Driving anxiety

[Hannahmk]

OK so there's something that is genuinely bothering me and not too sure where else to post it . 

I really don't know if again it's girls who just feel threatened/intimidated by me I went in the other day and had a really open conversation with these people anyway it my job agency I was getting assigned a new job agent with the boss and we had am appointment the 3 of us. I swear this always happens to me too especially when like I'm happy and in a good mood. But anyway fast forward I was talking about how I have driving anxiety and couldn't do specific drives and I'd also wanted to move into state . Girl was so rude she was like ' I did it it was easy ' but it was like she just kept repeating it bit like she was just trying to rub it in my face.. just the fact it's a disability job agency (des) let along organisation just annoys me that's job role is supposed to be supporting people ... really pissed me off. 

Like another incident few weeks ago went into the gtm too I'm just nice and friendly and honestly just try to get along with everyone yeah . But there's always that one person that has to act up on me and causing fkn drama seriously I've just about hit my threshold and I just feel like next time I'm going to lose it and go absolutely off I'm at my absolute bl**dy wits end . But went into three gym and these workers just were laughing at me and giving me a really smug /rude look... just annoys me 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome,

The fact is- people overall are not a nice species. Those of us that are timid or show any kind of weakness or are in a less dominating role are prize feeding for narcissists or cruel types. 

We are talking about our nature, which is submissive or sensitive or just unwell and vulnerable. Fortunately for me when I was a young man I worked in a jail for 3 years and realised early on if I didnt stand up for myself and counter the onslaught of abuse and threats- I was indeed left a marked man easily manipulated or in danger. But, I didnt change quick enough and was left with many conflicts. I was 21-24yo then and I didnt fully change until I was in my 40's. That's because our nature isnt easy to change, rather our nature remains but we change our approach to realise if we dont cater for this element in society we are sitting ducks.

So how do counter these threats to us in society? Well it isnt always good to yell and out in a threatening way in return, but wit is your answer as with being staunch and determined. EG that person that kept saying "it's easy" maybe saying "I find swimming 20 kilometres easy but would you"? or "but we arent talking about your abilities are we, only my abilities".  This wit is essential to shutting people down where they make comments of judgement. Practice it, you'll be amazed at how you can turn the tables.

Some common comments can be-

• but I'm not here to live up to your expectations but to seek my own capabilities
• Do you always repeat yourself?
• I'm here to get help, if it isnt forthcoming I might as well find another attendant
• Are you here to help or hinder?

Mastering these sayings is a challenge as it borders on being nasty yourself but if done with a smile and softly spoken it can be more effective than yelling. If you are reduced to tears- they've got you!!

Here is a few posts, you only need to read the first page of each.

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/wit-the-only-answer-for-torment/td-p/71440

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/accepting-yourself-the-frog-and-the-scorpion/td-p/1...

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-survival/td-p/216226

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-survival-part-3-workp...

I hope they help. Reply anytime

TonyWK

[Ranga-1]

JSPs can be asses. My husband has to deal with them. 

Tell them anxiety is not a laughing matter and you're there to make the most of your capabilities etc. WE all have our strengths. 

Can you get some help for the driving? If not, what other employment options are available to you?