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Online School is Incredibly Isolating

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If anyone is ready this, Hi! My name is Ruby and I've been struggling with depression for many years now. (I've been diagnosed and a currently seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist yay!) Personally, my depression was brought on by an illness if been suf... View more

If anyone is ready this, Hi! My name is Ruby and I've been struggling with depression for many years now. (I've been diagnosed and a currently seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist yay!) Personally, my depression was brought on by an illness if been suffering from for 4 years of my life. It's is incredibly aggravating and despite numorous treatments nothing has improved my condition. As a result of this sickness I've finally dropped out of mainstream schooling and have started online schooling. But I'm losing all of my real/life friends along the way. Honeschooling is incredibly isolating. I think it would be nice to hear some opinions from people in a similar position to me, and maybe I won't feel so alone. thanks, Ruby x

Social phobia

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Im going to therapy to overcome my social phobia which ive had for 9 years. The psychologist is trying CBT with me but I feel the anxiety is too stubborn to get any effect with this.. I'm really tired of fighting it and having people react angrily to... View more

Im going to therapy to overcome my social phobia which ive had for 9 years. The psychologist is trying CBT with me but I feel the anxiety is too stubborn to get any effect with this.. I'm really tired of fighting it and having people react angrily to my problems...just wish it would end. Has anyone tried CBT??

Study Struggles

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I'm really struggling with rounding up any sort of motivation/focus to study. I have an assignment that I'm now on my second extension for, which is actually due today and I have yet to even start writing it let alone doing all the research for it. I... View more

I'm really struggling with rounding up any sort of motivation/focus to study. I have an assignment that I'm now on my second extension for, which is actually due today and I have yet to even start writing it let alone doing all the research for it. I'm too scared to get into contact with my tutor again because I'm ashamed at the lack of work I've done and I'm starting to considering leaving uni this semester again (which would be mean a tonne of extra paper work and a strong feeling of failure). I'm so disappointed in myself because despite all the stress uni causes me I truly love it and the subjects I have done/am doing, it gives me a sense of purpose and self improvement and I really enjoy it most of the time. Any tips/suggestions that anyone has would be great. Even if they seem obvious I'm hoping reading them might help me a little. (I have depression/anxiety if that is at all relevant to any advice. Also I'm not going to leave the house so please don't suggest anything involving going out anywhere, thank you!) ...and yes, this is definitely a form of procrastination.

performance anxiety regarding university

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Hello, I am currently in my last semester of university. I really love my degree and the area of study I am immersed in, however, as much as I love my degree I have been really struggling this semester to stay motivated and 'on-top' of assignments. I... View more

Hello, I am currently in my last semester of university. I really love my degree and the area of study I am immersed in, however, as much as I love my degree I have been really struggling this semester to stay motivated and 'on-top' of assignments. I have become really anxious when it comes to completing my assignments, which has resulted in numerous panic attacks. I always get the sense that what I am writing isn't good enough, and that I am not on track to answer the assignment's question. I don't really understand why I get so anxious, as throughout my degree I have achieved relatively good grades.The one assignment I have submitted so far this semester, I also received a good grade- despite my feelings of anxiety and stress. I think part of the reason as to why I feel so anxious is because I am a perfectionist when it comes to my assignments. It got so bad the other night that I was even contemplating dropping out of university all together. I think this 'giving up' attitude is driven by my anxiety,and not my own person. Because this is my last semester, I love what I am doing, and have worked very hard to get to the point of study that I am at today- I don't want to drop out, but I am really tired of the chatter in my head telling me that it is a plausible option and an easy way out. Has anybody else experienced similar feelings in regards to their studies or work? I am really tired of putting myself through this self-destructing cycle where I seem to beat myself up all the time. I keep telling myself not to place such an emphasis on study, as I don't need to get high grades all the time- but just pass. But for some reason, despite telling myself this, I can't seem to budge the negative though patterns and the pulsing, clamped feelings of anxiety. Any advice would be really appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Should I lessen my study load or not :/

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Hi! I'm currently studying part time at uni. I've been really struggling due to not being able to balance my study with personal problems. It got to a point where i wasn't eating well, sleeping well (staying up late to study, waking up early to go to... View more

Hi! I'm currently studying part time at uni. I've been really struggling due to not being able to balance my study with personal problems. It got to a point where i wasn't eating well, sleeping well (staying up late to study, waking up early to go to class, only getting average 4 hours sleep), just to try to get more study done. I've now fallen behind. I need help in deciding if I should reduce my study load for the sake of addressing my health problems (getting professional help for my stress and depression), or try to continue and balance everything. I'm worried that if I continue with my current study load, I'll stay in this bad pattern. But I'm also worried because if I reduce my study load, it affects my study plan. I will only be able to study one unit next semester and the semester afterwards, as I won't have completed the prerequisite for many units. I feel like a failure if I do that help please!

Struggle

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Hello, This is my first time posting here and would really appreciate some advice. I have suffered with mostly anxiety/OCD since I was 17, now I am 20 and things haven't really changed much. I think depression has now come into the picture. I left al... View more

Hello, This is my first time posting here and would really appreciate some advice. I have suffered with mostly anxiety/OCD since I was 17, now I am 20 and things haven't really changed much. I think depression has now come into the picture. I left all my friends from high school and really haven't made any new ones since. It's funny, the older I get, the harder I find it to interact with people and get to know someone. It has been rough these past few months also, as I came out to my family only a few mouths ago, so I'm finding this new transition difficult, as I kept it in for so long. I'm not the most confident person out there and the scary thing is, I feel fine being alone, cause its easier, but I am wasting my youth at the same time. My mind manipulates me, if that makes sense. I am a over thinker too, always analysing people, and also in my head, questioning things which is exhausting, that makes is hard to meet people. I'm not going to go into any more detail as its just too difficult to explain, even I can't understand it. Just venting I guess, thanks for taking the time to read.

i feel worthless

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Hey, i have just moved to a different school, house, lifestyle. im finding it very hard to get along with the people in my class no matter how hard i try, a girl told me if she was to run anyone in our class down it would be me. many of the kids have... View more

Hey, i have just moved to a different school, house, lifestyle. im finding it very hard to get along with the people in my class no matter how hard i try, a girl told me if she was to run anyone in our class down it would be me. many of the kids have also come up to me and just said i dont like you many people i our class dont like you. my friends from my old school barely talk to me anymore and if we are talking i have to start every coversation, it makes me feel like they dont actually want to talk. like im forcing them in a way. most nights i cry to my self because feel lonely, and i miss my friend condsering i only have like on actual friend at my new school and she barely comes so i have to hang out by myself at snack and lunch (in class i already sit by myself because i actually want to work) any one else feeling the same way?

Eating Disorder

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Hi, So I have been struggling with what I think is Bulimia for about 2.5 years now. Basically, it all started when my friend called me fat one day and I looked in the mirror and thought ''she's right". I was 75kg at the time, which was slightly above... View more

Hi, So I have been struggling with what I think is Bulimia for about 2.5 years now. Basically, it all started when my friend called me fat one day and I looked in the mirror and thought ''she's right". I was 75kg at the time, which was slightly above the recommended for my height (I'm 5'8'') I decided to change my life, I went on a diet and joined a gym, I seriously cared about the processed foods I was putting in my body before and how much they had damaged me. Anyways, I ended up dropping down to 55kg at my lowest, I was feeling myself! Like I thought I looked so hot, I still got fussy about things not looking nice on me sometimes but overall I was happy with myself and my life. Then my parents started to get worried because the weight was just not staying on at all, I kept losing kgs without trying. My period stopped, and my Mum says white hair stared growing on my arms but I honestly didn't even notice. Then I started my senior years of schooling. In Year 11 I put so much pressure on myself to study and do well, that in my spare time I would binge eat. When I started feeling sad about that, I wouldn't eat for the entire day the next day and go to the gym twice. It was slightly irregular then, but it progressively got worse. During Year 12, I would struggle to focus on my studies because I was so tired all the time, I never slept because I was so stressed and it just made me more likely to binge the next day. That's when I started throwing up. I would get in the shower after eating an insane amount of food (so much that it hurt), and then throw up until I couldn't anymore. That happened almost every night in the lead up to my HSC. When I finished school, it got even worse. I had my license so I would just go out to the local shops and buy every bit of junk food I could find. Then I would sit and eat it in my car by myself. Then I would come home some hours later, having lied to my parents about where I've been, and then hop in the shower. I am in first year university now, and I weigh 75 kg again. I keep trying to stop myself, I am in my own head all the time. I want to go and see someone about it but I'm scared. Mostly that I will fail at getting better, or that they won't be able to help me, or that my parents might find out about what I've done for the past year and a half. I constantly reject invitations from my friends to go out because I feel so terrible about myself. I don't want to be this way any more. I need help!

Destroying everything good around me

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I don't think I've ever posted here before or to anything like this before.. I feel like it's time to be honest about everything and really just get everything off my chest. I suffer from diagnosed depression and anxiety. At the moment the anxiety is... View more

I don't think I've ever posted here before or to anything like this before.. I feel like it's time to be honest about everything and really just get everything off my chest. I suffer from diagnosed depression and anxiety. At the moment the anxiety is a lot worse than the depression but that can change easily. Im 23 and I have 2 kids, one is 4 and one is 16 weeks. I have the most amazing partner. He's not the father of my eldest child but he treats him like he's his own. The biggest problem here is that I'm completely ruining our relationship. Yesterday he made the choice to move out for a little while cause he can't deal with my anger issues and the rest of it that comes with being with me. We're still together but he needs space which is completely understandable. When I reflect on my past actions I can really see why he'd need space. Im a very argumentative person, and when things aren't done my way it really irritates me and makes me really on edge. I feel like this stems from childhood. If I don't stop doing this my relationship will well and truly crumble. I have the worst anxiety. I was on antidepressants but stopped taking them. I'm not really sure why I stoped, but I did and I'm yet to start back on them. My partner is my best friend. And he's really my only friend. And that's another huge problem cause he feels like the pressure is all on him with everything. I know a need to socialise more but I just find it really hard. I did have a best friend but we just kept fighting all the time (much the same as me and my boyfriend) and now our friendship is over. I don't really talk to my family, so when it all comes down to it, I have no one except for him. I really can't admit to anyone that I have relationship problems. It makes me feel like I failed and specially cause it's me making the relationship fail. I feel very embarrassed. I feel like it's the social "norm" for the male to be he one making all the mistakes but in this case it's not and it's me who's always asking for forgiveness after stupidly going off at my partner for no reason. We're currently going through a very stressful chain of events which has also put a lot of pressure on our relationship and it just seems like life is a constant battle and we can't just have an easy run. I know I need help but I don't know where to start or what to do. I see a counsellor semi-regularly. I'd like to start seeing someone more often. I'm just unsure of how they're going to fix me.

Sleep patterns and nightmares

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I keep sleeping from 12-15 hours every night (waking up every 1-2 hours) and having multiple nightmares throughout the night. Also whenever I wake up I hallucinate (this isn't hypnagogic hallucinations, I hallucinate during the daytime too (i've been... View more

I keep sleeping from 12-15 hours every night (waking up every 1-2 hours) and having multiple nightmares throughout the night. Also whenever I wake up I hallucinate (this isn't hypnagogic hallucinations, I hallucinate during the daytime too (i've been diagnosed with schizophrenia)). This is making me dread going to sleep every night. I really don't know what to do. I used to never be able to sleep at night and sleep all through the day, and my medication even on a high dose only made me tired for like an hour and then id be wide awake again, but i got put onto an extended release version too and so now i can sleep through the night so thats an improvement, but yeah.. I'm just really frustrated. So if anyone has any suggestions on how to improve any of this id be very grateful

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