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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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Struggling

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Hi I don't really know where to start. I have always struggled with feelings or thoughts of how it would be better if I did commit suicide. But it always goes back to my sister I would hurt her. This past week I have been struggling I cannot get back for a special event due to border restrictions. I was seeing a guy who then just ghosted me. I turn 36 next month and all I want is to start a family. I feel like the hatred I have towards myself turns anyone away. I feel so sad but I can't express it and I feel trapped with these thoughts then getting louder. Distraction at night is not working resulting in me not having slept in days. Any advice or just people to tell me this will change is appreciated thanks

Can't win

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I get depressed if I can't get a job then once I have a job it causes me so much anxiety that I can barely eat or sleep. It's like I will never be happy no matter what I do. I got told off the other day for forgetting about an upcoming holiday that I've had booked for months ( I just started a new job) in my defence I'm 5 months pregnant and forget ALOT! now it's all I can think about, that I've done something so wrong that nothing I do will make my boss happy. I hate living this life, I feel bad for bringing a child into this shitty world.

I just need to vent

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I don’t really know what to do anymore and I just need to let it out. My mental health has been deteriorating lately to the point where I think about suicide everyday. I think I have BPD and ever since figuring that out I’ve basically just accepted that life will never be easy and I’ll probably end up alone. I just need to make it to Friday. It’s only 5 days and I booked an appointment with GP to ask to be prescribed anti depressants. I’m gonna try but making it to Friday seems impossible at this point

I am turing 30 soon

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When I was a teen, I promised myself that I would get far far away from my family and end my life at 30. Many years later, I managed to leave my family in China. I thought I had been cured since then. Over here, I have a loving husband and an 8 months old daughter. I thought I would never want to give up my life again. Now I am turning 30 soon, I can't stop thinking about my old plan. This time, I choose not to tell my husband as I don't want to drag him into the endless hopelessness I feel all the time. I start to think what if I didn't have a husband or a daughter. Then I'd be free to do what I want to do. I've been thinking of divorce but fear that he'd be too heart broken to look after our little one. I have thought of seeing my GP for this but don't have the courage yet. My daughter cried this morning when I dropped her off at the daycare. I know she needs me. I just wish I was never born in this world so I don't have any of these problems. Why am I so weak?

The thoughts are strong

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When is it ok to say you've tried enough? When is it ok to cave in? The thoughts don't ease up lately they just get stronger. I feel so torn on what to do anymore. I'm so worn out but my heart is torn. When is enough, enough? I don't know what to do ... View more

I’m new and need to share.

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Hey guys, I’m 20 years old and ever since I was 15 I’ve had medical issues. So bad that I’ve been in and out of hospital nearly every two months since them. They aren’t all linked and there’s a lot of them but I’m going to focus on the illness I have the most control over. My asthma. I was diagnosed two years ago and was told I’ve had it my whole life but as someone who did lots of good things for it in school it wasn’t an issue. If anyone else has asthma then you would know if your on the right preventer most of the time your gonna be fine. But I have had issues with the kind of attention you need to keep up with those things due to mental conditions that are still being diagnosed. So sometimes I miss it. If you’ve every been on every day medication and missed taking it one day doesn’t really make a difference a few do. But what happens if at that point I’m struggling so much and I feel like a waste of time and space. So why let myself get better if this is my mistake. But sometimes I feel like it’s cause I want to hurt cause everything is just so overwhelming that I go numb and I would do anything to find that pain again. This is the way in which I think I’ve come to self harm and even possibly be suicidal. But I don’t have any support either. My mum doesn’t deal with mental health and due to how often I’m in hospital she doesn’t really deal with the physical either. My dad id love to talk to but every time I freak out and hid his so mad and disappears that I know over wasted his time. My best friend in the whole world the only person I can be myself around. I no longer what to be around. I have a brother and sister who don’t talk to me. I just don’t see the point. They tell me to get better and move on but how can I do that when I know I’m gonna be in hospital again in a few months, away from work for a week all my sick days for the year gone in my first two months, showing me as unreliable. I am just so sick of falling down and now I feel like there’s no reason to get back up but my dog and that’s pretty sad right.

Depression, Anxiety and a whole new level of being unwell

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I am writing this as I suppose that I just need to get everything off my chest. I have been suffering from anxiety and depression for years now and it has somewhat been managed with medication, therapy and everything alternative you can think of. I have always been willing to try anything to be better and to be able to function. I feel like I am quite knowledgeable in the field too as I work in mental health. Lately I received the amazing news that I am pregnant... what a blessing. I am over the moon knowing that the body that I thought broken has been able to produce a little bubba. Pregnancy is going well apart from the constant morning/day/night sickness which seem to never end. With the pregnancy comes a huge hormonal change and I have not been coping with this at all. My mental health has deteriorated drastically with suicidal feelings, guilt and shame for feeling suicidal cause I have no intention of harming my baby. I feel so isolated and lonely as I am stuck with nowhere to go and no one to see in this lockdown. I have not been to work for weeks now which has now resulted in losing all my income and I have not received much support from work although I have disclosed my pregnancy and mental health struggles to my manager. I feel totally lost. I have sessions with my psychologist and talk to my GP who has advised me to go to hospital but this idea scares me so much as I wouldn't be allowed a support person in there with me. I am trying so hard to be strong but I have nothing left in me and I feel like all the tools that I have used in the past to cope are not relevant anymore. It has come to the point where I feed myself just to make sure my baby is fed, I stay hydrated just for the baby but I am insanely worried that my mental health will impact on my baby. Any help, guidance or words of support would mean a lot. Thank you

I'm sure it's just me

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I thought maybe first time it happened it was a mistake but today again it happened & this is like the fourth or fifth time in as many short months. I was meant to meet up with my counsellor today for a face to face but again she was a no show & still unable to get in contact with her. So it's gotta be me I'm sure not everyone can have this much bad luck with holding onto & being this accepting & forgiving of toxic people. I am feeling like an expert doormat. So I have over thought all afternoon it's gotta be me I am a burden a complete waste of space I have to be I must be invisible. And this isn't the first counsellor to ghost or ditch me so why the heck do I bother why should I keep trying when I am fully aware & I can see I am simply not worth anything. I am absolutely unworthy for this miserable existence. I never would've thought my mediocre tragic sad story would turn this many professionals away from me. They say they are here for me give me space are holding their hands out to support me yet again turning away from me moving the goal posts yet again taking their hand back ignoring & ghosting me. I am holding onto life by a sliver most days & days like today wished I had already gone. I hate me

To live is to die

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Hello, I am being sexually, physically and emotionally abused by the government of NSW and government of Australia, because of money. This has been ongoing all my life as I am related to many big names that are stars over in the USA and royal family members in England; who are Dr Dre, Lady Gaga and Justin Timberlake and who are; the English royal family Prince Henry and William as well as her majesty the Queen of England. They the government have opened bank accounts in my name since I was a young 1 month old baby and made promises to as they have said “Give me the money and I’ll give it to her”. They had never actually given me any money they stole away all the money for themselves and pooled the money into a giant coffer to support the Government of NSW and Australia. I am going through an exceptionally longer and tiresome court case with the world court at the moment and the government of NSW arguing over my remuneration and I no longer wish to live. They have abused me so very much and my life is now at a standstill whereby I wish to end my life. I can never imagine doing all the things they have done to another person and I no longer feel like my life is worth something nor do I feel valued by society as a whole. Nobody does anything to help me. Please help me. If some official is by chance reading this I need help.

I don’t feel real

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I used to care, about other people, about myself about being alive. But everything seems to slowly dissolve away from me. I’m a minor and I always just assumed that this would be the easy part of life, but it’s not is it? I wish I had a friend. I’m so lonely but I’m afraid too, if I had a friend I’d just inflict my depression on there, it’s like a virus, once you have it you just keep spreading it around too all the people you love. But I don’t anymore, I don’t love. What’s the point? Of all of this. Of my existence. Of living the best life you can because it’s the only one you have. I want to hide away from the world and sometimes I just want to be seen by someone. I often wonder if it’s all just a sick dream. Is it all real. I wish it wasn’t. I feel like in this past year I have lost everything that has ever ment something to me, family, love, happiness, gratitude and friends. I don’t think I want this all too be real. I know there are other people like me out there somewhere but I can’t help too feel so alone. I just want to talk to someone sometimes just about little things like their day, but why would anyone every talk to someone who doesn’t speak. My parents don’t understand. I know that’s such a typical teenage thing too say and I guess some how it is true. They know I’m not okay, but they think I’m better now then I was before and I don’t know how to tell them I’m not, they have no clue how to help me, I won’t speak, go on meds, or do anything really, and I think they think that if they get me nice little gifts like a shirt I like or something little then I’ll be happy and okay. And I know this sounds selfish like wealthy kid shit but sometimes I just wish they didn’t. I mean its sweet but it makes me feel like a dog or something. I feel so many feelings, too many, but sometimes nothing and maybe that’s worst, I’m not sure. I don’t think I want to feel, but I’m afraid that if I feel nothing all the time then I don’t really know, but it won’t be good, and everyone will be mad. I want to run away from my insides before their tear me apart and swallow me. I’m not really sure what I’m trying to get at here. I want help, I don’t know how to get any with my current situation. I’m lonely, I want friends, but I can’t have those. I’m not sure what to. I want to find reasons too live but I don’t know where to look. I really don’t know what to do.

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Struggling replies: 12

Can't win replies: 2

I just need to vent replies: 3

I am turing 30 soon replies: 4

The thoughts are strong replies: 50

I’m new and need to share. replies: 3

Depression, Anxiety and a whole new level of being unwell replies: 6

I'm sure it's just me replies: 3

To live is to die replies: 3

I don’t feel real replies: 2