I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and think I am a narcissist

[Arrogantwizard]

I've never posted like this before so bare with me. Me and my ex girlfriend the other night had a big argument/discussion about me and my problems that I've been lying about for 3 years and trying to hide from her.

I don't want to talk about specifics but she would've prefered if I had cheated on her than know what the real truth was. 

I don't feel anything about it, she just kept asking questions and for once I tried to answer fully sincerely and even then could not stop lying. Eventually she got the whole truth and felt utterly distraught and horrified at me. I am going to tell my only closest friend too and am so scared.

I want to fix myself and in hoping this is part of that process. I am wondering if there is any narcissist or person with narcissistic tendencies who is getting active therapy that has any advice at all.

[Mark Z.]

Hi Arrogantwizard,

I'm sorry, it must be frustrating for you. But I can tell that your self awareness has been awakened. You want to fix yourself, you shared your story here, you are going to talk to your best friend, and you are considering active therapy... These are all positive signals that you are very keen to get back to the right track.

I'm not a professional and don't have experience of relative therapy, but I'd encourage you to talk to your GP for further referral or ring Beyondblue hotline for some professional advice. Don't label yourself a narcissist, everyone has their own dark side, give yourself a chance to change.

Mark