Any suggestions?

[Darkshadow9591]

I may have anxiety and depression (I did a lot of online tests that all came out as sever anxiety and depression but am still not 100% sure) but only told a school friend which isn't helping but only making it worse. She doesn't care about me harming my self or my feelings and never asks if I'm ok even when it's obvious I'm not. I was gonna ditch her as she hasn't been the person I expected, but she might tell people things like my depression and anxiety so any ideas, I'm really stuck?

[Sophie_M]

Hey Darkshadow9591,

Welcome to our forums and thanks for sharing what you are going through here. It's not easy to do and we're very grateful that you took this brave step. Please know you are in a safe, supportive place where others will be able to provide their insight and support. We are also reaching out to you privately to offer additional support.

It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we’re sorry your friend didn’t offer you the support you were hoping for. We can imagine you’re feeling alone and stuck. We'd strongly encourage you to reach out and get the help you deserve and need. Talking to a qualified, caring professional will help you clarify your situation and plan the next steps.

Can we ask if you’ve talked to anyone else other than your friend about what you’re experiencing, like a school counsellor or therapist? We'd also strongly encourage you to reach out to Kids Helpline which supports young people at 1800 55 1800. They also have a 24/7 webchat service at: https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

Please keep posting here to let us know how you're doing, whenever you feel up to it.
 

[HappyHelper88]

Hello Darkshadow9591, Thankyou for your post and welcome

Im so sorry your friend wasnt supportive when you told them, do you have someone else you can talk to about this?
I am so sorry that you have been treated like this but I can assure you people do care about you, I am glad you could see her true colours and you deserve better

You definitely don't need people like this in your life but I get that if you cut her off she may talk about you to others and this could be hurtful, My only suggestion would be to slowly cut down contact as in don't cut her out but contact her less show less interest etc just to slowly cut ties that way it feels like you naturally lost touch and not that you cut her off so she may not feel the need to share what you told her

I hope this helps

[geoff]

Hello Darkshadow, doing online tests for depression and anxiety can be done several times, because each time you do it, you may feel differently, but even what score you get, it's really up to a doctor to diagnose you.

I'm sorry about your friend wanting no help to assist you, but sometimes it scares them and don't know how to approach a situation like what you have been through, but nevertheless, it's disappointing and you have every right to make this decision.

There is a possibility that others at your school also are suffering from some type of depression but are hiding it from everyone, so they may not approach you to offer any help because it might indicate to their friends that they are also having problems but may still empathise with what you are going through.

We are here to always listen to what you have to say and offer all the support that's possible, so if you would like to come back to us and tell us a little more, we certainly want to help you.

Geoff.

[Stui]

Hi Darkshadow95991, thank you for posting and sharing this is a good place to start. I have had anxiety particularly when I was at school. It feels like a very empty space especially when you reach out to someone and they don't offer support but it is important to be aware everyone here does want to support you and help in anyway they can. From personal experience I can assure you this feeling will pass eventually in the meantime I would encourage you encourage you to speak to your school counsellor if you have one, if not your GP who would be able to refer you to the appropriate help. You are defiantly not alone so please do not feel you are and let us know how things go.

[Petal22]

Hi Darkshadow,

Wellcome to our forums!

I understand severe anxiety I went through this it was horrible….. I had OCD.

Im sorry that your friend wasn’t very helpful.

Please know we are all a very caring supportive community and you can chat to us anytime.

Have you been able to speak to your parents about the way you are feeling?

I have now recovered from severe anxiety, thanks to the health professionals I saw.

Can you make an appointment to see your gp as stui has mentioned? You can do a mental health plan together this will enable you to see a psychologist who can give you many strategies for anxiety…. You really can learn to manage it.