseated. My appettite is on and off. My skin is horrible, I'm losing hair. I've developed sleep apneoa and wake up several times each night. My dentist, psychologist, optometrist, two doctors, friends and family are telling me to get out and I can't and I'm so trapped. I don't know what to do.

Has anyone else been in this situation? Will it get better?

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blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello AlliS

Feeling this high level of stress is not a good place to be in. Having a change in management can be stressful...I understand where you are coming from. If you would like to elaborate on your new management platform we can provide you with better support. I have been in senior management for a while now and I can only try to help

You are very proactive by seeing a psychologist (like many of us do) and good on you! Can I ask what else your psychologist said...if thats okay? You mentioned above that your psychologist is making you date.....I dont really understand why your counselor is suggesting you date....

The forums are a very SAFE place for you to post AlliS...there is also no judgement here too

I really hope you can post back when its convenient. There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you 🙂

My kind thoughts

Paul

AlliS
Community Member

Hi Paul

Thanks for your response. I didn't start seeing my psych because of my job. The dating is part of why I'm seeing her in the first place, but I've spent the last three sessions with her mostly discussing work.

In terms of management, my new direct line manager is much less supportive and seems to be less "in our corner". I have been given a very large program to coordinate on my own, and the management team keep expressing concern that I'm "working too hard" and developing burnout. However when I ask them for support, the answer is an outright no. I am effectively working two full time roles at the moment and have been for the last 6 months. Their expectations of the program are high and I'm just unable to deliver because I'm trying to maintain standards across the two roles.

To top it off, I've just stopped caring. I'm so tired. The only thing that gets me through the day is imaging what a relief it will be to hand in my resignation. When we're talking about future initiatives, I just switch off. I'm procrastinating on work and that's making me even more stressed.

And finally, when I express how stressed I am, our managers tell us that "emotion has no place in the workplace" and that we need to better control ourselves, which just means we're bottling it up and tempers are starting to fray.

Ironically I studied a field that is aimed at reducing the "workers are robots" attitude, and I'm not even working in that field so no one takes me seriously when I tell them that there are better ways to go about doing things (I say this very diplomatically, mostly).

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hey AlliS

I am ex corporate and after reading what you said it makes me sad that this management style still exists. This is a toxic work environment to be in...'emotion has no place in the workplace'??

I see mental exhaustion here....not just for you...but for the many other employees as well Alli.

You are a very articulate and proactive person. Can I ask if you have any sick pay owing? (just so I can try to offer some support)

Im sorry about the questions Alli...you mentioned in your first post about losing hair and sleep...this is dark place to be in. Just out of respect to you...I am a volunteer here and my background is senior management and human resources with multi nationals..

I know you dont enjoy what you do for living despite the effort you put in...dual roles.....I have seen that before..hmmm. Besides the financials would you leave if you have a position that paid less?

Your health is paramount Alli....all other considerations are secondary (which you know anyway..)

I hope you can post back when you have the time...I am astounded that there are people that still think that 'emotion has no place in the workplace'

you are not alone

My kindest

Paul