anxiety depression

[Guest_95562658]

1. hi i am a 25 year old woman.i suffer from bad anxiety and depression. get called fat by my mum and when i was young i used of got hit by my mum dad and brother.got kick out of the house so many times made to sleep on the street .i got trick in thinking someone love me at a young teenage years and got trick to sleeping with them .i get called name off my own family near everyday and get told there rather me gone then been here .i try therapy and that seem to help for that day then the pain all come back to me the very next day.

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Guest,

I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through, with mistreatment from your family and being treated abusively. It is really, really hard. Are you still living with your family now? If you are still with them, it can be difficult to begin to heal, being in an abusive environment. I can understand how the therapy may help on the day but then the pain comes back.

Has your current therapist suggested any strategies for maybe finding your way out of your current situation? I'm also wondering if giving The Blue Knot Foundation a call may help. They support people with complex trauma such as ongoing trauma that comes from family situations of abuse. They may have some ideas of how to begin to find some safety and stabilisation in your world. Their phone number is 1300 657 380. They are available everyday from 9am to 5pm (eastern states time) and you can call them up to once a week. The calls are usually 30 minutes these days but 45 minutes if they are less busy.

Often finding some feelings of safety and stabilisation within yourself is the beginning of a healing process. It's like the first step in feeling empowered that you can do something about your situation. For those of us who have experienced childhood abuse, we can feel so overwhelmed on a daily basis and everything can feel unsafe. But it is possible to gradually start finding islands of safety within our world. Sometimes that can be simply grounding and connecting with something we find peaceful, such as some time in nature or with a pet we love.

Is there anything in your world you enjoy doing or feel a connection with? You are a worthy person who deserves support. We are listening and here for you if you want to talk more.

Take good care,

Eagle Ray

[sbella02]

Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your experiences with us, welcome to the forums.

I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through such awful experiences and for so long. It sounds like you've been through a lot. That anxiety and depression would likely be your mind's way of trying to keep up with what you've gone through. 

Do you have any other trusted people in your support network who you would feel comfortable talking to about how you're feeling? Friends, co-workers, other external family members? Otherwise, would you feel comfortable joining some kind of club or group based on an interest of yours? This can also be a great way to meet some really supportive, likeminded people who can offer you the affection, love, and energy that you deserve. 

It sounds like therapy may be good when you're talking through things in the moment but that you're missing out on those longer-term strategies that will help you feel better when you're not on the therapy couch. Letting your therapist know that you're still feeling this way is important for them to be able to plan for your healing journey in a way that will be more helpful for you. Otherwise, it may be a case of trying a new therapist or mental health professional, if you would be open to that. 

Are there any self-care activities that you do regularly, or would like to be doing regularly? Sometimes these can make a world of difference, as these can help you build up that wall of confidence to defend against the awful things that other people can sometimes say. Things like journalling, meditation, anything with a relaxing or reflective element can be really impactful. 

I hope this helps, and please feel free to keep chatting with us if you'd like, we're here to listen and support you.

Take care, SB