Is this bad?

[Coco18-8]

I am an eighteen year old and the last time I remember hanging out with a friend was nearly two months ago. We went clubbing with her friends and to be honest I really didn’t enjoy clubbing. You see I work 6 days a week ( i have two jobs) plus I play a sport. So I do leave the house and interact with people and of course have work friends. But every time a friend asks to hangout I never want to and if I feel obligated to go i have terrible anxiety about it. Is it bad that every time a friend asks me to hangout I automatically don’t want to. To be fair majority of the times it usually in a group of people I don’t know and it’s something to do with drinking or clubbing . Two things I don’t mind but I would rather have a one on one dinner with them rather then doing the other stuff because I would rather not have a panic attack. But does that make it bad that every time I get invited to a event like this I say no automatically and get hit with a wave of anxiety when this is what everyone my age does?

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

Well might I say it's refreshing to read of someone young with hard working ethic. That will pay off.

I've always been resistant to the "sheep" mentality eg doing things because everyone else my age does it. The local men's shed is a prime example, I won't join no matter the pressure, it isn't my thing. Yet I built 2 houses and 2 caravans.

Having said that, a balance could be rewarding. Meeting people is a social need of most so, if you do join them clubbing then make the most of it and move around the venue to meet new people. As a guy when I went to dances, clubs, it used to amuse me that girls would congregate all night. 

So, no, your desires can be different and active venues aren't for everyone.  Remain yourself, embrace your personality but leave the door open to going with your friends if your anxiety reduces.

Be free.

TonyWK