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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Leoj I just don't know anymore.
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I don't know where to begin. For the last year or so I feel as though I have been a lot sadder. It all started with the loss of some of my friends from school and although I made new ones I don't feel like there always there for me, and I just hate m... View more

I don't know where to begin. For the last year or so I feel as though I have been a lot sadder. It all started with the loss of some of my friends from school and although I made new ones I don't feel like there always there for me, and I just hate my school in general. Not only this but I'm the type of person who I guess you can say is sensitive, every time someone talks crap about me or makes fun of me I just soak it up and it really hurts me, to the extent where it will be on my mind for the rest of the night. i don't often tell people this however as it would just make me appear as though I am a weak male, even though I know I am. Recently my whole attitude has changed towards my family I sometimes feel as though I'm hated. I'm always getting yelled at and screamed at and lately I've just been snapping back cause I just don't know what to do anymore. This can result in me being hit sometimes or even just more abusive comments. I work 6 days a week just to escape all of this even though I'm trying to balance it with school. At work I feel a little better as it's just an escape from everything, but all the comments made towards me there also get to me. It's just gotten to the stage where I don't know, I feel like my life is just a constant repeat of work, school, homework and sadness. I think I may be depressed however I don't know as there are people who I know are going through much worse. Ita gotten to the stage where I feel like I need to do drugs or something to feel happy. Only the other day I went to a party and however usually I wouldn't I just started drinking a whole lot of alcoholic beverages in hope I'd feel better. However even then ironically I felt no change of anything it made me feel worse. I do have suicidal thoughts however I'm too much of a coward to do anythjng. I just dont know anymore. I just feel so alone, I want to runaway. Sorry for the essay.

BakingBabushka I don't know where to go from here.
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Hi all, I'm in a bit of a tough spot at the moment. I've been chronically ill for about 2.5 years, most of it I have been bed or chair ridden not being able to travel anywhere due to what it does to me. I didn't initially tell my friends or family mu... View more

Hi all, I'm in a bit of a tough spot at the moment. I've been chronically ill for about 2.5 years, most of it I have been bed or chair ridden not being able to travel anywhere due to what it does to me. I didn't initially tell my friends or family much because I just assumed I was going to die and didn't want to get close to anyone, plus I also couldn't talk because it made me sick. I didn't have a lot of choice and they were supportive from a far. None of them ever visited me for my 6 month hospital stint and they don't reach out to me personally. Lately I've become more mentally alert and able to start doing a little more so I'm noticing more around me. I've been getting really upset and get in spots where I can't make myself happy or just want to crawl up in a ball and cry for days. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I've tried talking to them about it but they're all so busy with their own lives I don't get the chance. I don't really know what to do anymore, besides my immediate family I don't have anybody checking on me or visiting me. I'm scared one day I'm going to get into one of my bad places and never come out of it because I feel completely alone and sometimes wonder if they would actually notice if I checked out for a few days. I don't like asking for help and talking about my personal life but I can't keep watching them all be best friends and I'm at home crying myself through another week alone. Does anyone have any advice as to how I can get my friends to help me or actually care?

Alec What is wrong with me? / Vent
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Hi everyone, I have always been self critical and have struggled with low self esteem all my life, it got a bit better when i went to high school but in the last year or two it has gotten worse, i have been diagnosed with depression but I dont feel d... View more

Hi everyone, I have always been self critical and have struggled with low self esteem all my life, it got a bit better when i went to high school but in the last year or two it has gotten worse, i have been diagnosed with depression but I dont feel depressed i go through months of being fine and them boom im depressed for a few hours to a few days i wouldnt say im happy the rest of the time im just meh I get angry very easily and i take it out on others and project my feelings and thoughts onto them and i hate myself for it but at the same time i feel better after. I had a few months where it was bad and i felt numb and flat and lacking purpose thats when i got the diagnosis but it went away and went back to normal but every now and then i get depressed again and i dont know why. I dont feel like i have depression because im not sad. Im just not sure why i feel like this. It might be to do with realising that i might be transgender but i was like this before i realised or had dysphoria. sometimes i feel like whats the point in anything and that people would be better of without me, that im stupid a lot of other negative thoughts but its not constant it fluctuates. I just dont know what is wrong?and ironically enough I want to work in the mental health field and help people at there worst so after a sucicde attempt, abuse victims and people who hate themselves but i cant do that if im not emotionally stable and since i dont know why i get depressed I cant really treat it and i really dont want to take meds.

Adam177 Girlfriend with anxiety wont drive me anywhere
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Okay, so after more than a year I've been with her and she has really bad anxiety. She never drives me anywhere becuase apparently i will judge her. It is really starting to annoy me to say the least. But the thing is, she can drop my good friend hom... View more

Okay, so after more than a year I've been with her and she has really bad anxiety. She never drives me anywhere becuase apparently i will judge her. It is really starting to annoy me to say the least. But the thing is, she can drop my good friend home after school with no troubles. How do I fix this? Please help

Klojo99 Anxiety is destroying my life
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Hey, i have really serve anxiety and it is literally taking over my life I can't work or be away from home it's stupid, I honestly don't feel as though I can live like this anymore , I want to go and study next year but so anxious about what will hap... View more

Hey, i have really serve anxiety and it is literally taking over my life I can't work or be away from home it's stupid, I honestly don't feel as though I can live like this anymore , I want to go and study next year but so anxious about what will happen and stuff need someone to talk to,

KB12 New here and recently seeked help for my depression
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Hey, im 20yrs old new here dont know how to start or anything just seeking help in how to cope. So i have suspected i have had depression about 6 months ago but didnt act on it, only really told my girlfriend of 6 years since i was 14 i was but didnt... View more

Hey, im 20yrs old new here dont know how to start or anything just seeking help in how to cope. So i have suspected i have had depression about 6 months ago but didnt act on it, only really told my girlfriend of 6 years since i was 14 i was but didnt really go further than that. I took a really bad path about 2 years ago leading into drugs 'not massively but was a big part of my life i dont believe im an addict but wanted to do it alot' and i dragged my girlfriend down with me, she was the adventurous and mature type and i brought the worst out in here. We where a really really great couple and found true love 'sounds corny but it was true i could spend my life with her'. I didnt know what i was turning into or not like i cared and pushed everything away including family and really good old mates. I lost everything through that path like my lisence for almost 3 years, close mates and my partner. she finally snap it and left me only 3 weeks ago and told me to cut all contact with her and doing so decided to get back at me by adding guys on social media and liking everything 'what absolutely tore me apart'. Her doing that made me realise what i turned into and i wasnt myself realising that the depression i suspected was from that life and not wanting what i truly wanted out of my life, i wanted the life with her. That then made me contact her trying to fight for her and she just pushed me away blocking me off everything what drove me into the ground. I found reality with what i was doing then having no chance with the person i truly wanted really broke me. I then got really really bad into pot i know its only pot but i was really really abusing it in a bad mind set, that brought on the self-halm thought what one night almost acted on it well i did but couldnt go through with it. I contacted my mother what she then made me get help what i really need. Im now diagnosed with depression and really not coping with it, i just wish i realised what i was doing earlier when i didnt loose my partner. I dont really know what im asking just really need help on how to cope with all this, hoping someone has been through the same what can give me some help. Thanks

Dean96 Not to sure?
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This is the first time i have ever tried something like this so here goes... In the past month i became unemployed due to my work closing down. Myself and my partner of 20 months moved from my home town to start a fresh life. My partner has found wor... View more

This is the first time i have ever tried something like this so here goes... In the past month i became unemployed due to my work closing down. Myself and my partner of 20 months moved from my home town to start a fresh life. My partner has found work but i have so far struggled to do the same. I spend my days sitting at home often just on the couch watching tele or cleaning or laying in bed. I dont real feel anything emotionally and thats what kinda worries me. I feel that it may have nothing to do with me being without a job but it could do. I was raised by my grandmother and didnt really have my parents in my life till i was about 7-8 years old and i worry this might have effected me but im not to sure, i kinda just feel empty. I Love my partner very much but sometimes i don't even have the feelings to love him enough, its like i don't have feelings at all. I get very emotional over the smallest of things and often just burst into tears. Does anyone else have any thoughts on whats happening to me. Could it just be the latter stages of puberty, i am 19 nearly 20 years old.

immapsych_student Need some advice :(
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Hi, I'm an (international) undergrad psych student. In uni, everyone calls me a bright spark, an active volunteer, an outgoing future leader but deep down I feel worthless at home. Don't get me wrong though, my parents and grandparents love me to bit... View more

Hi, I'm an (international) undergrad psych student. In uni, everyone calls me a bright spark, an active volunteer, an outgoing future leader but deep down I feel worthless at home. Don't get me wrong though, my parents and grandparents love me to bits but since I moved to Aus, I'm staying with my uncle (my mum's bro) and my aunt. Apparently, my uncle told me to stay without having to pay for anything including rental and it got my 'aunt' furious about it. The problem here is that she treated me nicely when people are around but she started to call me names when it's only us at home. Few months back, she told me to look for a room on campus. Without hesitation, I agreed but still, I had to tell my parents about it. Basically my family back in my country was rather dissapointed so they called to ask her about it. However, she backstabbed me instead and accused me of being a liar and said that it was me who insisted on moving our with my friends. I have to be honest here, I've never got that sort of thoughts before as education is my top priority. I told my uncle the truth (i.e. the things she said to me when my uncle wasn't around). She started to call me rude, liar, etc. And yes, I lost my uncle's trust as well. Since then, she never talked to me and when she sees me coming back from uni, she will bang the doors and everything (only when my uncle is not at home though). I am very, very upset for being accused and mistreated like this especially when I actually respected them all these while. I grew up with strict parents and there is no way they will teach me to mistreat others. I tried to engage with more people in uni, get involved in more on/off campus activities and more. Yes, I acheived what I wanted as a student and a future clinician but sometimes, she just gets over my nerves. I tried to understand everything from the psych perspective but still, I need more people to hear my voice so I feel better. I still have 2 1/2 more years of education journey to go. If you're reading this, pls advice me on how to stay happy in and out and how should I deal with her? Thanks and regards, immapsych_student

Klojo99 The weight of the world
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Hello lately I just feel like everything is crumbling around me I'm trying to be strong and hold on for those around me but I'm breaking and struggling so much, I act happy and I try so hard to be there for everyone but I've lost myself, I am so lone... View more

Hello lately I just feel like everything is crumbling around me I'm trying to be strong and hold on for those around me but I'm breaking and struggling so much, I act happy and I try so hard to be there for everyone but I've lost myself, I am so lonely and scared I just cry whenever I'm alone and I'm exhausted I don't want to keep doing this my body hurts and I'm tired all the time . I feel so alone and unloved , my own mother doesn't even like me so why would anyone else right ? I don't know what to do anymore I'm trying so hard to hang on but I'm loosing this battle against myself and I can't stop it !

Cassie1994 Break-up
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I have depression and have had it for about 7 months now. It's been hard on my girlfriend because I'm just so emotional all the time. Yesterday I couldn't stop crying and she told me she didn't love me anymore because of my depression and that she wa... View more

I have depression and have had it for about 7 months now. It's been hard on my girlfriend because I'm just so emotional all the time. Yesterday I couldn't stop crying and she told me she didn't love me anymore because of my depression and that she was moving back to her home 6 hours away from me. She's now gone but I'll be moving back to my family too tomorrow which is in the same town as hers. I don't know what to do because I'm still so in love with her. We'd been going out for almost 14 months. She keeps telling me I need to focus on getting myself better. I just need hope that we might get back together, we fell in love for a reason we can do it again right?