Face book - Would you post

[Spud48]

Hi,

I am new to this forum, I have had Anxiety of on for long time.

I never tell anyone that I have it as I feel week, Sometimes I think I would better off just letting the all of the

people I know that i have it would somehow relieve the Stress . I would like to here other suffers thoughts on this issue?

Also FB is very confusing for me sometimes and becomes a negative as i think everyone else has a great life and mine in shite.(I know this s not the case but its just the way i feel. Again what do others think of FB and is it worth it??

Spud

[Spud48]

hi Soberlicious96,

Thanks for your message, it was very helpful.

I like the duck story cause thats exactly how i feel sometimes.

And I do affirmations when i arrive at work each day which helps a lot. I will start doing before i go to bead

also as great to go to sleep with positive thoughts. And Im glad Im me warts and all. LOL

Spud

[Spud48]

Hi Paul,

I shut it down for 3 months but missed the classifieds, So started again and had no friends for months.(im like the dude of the castle)

Then started the friend thing again but have been selective as to who I accept or ask to be friends with. We live in the North of QLD so its a great way for my wife and my families to keep in touch and see what we are up to.

Its a hard one and its addictive in a way. I just have to show constraint and not look at it daily!

Ill check out your post - And thanks for welcoming me to the Family Forum. I will be hanging around

as i am already finding it very helpful!

Spud

[quirkywords]

Spud48,

I have just seen your thread.

I am in the older age group that didn't grow up with a computer and for me Face Book is great for keeping in touch with my family and extended family. I don't post personal posts mainly the odd quote or photograph of some family member visiting me.

I have a page for my shop.

I know it can be stressful for people so I feel lucky it helps me keep in touch. Maybe it is my age that helps.

Quirky

[Doolhof]

Hi Spud,

I've been glancing through this thread. It sounds like yo are trying to do things that help you through each day, like your exercise and positive thoughts and mediations.

For me, it depends how I am feeling as to how I interact with Facebook. I do like to see people's photos, especially of their children or their pets. It can make me feel left out, jealous or unworthy at times, but that is HOW I INTERPRET WHAT I AM LOOKING AT!

If I am having a lousy day, stuff will trigger me. Other days I feel happy for others and what they are doing and achieving. I don't tend to share much about myself on Facebook.

This forum though is different, this is a safe place to share how you are feeling and let people know what you are not coping with.

We can also share what is helping and know that people understand and won't think yo are trying to be better than them.

Hopefully you and all people using the forums will not feel like they have to compare themselves to others.

Cheers to you from Dools

[Guest_093]

Just had to give my input on this, my thoughts on the 'facebook' matter is that you really have to watch what you say on it as it can be taken seriously out of context by people that know you as it is it is a public social page. I have been spoken to by my boss about what I have posted there as in 'just watch the posts you put on f/b' as in likes and posts, so it is a good thing to limit yourself and stay in control with what you are reading good and bad and time wise. I myself have fallen into the what I call the f/b trap and have limited myself to only once per day and to only the happy groups that I choose on that day whereas beyond blue group have been nothing but honest, caring and supporting in everything that I have written in the time that I have been involved here I believe more in beyond blue that any other group that I have ever been involved with over the many years that I have traveled the long hard road and still walking lol. All the best Spitfire1

[Spud48]

Thanks Spitfire - Yes I have limit myself more.

Great that your getting support from this forum. It seems very positive and helpful.

Spud

[Doolhof]

Hi Spud, Spitfire and All,

I'm not really sure ow I feel about employers having access to what you post and react to on Facebook. I suppose if you are very careful how you interact on Facebook you won't have any issues.

I tend to just have a look and maybe like people's photos of family or their pets.

Sometimes I will read a longer section of interaction between various people. It can become very heated at times! Some people don't seem to care what they write!

This forum is completely different. Yes, there are times when people might upset each other, but generally this is an environment where people try to help, support, validate and acknowledge each other.

Hopefully it is a place where everyone feels welcome and safe.

Cheers all from Dools

[Spud48]

HI Dools,

I am the employer LOL and I agree with you,

I spend more time at work and with the staff then I do with my family. I dont need to see

what they do on the weekends and vica versa.

Spud!

[Guest_093]

hi y'all just a further post on this subject that i would like to add! I originally joined f/b to chat to my nephew and niece who live in Brisbane to which i did, now 2 years later have got myself involved in social media i believe in the wrong way, getting caught up in other people posts & not liking what I read or see, gone from my original plan of just befriending and being in contact with my family, it is so easy for me anyway to get hooked up in social posts and spending more and more time on f/b than anywhere else, gone is my belief so i have control of it once again for me and have unfriended who i have had to to the point that I think they only friended me to use me to get what they want so no more now!!! The following issue is nothing to do with f/b but she was a f/b friend. This workmate involved me in another issue that happened @ another store @ my current store & spent the afternoon raving on about the issue and basically did nothing for the time her/I on shift i did tell her when i had had enough to 'shut up' a few more words were spoken, she went home @ 3. I did not get all my work done that afternoon, went to work next shift and 1 task she was supposed to do was not done, so spent nearly all my shift doing her work so i retaliated and wrote a very nasty note in communication book aimed @ her but worded it wrongly that the whole team are now upset with me for writing down what I thought was a point, i was so angry about the whole episode and today the boss said to me not to write down anything like that again as it upsets people but to bring it up with the person concerned I have let not talking to other work person before so much that it has gone to the mediation stage and no positive outcome so as i said earlier i did tell her to 'shut up' & do some work and few more words so then boss told me to bring the issue up with her so i wish she was there on that day and i would've and i probably would not being so upset about the whole matter. now i am getting the cold treatment from fellow workmates about the note and i was just trying to put a message across to that 1 person that basically sat on her arse for the shift and does not give a shit. so now i feel alientated by everyone @ work including the boss and feel I have done the wrong thing yet again because i felt the need to stand up for myself and now i am beating myself up over it. Spitfire1