New job

[Lacie]

Hey everyone,

so this has been affecting me for sometime and now it is really affecting me, I have been working for the same company for over 7 years, and I want to get out.. I have applied for many other job, I have no problem going for the interview I get a tad nervous but when they offer me the job or to go for a trial I literally can’t physically go into the work place, I had a trial this morning I got all the way to the place and I couldn’t get out of my car, I can’t even explain why though it’s like I start having negative thoughts in my head and it gets so bad that I can’t go in. And this morning I just lost it crying in my car because it is really affecting me but I don’t know how to deal with my thoughts and just take that step into going into the work place.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hey Lacie,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for being here.

I'm sorry that you're struggling with anxiety and that it's holding you back from work. Sounds like while you're okay with the interviews its starting the job that's the problem.

Can you tell us more about what runs through your mind? What makes it so bad that you can't go in?

A big part of being able to cope is first recognising all of what's going on - name it, label it. Are these thoughts helpful/harmful? Is there a kind of pattern to them? Are they generally about the same thing or scattered?

Even though your anxiety is holding your back; it does serve a purpose. So it's about recognising what that purpose might be or what you're afraid of and then you can work through it.

Hope this helps,

[ClintonA]

I totally understand what you’re experiencing. I suffer the same problem and have done for as long as I can remember. I’m currently unemployed after leaving my job of 8 years which I hated most of the time to go to a new job only to have my “new job anxiety” once again ruin it for me which has happened so many times since around the age of 17 til now and I’m 41. It’s robbed me of so many great work opportunities and it’s embarrassing to have to explain it to people so I normally just make up some excuse as to why the job didn’t work out. I don’t really have depression any other times but this situation definitely puts me into a deep depression which I’m struggling with but have been on medication for just over 4 weeks now and feeling much better although the same problem is still with me and that’s finding and more importantly staying at a new job.