Break up anxiety triggered

[k_0891]

Hi all, I’m 31 & have suffered severe anxiety in the past where I have had ambulances come to the house and numerous hospital trips. My anxiety is based on a warm rush through my heart & body leading me to think I’m leading up to a heart attack. This all disappeared when I had met my recent partner, we had been together a year and 2 months, it has suddenly ended and all of a sudden I feel myself heading straight back into that anxious place - I am mortified as I didn’t cope very well. Has anyone gone through the same thing? 

[smallwolf]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time with your anxiety, especially after feeling like you had made progress in managing it. Breakups can be incredibly difficult, and with everything going on for you, it has triggered your anxiety again?

While I haven't had the same experience as you (breakup + symptoms), I can imagine how overwhelming it must feel to be dealing with those physical sensations and the fear that they bring.

That said, the feeling of the heart racing is something I am familiar with - triggered by opening emails. Is there something you think that might be a trigger for you?

Coping with anxiety can be challenging, but there are strategies that can help.

What coping techniques you have used in the past that have been helpful? I can tell you what has worked for me otherwise.

Healing and recovery are not linear processes, and it's okay to have setbacks. Please try to take care of yourself and seek support when you need it. Listening to you.

[jaz28]

Hi there,

I am sorry to hear about your recent breakup. Breakups suck. Plain and simple. Having anxiety does not help you when going through normal heartbreak, of course, but just know that feeling upset, disappointment, angry and anxious is all normal feelings after this. Your anxiety may be making all of this worse, though.

Allow yourself to feel your feelings and grieve the relationship that you had. Eventually, it will be a distant memory and you will find someone else that can make you feel just as happy, if not better. One thing to learn is that you cannot base your mental health and happiness on one person, that isn't fair to them, and it isn't helping you to cope on your own. Maybe being on your own may help your coping skills in a positive way.

I would suggest seeing your doctor and your psychologist (if you have one), it is important to have mental health support, now more than ever. 

I hope things get better (they will) ❤️ 

Jaz xx