Feeling so stuck

[Tizzles]

Hi all,

New to BB... I feel as though I’ve always had some anxiety. I don’t cope well with change and have constant panic attacks and bouts of nausea when anything in my life changes. I’m honestly not Ute what it all stems from. I’m a bit of an introvert and find it difficult to make friends.

My main issue is recently I came down sick while in a job that I really didn’t like. It’s now been 3 and a half months since I have worked. I am no longer sick but I cannot bring myself to go to work. I have quit that job and gotten a new one but I ha e been stuck calling in sick for the last 6 weeks as I just cannot bring myself to go. I think I’m worried that I’ll be judged, especially as I had so much time off. I know I’m good at my job but I just struggle to be confident around others. Another problem is that I work shift work and hate it. All I want is to be able to go to work and be able to come home and have dinner with my partner and watch the news and feel normal. I have no body clock when it comes to sleeping as my work is all over the place. Sadly it is very hard to get a mon-fri 9-5 job in my profession.

i have since enrolled to start studying something entirely different and have thought about quitting my job and going back to retail while I study but I don’t want people to judge me or be disappointed in me. I care way too much about what others think and that’s a major down fall.

i haven’t seen a GP or spoken to anyone because I don’t know how to approach it. I’m a pretty closed off person. My partner knows what’s going on and that’s the only person. I just don’t know if it would be acceptable for him to come to the GP and speak on my behalf. I’m a grown adult, surely I should be able to do it myself.

Just feeling very stuck in life at the moment and I don’t know how to get on top of it. It is all spiralling out of control. Any advice would be great.

[Just Sara]

Hi and welcome Tizzles;

Your story is a common theme among anxiety sufferers. It's no wonder you take so many sick days; I did the same thing before I was medically retired.

Talking it out with a professional is really important as they're not connected emotionally with you or your issues. I know your caring partner is doing what he can to support you, but still rivers run deep, sometimes too deep for loved ones.

If you're wondering how to bring it up, print out a copy of your above post and take it with you to see your GP and then a psychologist/counsellor. It expresses your story well and will give them a starting point for further questions and therapy, including a MH plan.

Best not to put things off as nothing gets better from procrastination or avoidance. Please know you can talk here anytime if you're unsure or just need a chat with people who understand what you're going thru.

Maybe check out the info sheets below, scout the threads for related topics or chat in the social zone until you feel comfortable.

I wish you well hun...don't be a stranger. 🙂

Kind regards;

Sez

[startingnew]

hello Tizzles

i wanted to welcome you to BB as well. i dont have much to add to Sez's post except to say that your not alone and there are many other anxiety sufferrers here. its brave of you to reach out to others esp being a closed off sort of person, so well done 🙂