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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Kic My dad said he is disipointed in me
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I can't go see my family because I have lots of homework to do. My dad and sister both said they are disipointed in me and that has really hurt me

I can't go see my family because I have lots of homework to do. My dad and sister both said they are disipointed in me and that has really hurt me

ZivaNCIS Hey
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Hi I am Rachel.

Hi I am Rachel.

WhySoSirius Can't get to school
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I have depression and anxiety and i just can't get out of bed to go to school. Just the thought of going makes me physically sick and I am so drained. I do well in school so it's not really about my grades, I just don't really want to go and honestly... View more

I have depression and anxiety and i just can't get out of bed to go to school. Just the thought of going makes me physically sick and I am so drained. I do well in school so it's not really about my grades, I just don't really want to go and honestly my friends don't seem that indifferent with my always being away. One of my best friends doesn't really understand and says I'm really lucky and I shouldn't be sad because I have great friends. I know I do but crying and sleeping are the only things that make my pain go away. My mum is always trying to push me to go because my attendance is low, but I feel like that is just a number and it's not worth going to school because of that. Idk wat to do

Taylah_123 Hi
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Hey guys I'm Taylah

Hey guys I'm Taylah

georgiamolly Feeling sad and confused
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Hi, I am new here a few months ago I found out I have a b12 deficiency, I've had all treatment and it is much better now. During these last few month I have been feeling very sad and I am always down and tired... I am always crying about these though... View more

Hi, I am new here a few months ago I found out I have a b12 deficiency, I've had all treatment and it is much better now. During these last few month I have been feeling very sad and I am always down and tired... I am always crying about these thoughts I am having. i keep having these negative thoughts about my boyfriend, I always think 'what if I don't love him' 'do I love him' 'why am I thinking this' 'this is so wrong' these thoughts make me extremely upset where I can not stop cryiny. I love my boyfriend more than anything. I do not want too loose him or hurt him. I don't want to break up with him. but these scary thoughts are telling me different. I don't know what to do anymore I am sick of feeling this way all the time. Im so scared I keep thinking 'if I'm having these thoughts it must be true' but are these real thoughts? I hope not i honestly don't know what I would do without him, he has supported me through everything. I have no idea why I keep thinking these thoughts! It scares me so much. I can't handle this anymore it is ruining me inside! Why am I having these scary thoughts? Is this normal? I do nothing all day everyday, would this have an impact on my negative thoughts? Please help!

anxious97 help
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my life is basically crumbling apart in front of me... i live with my single mum and two younger siblings and our dad (who we no longer live with) has just told us that he is probably going to loose his job. my mum doesn't earn enough to support us, ... View more

my life is basically crumbling apart in front of me... i live with my single mum and two younger siblings and our dad (who we no longer live with) has just told us that he is probably going to loose his job. my mum doesn't earn enough to support us, so we rely on him. mums pay just covers our rent and we just get by as it is but without my dads income, we won't have anywhere to live and my brother and sister won't have a school to go to. im so lost. i don't know what to do. I'm trying to be strong for my mum but I'm dying inside. where do we go from here?

Some_guy Not sure what to do
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Hi all, I'm new to this thread I'm not really sure what I'm doing on this site but I thought it'd be a good place to vent. Recently I have been feeling overwhelmingly lonely and depressed. I have always been like this but recently it is too much. My ... View more

Hi all, I'm new to this thread I'm not really sure what I'm doing on this site but I thought it'd be a good place to vent. Recently I have been feeling overwhelmingly lonely and depressed. I have always been like this but recently it is too much. My whole life I had been alone. About a year ago I got out of a long term relationship. The relationship lasted 3 years. Before her, I just felt like I was just a broken person. I had no real friends after or during high school. I'd go weeks without talking to anyone or even leaving the house. I had no motivation or drive to do anything because I didn't think my life could be anything different. But anyway, once I met this girl and eventually got into this relationship. I thought everything would be better, and it was for a while but I was still broken. Eventually We moved into a house together.. But I had trouble getting my life together (finding work and getting my license) I was basically living off her.. I tried to do what I can. But I hated myself for what I did to her and what I couldn't bring myself to do. There is alot more to this but eventually I just got worse and she left me. I understand why she did, she had to. I don't hate her for it but It nearly killed me at the time. She was all I had. she really did love me, her family treated me like part of their own. we had this whole life planned out. We were kind of engaged and we even talked about having kids.. And I messed it up.. After it ended I hit rock bottom. I was suicidal but I couldn't do it. I felt weak because of It. I decided I needed to do something. It was either going to destroy me or change me. And it did change me. I put myself out there, got diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. Got help with that (medication and therapy) studied for a while, made some friends, even had a couple of other girlfriends. I got a job out of what I studied and am getting my license in a few weeks (after 6 years) But after all I had gone through, thinking I had gotten better. I now feel I am back where I started.. I have no friends. My family isn't a family. I sit around all day trying to waste time. And I don't know what to do? I don't know where to go from here. I don't think I will ever get over my depression but this loneliness, it's killing me. I'm really trying to meet new people but no matter what, nothing is changing. For the last few months my life has been nothing but me working and waiting for something more. I don't know what to do.

Alec29 I hate myself and feel very lonely and a burden on the people around me.
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Im not sure why im here tbh but i have always had very low self esteem i was bullied as a kid and sometimes still am, my father was and is emotionally abusive (physically a few times but not serious) and I have always never been good enough no matter... View more

Im not sure why im here tbh but i have always had very low self esteem i was bullied as a kid and sometimes still am, my father was and is emotionally abusive (physically a few times but not serious) and I have always never been good enough no matter what the circumstance, most of the time i hate myself im a burden to the people around me and i cant talk to my friends about issues because i feel like they dont care and only want me around for comedic relief i even feel like this when i go see the school therapist and my psychologist. I am always angry and stressed and i take it out on other around me and im a horrid person and everyone would be better off if I wasnt around them im a burden in every sense of the word and often think what is the point in living or doing anything, one day we will die and everything we have ever done, said or thought will cease to exist (im not suicidal). I went through a rough patch for a few months and got diagnosed with depression by my GP but it went away after a few months and the psychologist doesn't think im actually depressed, my depression comes and goes i'll be fine for a week or a month and then boom all of a sudden im depressed i hate myself even more and i cant stop crying and hating myself, this lasts from a few hours to days and it comes and goes sometimes it happens days in a row for a few hours and my physiologist wants me to try and be more positive and show myself compassion but i cant do it and i dont deserve it and iv tried but i have spent so long hating myself that i cant do anything about it i can try but its not going to work and i find all that i love myself and cheesy be positive stuff to be rubbish and I cant do it. For years everyones been telling me to be positive but i cant do it it just isnt me. I also have extra life stress and body issues after realising i might be transgender and am in the process of transitioning. I have also been having some symptoms that my doctor believes may be anxiety, im just sitting in class, or eating at home or at lunch at school or in my room and all of a sudden it feels like someone is choking me or has their hand tight around my throat i know logically i can breathe but it is unpleasant and everything up head,neck etc gets tight and uncomfortable and i sometimes feel nauseous and worried.I dont know what is going on and i dont like it. Sorry for the incoherent rant.

kyraroar its getting worse
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its worse than its ever been. the breath taken right out of me. constricted. stuck. lost.

its worse than its ever been. the breath taken right out of me. constricted. stuck. lost.

indiaink Debilitating intrusive thoughts about relationship, rOCD?
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Heyo, I'm a newbie and it's my first post. I've been in a relationship (LDR) with probably the most amazing guy imaginable for over a year and a half now, he's kind, loving, caring and so understanding. I think he looks quite great as well, and he's ... View more

Heyo, I'm a newbie and it's my first post. I've been in a relationship (LDR) with probably the most amazing guy imaginable for over a year and a half now, he's kind, loving, caring and so understanding. I think he looks quite great as well, and he's smart and funny. However, over the past month or so I have been having possibly the worst imaginable thoughts about leaving him, whether I truly love him, whether he is the one ect. He is my first serious relationship as well, and we plan on meeting in mid 2017. I've been seeing a counsellor at school (I'm in year 12) for about a year now due to suspected anxiety and depression, however I've been unable to receive diagnosis and treatment from a mental health practitioner due to me being uncomfortable talking about it with my parents. (I told my mum emotionally yesterday, and I'm probably going to see a psychologist after exams). The first time I can recall this happening would be during the holidays before my final term at school. So late September/ early October. I can't say there has been an extreme disagreement or argument that may have caused me to think this way. The thoughts are so painful, they make me doubt everything I have ever felt about him, and I feel like so guilty for doubting what we have. I absolutely love this guy and thinking about these horrid things is pushing me over the edge. I try rationalise my thoughts, but I usually meet a dead end, and they are corroding my happiness with him. Constantly picking at my head, making me question every single thing I feel when I am with him. If I am happy, I feel as though I am miss leading him, because I know of the havoc that goes on in my mind. I just want them to stop. They make me question whether I want to meet him, and if i might end up leaving him after we meet. I spoke to him about it, and he remained strong, but I know it hurts him to see me in such pain almost every day. Every waking second I can do nothing but think of 'what if I leave' or 'maybe I should end it' I love him dearly, and I want to stay with him forever. I tear up every time I think about the thoughts. Constantly making me question everything that was concrete in our relationship. Heck, it was the only thing I didn't worry about, and now my cruel mind cannot even give me the luxury of that. There are some moments of calm, moments where I can laugh with him, and see that it is going to be okay. But when the thoughts take over, it's like there is no end. Please help.