Moving out of my parents place

[Romy]

I have GAD and a big trigger for me is CHANGE. This past weekend I moved out of my parents place into a small rental unit with a girl I hadn’t met before. I have said for years I never want to rent, I want to stay at home and save so I can one day buy my own place. After an argument with my parents one night I just randomly went online and found a rental and moved out a few weeks after. So I ended up at this rental for only 2 nights before I realised I’d made a huge mistake. I’ve spent the past 3 days crying, unable to eat much. I’m moving back to my parents place (which they are completely supportive of because they wanted me to stay at home and save in the first place). I feel so stupid for giving up after 2 nights. I’m not one to give up when my anxiety is bad, I always push through, but this situation did not feel right for me so I’m moving back home. I don’t know how to push away this feeling that I have failed and I am also worried that when I do have to move out one day I’m really going to struggle. Advice, words of reassurance or similar experiences?

[white knight]

Hi,

I am the opposite really.

At 17 years and 4 days I joined the Air Force. From that day onwards I moved regularly. But I did have a number of years where my money management was poor and I returned home. It didnt work out. My parents and I argued a lot. I realised then that they needed their space.

In a way I dont think it is good that your parents encourage you to return home. Just my opinion, better to learn to grow on your own. What I do know is that every time I moved house I felt weird and uncomfortable for several weeks until it became "home".

TonyWK

[socialmoth]

Hi Romy,

I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. I think moving out of home can be a really big step for some people and an easier step for others, it all depends on the person.

You should never feel like you failed in this situation. You gave it a go, had the experience and now can learn from it. That is incredibly valuable. You've also been able to cement your values through this experience (valuing saving for your own place instead of renting). When you move out next time, you may find it difficult, but you sound like you're incredibly strong and have this experience to look back on to know what to do differently next time.