Hi green-s,
So do you remember how/when this not being able to sleep business started? Do you have trouble sleeping next to him at your place or his place, or both places?
Do you feel like you do have trouble with your relationship? Have you talked with him about not feeling comfortable sleeping next to him? If so, then what does he say?
Do you sleep well in your own bed by yourself?
When you are at his place, can you sleep in another room a couple of times and see if you sleep well then. Do you feel uncomfortable at his place for some reason?
When you are together during the day are there any times when you don't feel at ease being with him?
Maybe you could try writing out how you are feeling, write about it until you can't think of any more reasons why this is happening. Maybe you will come up with the answers if you keep thinking about it and writing how you are feeling.
I know it is easier to say than to do, but if you don't worry about it so much, then the problem won't seem so huge. The more we think about something, the bigger that thing becomes in our mind.
Has the night time routine changed in some way when you are together? Has something happened that has upset you?
I'm not sure what else to suggest! Hope you can work this one out! Not worrying about it is the best option, but difficult to do I realise!
All the best with this one. From Mrs. Dools
