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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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amamas light at the end of the tunnel?
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Does it exist? I feel like I've been walking for an eternity trying to find the end of this dark place and I'm beginning to wonder if there is an end. I'd love to hear from anyone that has made it out and managed to stay out. Thanks heaps

Does it exist? I feel like I've been walking for an eternity trying to find the end of this dark place and I'm beginning to wonder if there is an end. I'd love to hear from anyone that has made it out and managed to stay out. Thanks heaps

Helpme i don't feel like i can tell anyone i'm struggling
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i'm in year 11 at school and went through a really rough year in year 9 in which i now realise that i had depression. everyday on my way to school i would think about ending my life . however, i felt like i was a coward for being unable to actually d... View more

i'm in year 11 at school and went through a really rough year in year 9 in which i now realise that i had depression. everyday on my way to school i would think about ending my life . however, i felt like i was a coward for being unable to actually do it and for doubting if I would actually die. after struggling with these thoughts for over a year without talking to anyone or getting any help, i felt like i started to get better and become more happy with my life, but not back to the standard it was before it all happened. (it wasn't until that time that i realised i might have been suffering from depression or some sort of mental illness) over the past year i have continued to struggle with thoughts of hurting myself, but not to the extent as when it started, and i feel like i'm starting to get bad again. i want to get help but i don't know how. i attempted opening up to my brother and telling him i was struggling which felt really good, however in the following days he revealed to my parents that he was suffering from depression and went and got help immediately. since then my mum has made comments to me about how he 'did it to himself' and blames herself for it happening. now i don't feel like i can tell her because i don't want to cause her any more pain than she already feels about what has happened to my brother. i also don't want anyone's pity or sympathy. as soon as people reveal that they suffer from mental (or other) illnesses, they are viewed in a different light and treated as 'damaged'... i already feel self conscious about myself and people knowing these things about me i feel would cause me to hide away even more from the world. im 17 and too lazy or maybe too scared to go to the doctors by myself. i keep using the excuse that i don't have the time to go see a professional but i can''t keep up this act that i call my life anymore. i could crack beyond repair at any moment and i need to get help before it's too late... before i hurt myself for real and not just in my imagination. PLEASE: Help Me...

Followyourheartxoxo Can't stop crying for no reason
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Hi, I am new to this website although have heard a lot of good feedback about it's support network. For the last month or so I have had little motivation to do anything, paranoid, never really feel happy and seem to be crying so much over the smalles... View more

Hi, I am new to this website although have heard a lot of good feedback about it's support network. For the last month or so I have had little motivation to do anything, paranoid, never really feel happy and seem to be crying so much over the smallest things. However, I am still happily eating, sleeping normally and enjoying my music so I don't believe I have depression...but feel something needs to be done as I am starting to feel less and less myself. Interested in replying to this thread and not already a member of our forums? Join up here. RELATED THREADS I can't seem to stop crying and I don't know why Tired of my self-destructive nature Anxiety and over-thinking There's got to be a better way Why am I suffering so? I need to cry but I just cannot

Spinningwheel Totally lost feeling lonely but not alone
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Hi This is my very first post, and in fact my very first type of anyhthing on how im feeling. I'm 52, married with two grown up children. I feel I have reached a point whereby Ive forgotten how to be happy. I dont know why and if I did I suppose i'd ... View more

Hi This is my very first post, and in fact my very first type of anyhthing on how im feeling. I'm 52, married with two grown up children. I feel I have reached a point whereby Ive forgotten how to be happy. I dont know why and if I did I suppose i'd be able to fix it. I feel alone in my relationship yet im not alone. I know I have many things in my life I should be happy about yet Im not. Its getting to a point that Im just unhappy all the time. Im employed and have a good job and good income. Im even questionniing what sort of person I am. I've been a really good father and good husband. I dont even know if I know how to love people anymore, and all i seem to be doing is shutting the ones i need to care about further and further away. Each time my wife speaks to me about anything, be it finances, or children or anything, I interpret everything she is saying as "I'm not good enough" or Im a failure. I feel as though everyone expects more of me than what I can do, particularly financially. I really just want to be able to love my wife again, and my kids again. I dont know why I feel so miserable. I dont know why every little thing that goes wrong seems to be the biggest disaster in the world. I dont know how to just be happy again. Whilst financially we are Ok, I always feel that my wife expects more. I dont know if Im reading into things or not. When I can't provide more I start to feel as though Im being looked down upon. Im just lost and I hate feeling the way I do. I just want to be happy, I just want to feel loved not just have people say they love me. I dont want to feel like a failure. I really hate the way I feel and hate the way Im shutting people out of my life.

King_Geedorah Need some inspiration
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Hey all Ill give a little background about my situation. I am 28 years old and have smoked pot heavily since i was 15, a few years before that i had had an incident of some minor sexual abuse, during my years of smoking i was also taking many other d... View more

Hey all Ill give a little background about my situation. I am 28 years old and have smoked pot heavily since i was 15, a few years before that i had had an incident of some minor sexual abuse, during my years of smoking i was also taking many other drugs on the weekends but my 'go-to' drug of choice was pot. At around 16 i met a girl, she was a very good looking girl and at the time i was not interested in girls and just chilling with the boys and getting high, our relationship was a real rollercoaster, we knew how to push each others buttons and would end up in very toxic arguments. The relationship ended when i was 22 with her finding another guy and me getting extremly jealous and i threatened her over the phone, yet to me it was only words and it was an empty threat, i guess i was trying to make her feel some of the pain i was going through. She called the police and i spent a couple of nights in the cells, but this was the end of our relationship. I must add that the jealousy went both ways and it got too a point where i was not aloud to see my own friends even though i would give her all the freedom she wanted. After that i started to distance myself from my group of friends as i felt that they where on her side, more too the fact that i didnt want to explain myself to my friends and she would tell them how much of an a-hole i was (im guessing). I started smoking pot on my own at home and eventually seperated myself from my friends, i lost all motivation, my sleeping habits got extremely bad and my eating habits even worse. I have put on weight which was almost an impossible feat of strength when i was a kid due to my fast metabolism. Anyway, im sitting her with no job, no real friends, and guilt over my pass, i am not happy with myself at all. I have tried an antidepressant for a few months and it didnt seem to work. I guess i just need some tips to get out of this rut i have been in for so many years. Thanks

Jess-E Denial of depression
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In 2011 I had a severe health scare...almost died. in 2012 i lost my job of 6+ years to an awful accusation that could not be proved. There are times where i have the why me mind set and sometimes i am just bawling and curled up in a heap and sometim... View more

In 2011 I had a severe health scare...almost died. in 2012 i lost my job of 6+ years to an awful accusation that could not be proved. There are times where i have the why me mind set and sometimes i am just bawling and curled up in a heap and sometimes driving...which can be dangerous. I have being telling myself for a while that its healthy to get it out. But now its turning into a daily occurance, not yet in public or in front of family and friends but its there. I even get the sometimes feeling of if my nephew wasn't born when he was i might have done the unthinkable. But know i could never go through with it. (here comes the tears again). I have also have the dreaded insomnia. i am so damn tired, so tired. Am i just having a bit of a sook of have i got depression.

Lost69 The light at the end of the tunnel is grey.
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I'm a first timer here..... i am in a bad place at the moment. I have had one bout of depression four years ago and now feel like I am walking along that cliff edge again. Looking back over the last year I think a failed mediation with my ex husband ... View more

I'm a first timer here..... i am in a bad place at the moment. I have had one bout of depression four years ago and now feel like I am walking along that cliff edge again. Looking back over the last year I think a failed mediation with my ex husband has brought back all the feelings of worthlessness that I lived with whilst I was married. Now I find myself looking at the negatives in everything when I used to see the positives. There is a lot of uncertainty in my life right now. My partner (who is supportive, loving, kind and motivated) has been out of work for 14 weeks and although he is motivated and positive he will find work there don't seem to be any jobs in his field to apply for.We have big financial commitments and I am worrying about money. I am trying to downplay how I am feeling (I know - its the wrong thing to do:). as I need my partner to stay positive for his job searching. He is reassuring me that it all will be ok - my head is telling me that it all will be ok, but there is part of me that just doesn't believe it. i have been in counselling for over a year and am finally learning to face a pretty terrible childhood (which made me choose completely the wrong type of husband) I have so many wonderful things in my life I just don't seem to be able to rejoice in them. Lost69

Lilyn I am all of the things people warn you about becoming
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I , like MaryG, am new here. Reading her posts has given me some courage to write my own. I am 39 and if I am truly honest, I have been unwell most of my life. But I have become worse in the last few years- particularly the last few months. I am real... View more

I , like MaryG, am new here. Reading her posts has given me some courage to write my own. I am 39 and if I am truly honest, I have been unwell most of my life. But I have become worse in the last few years- particularly the last few months. I am really struggling to find reasons to keep going. I feel like I am a waste of a human being. I am not capable of having relationships of any kind- I have destroyed every relationship I have ever had- family, friends, partners. I am literally alone- I have no-one. I don’t have a single friend. I come from an extremely dysfunctional family and abandoning eachother is a common theme. It is not unusual to go years without speaking, or completely removing one from your life altogether. The minute something is a little off- they disappear. When I say I am alone, I really mean it. No one would notice if I was gone. If I went ahead and just ended it, I wouldn’t even be found as no one is looking for me anyway. The thoughts in my head are getting stronger and everything around me continually shows me that I am just not worth anything. People talk about how selfish suicide is and the devastation it leaves your family with. What if you don’t have any family? What if no one would care if you are here or not? What if you don’t have ANYONE that would be sad or sorry that you are gone? I think those that have known me in life would be relieved to hear that I am dead. I don’t have any support or love from anyone. I am not exaggerating. I am truly alone. What do you do if there are literally no reasons for you to go on? I don’t find joy or pleasure in anything. I am a failure at everything I do- especially the most important things like relationships and interactions with others. And the most ironic thing is I don’t even want to be around people. I just want to be in my own four walls and not come out ever again. There is no point to my life- I don’t have anything to live for. I do not understand why I am here on this earth. I hate who I am and everyone else does too. I don’t see or feel things the way other people do. I am all of the things people warn you about becoming- bitter, angry, alone, incapable of love or being loved, sad, untrustworthy, desperately lonely and completely self loathing. I just want to scream………..

vip The evil friend returns
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Hi everyone dont know if you all remember but i have posted 2 times about this 1 EX friend who has been evil and mean to me about my suicide event 3 yrs ago. Well she has approached 2 other ladies that i know well and really she doesnt and told them ... View more

Hi everyone dont know if you all remember but i have posted 2 times about this 1 EX friend who has been evil and mean to me about my suicide event 3 yrs ago. Well she has approached 2 other ladies that i know well and really she doesnt and told them what i did. One of them new so it was no shock but the other i didnt tell because im not as close with her. And you know what i dont have to tell everyone about this its my decision. Anyway the one that didnt know has disappeared from my life that quickly you think i bloody murdered someone . Anyway the evil friend has skeletons in her closet too because her husband has had an affair with her best friend and they work together. Hypocrit right how can you judge others when you have baggage too. This friend lost a stillborn child and has never had councelling so ONCE AGAIN thats why i always stress to see a psych when you have depression or cant cope. She is the one who told me why are you still alive and my daughter is not. Well i met this lady when i was depressed so definately was crap at picking crappy friends. I can tell you i have a lovely group of ladies now that i hang with and they all have issues and some of them know about me so i will just put all my posative energy there. Lets hope the evil friend shuts up soon its been 6 months since her disappearance and we live in the same suburb and i do see her but walk the other way when i do lucky only 1 person has given me grief hey . She clearly doesnt give a stuff about my feelings . This woman is clearly a loner and i wonder why ???? Anyway thats my last bitch for the moment . Thanks for reading.

Blue_guy I came to find out if I had depression.
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I googled 'depression' to find out if it was something I suffered from. Which brought me to this site. I have found a little comfort reading a couple of stories from others who have described pretty much what I go through. I have felt a sense of lone... View more

I googled 'depression' to find out if it was something I suffered from. Which brought me to this site. I have found a little comfort reading a couple of stories from others who have described pretty much what I go through. I have felt a sense of loneliness and hopelessness for years now and thought I would get over this in time. But to this day I have no interest in hanging out with friends. Most of the time I'm in my bedroom with the door closed alone with my thoughts. Music, movies and food as my only escape. I have a lot different talents and have not gone on to pursue any of them further because I lose interest. Sports, art, leadership all put on hold and fading with every day I let slip by. Like one of my coach's in the past put it. "Your got no ticker!" I help others a lot with their problems. Family, relationships, drugs etc. Yet none know I'm suffering inside myself. I have tried to explain somewhat only to see bewildered faces looking back at me. I love to laugh and have a great sense of humour but I feel hopeless inside when I'm alone which doesn't make me fake. Just don't know why I'm like this. In the past I have found comfort in writing poetry/music, also alcohol and drugs. I have slowed down on alcohol, only having the odd drink on occasions. Drugs (Marijuana). I haven't touched for 7 years. I've even tried the spiritual approach. Because I am a believer, but still come up short. I'm almost certain I have depression and through this site and the people who have shared their struggles I am now wanting to seek professional help. With the right help and taking it one day at a time I know we can enjoy a more brighter future. Thank you for reading.